Calling all Police Officer's Wives - Inspired by the Fireman's Wives thread

[kimisabella]

Any police officer's/law enforcement wives out there? My husband is a sergeant for the NYPD. He works weird hours, weekends, and is assigned to a not so great section of brooklyn. He was a police officer when I met him so I knew what I was getting myself into. I often have to go to parties, events, without him and usually stay up very late making sure he gets home every night. Anyone else out there share these experiences with me????

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I am a wife of a police officer. I am a "lucky" one. DH works day shift and has Saturday, Sunday and Monday off (seniority is a GOOD thing). He works at an airport, so his experience is different than a lot of other police officers. It also looks like he may be promoted to Sgt. in the very near future!

 

[tevagirl]

My DH is a corrections officer at one of our State prisons. He works 10pm to 6am. I take the phone to bed with me every night in case they need to reach me. My son and son-in-law are also officers.

 

[soccerchick]

I am a police officer's wife. I still have a few of those sleepless nights, but age and two small children have helped me sleep a little better. He works pretty regular hours, but has a lot of mandatory OT in May and October. His schedule now is pretty good because of the specialized unit he is in. No weekends (except May & Oct. when it's pretty much every weekend), and only four long days each week. We had many years though, when his "weekend" was Tues - Thurs. For the first three years of our marriage I pretty much continued to go out w/my girlfriends as I did before we got married. DH would meet us when he got off and he was our sober ride

 

[zagafi]

My hubby is also a cop. He's currently undercover on a federal task force.

 

[smiley]

Yep, my dh is a Lieutenant with the local police department and his current assinment is driving a desk . Although, he has had some fairly dangerous assignments throughout our marriage. Luckily, for both of us I'm not a worrier, so I haven't spent too many nights up fearful he wouldn't make it home.

My biggest worry now is that he will be retiring in about a year and a half and doesn't really have much of a plan for life after retirement. Once our son is off to college(in 3 years) we will probably move. But I don't think it would be healthy for my dh to sit around and do nothing for 3 years. He did tell me that he wants to take about 6 months off and that he would do all the chores during that time, including cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, the whole kit and kaboodle !!!! Believe me, when he fed me that little tidbit I was doing the happy dance Then I asked him to put it in writing

 

[becjlek]

DH is a deputy sheriff.

 

[cuterlt]

DH is a school police detective, so has a great schedule of Monday-Friday from 8am to 4pm in the office, with some on call duties and overtime, but not much really. He started out on grave yard shift, so I enjoy the detective shift... It's great because my hours are horrible, so he's somewhat of a house husband and does the majority of the housework. He's trying to get promoted to Sgt. so that may all change.
He came from LA, so this is a wonderful position for him after over a dozen years in such a big, crime ridden city.
I do worry with all the awful things that happen in schools these days. DH's department does not allow them to carry firearms during school hours, so if something were to happen, he would have to go through a bunch of hoops to be able to arm himself if needed. Thankfully, so far, it hasn't been needed.

 

[wildernessgirl]

My husband is also a police officer. He is a sgt in our local police force. He works 10pm to 8am with his days off changing every 28 days. He was a police officer when we met ( he actually pulled me over when we first met! I didn't get the ticket though.. )

I have had a few "scary" times with him working nights, but it has worked out, so far! The one time that really scared me was when I was prego with my 2nd child and my first was only 1yr old. I got a call around 1:30am from the dispatcher and the first thing she said was that "Garry wanted me to call you..." (I thought just to tell me that he was going to have to work overtime in the morning, BUT...) She then stated that He was hit by a drunk driver and was on the way to the hospital. My heart about stopped! I called my parents so I could get one of them to sit for the then baby so I could go to the hospital. Here what had happened was that he was at a red light (two blocks from our home) when this drunk woman just went full force into the back of his cruiser! He ended up with some neck and back pain that still bothers him today. That is a horrible feeling going into the hospital saying you were called because your husband was hit by a drunk driver and the ambalance is on the way up there with him in it and you don't have ANY idea what is wrong or HOW BAD he was hurt.

Another "cute" time was when he got promoted to sgt. and it was his first night as OIC and my water broke with my second child! So he had to leave his shift so get to the hospital! Luckily it happened at 4:30am and I didn't go up to the hospital until 6am so he got someone to come in for him and he actually took me up to the hospital.

What we wives go through!!! I have go to MANY parties, special events, etc alone because of his job. I guess that is something we must live with.

 

[GoofyPrincess]

My husband is a patrol officer and a member of the traffic crash reconstruction team. He works m-f 3:30pm - 11:30pm (unless there a crash!). I work 6am - 2:30pm so we don't have to use day care for our 4 year old twins, so we're pretty lucky!

 

[MickeysMommy]

GF of a cop here

 

[disneyfan551]

Add me to the team! My dh is a State Trooper for the NCSHP, and has been for about 13 yrs? His job drives me insane, only because he works days one week, switches to nights the next week, and so on. It gets really old. However, I am not a worrier, so no sleepless nights for me! He gets called out in the middle of the night all of the time, and I usually don't even hear him leave!

Maybe we need to start our own support group..."The Women Behind the Men Behind the Badge Sorority"!

 

[copper68]

my dh just got promoted to sgt a few months ago.. i always worry about him.. and the thing i hate most is, if i'm talking to him on the phone and he has to go on a call.. he always says "babe, i gotta go on a call.. i love you" and my reply is always the same "i love you too, please be careful".. i worry about him all the time.. but, he loves what he does.. and he is very good at what he does.. i'm very proud of him.. he works crazy schedules too.. he works a month of days and a month of nights 12 hour shifts.. i guess the reason we get a long so great is, i work 3 days a week 12 hour shifts on nights.. so, we understand each other..

 

[Miss Jasmine]

DH worked midnights right after we got married and moved into our new house. DH is not a night person. Those were some interesting times. LOL We made it through. I didn't really worry about him, in fact some Friday nights I would ride with him. I am strange. I did watch DH board a plane on which someone stated they had a bomb. That was a bit

 

[MickeysMommy]

.. and the thing i hate most is, if i'm talking to him on the phone and he has to go on a call.. he always says "babe, i gotta go on a call.. i love you" and my reply is always the same "i love you too, please be careful".. i worry about him all the time.. but, he loves what he does.. and he is very good at what he does.. i'm very proud of him..

Oh, me too except we call each other "Baby"...corny? It's just that it started out as a joke and now we sincerely do it to each other and if he calls me "Honey" it just doesn't sound right coming from him.

Sorry, completely O/T but I am always telling him to "Be Careful" and I know that he is careful, it's all the other crazies out there!

 

[kimisabella]

Wow - there's alot of us in the same crew, I know that we can all understand each other's situation, no matter where, or how our significant others are involved in law enforcement. Especially here in NY, the NYPD gets a bad rap and my husband is really a good guy ( unless you do something really bad!!!)

 

[wildernessgirl]

kimisabella, I totally agree about the "bad rap" thing! I'm sooooo tired of everyone talking about how bad the "cops" are BUT who is the first person they call when THEY NEED something??? I really think it is the toughest job out there because the police are the "bad guys" or at least that's what most people think. My husband always says that if his son or even any of his daughters wants to become a police officer, he would try and talk them out of it. It isn't because he doesn't love his job -actually he LOVES his job and does it very well. It is the respect or LACK OF IT that officers get.

OH....Is anyone else tired of the doughnut jokes? They tend to get pretty old or in doughnut talk... stale? ha ha

Disneyfan551, I think that's great idea...Maybe we need to start our own support group..."The Women Behind the Men Behind the Badge Sorority"!

 

[Miss Jasmine]

kimisabella, I totally agree about the "bad rap" thing! I'm sooooo tired of everyone talking about how bad the "cops" are BUT who is the first person they call when THEY NEED something??? I really think it is the toughest job out there because the police are the "bad guys" or at least that's what most people think. My husband always says that if his son or even any of his daughters wants to become a police officer, he would try and talk them out of it. It isn't because he doesn't love his job -actually he LOVES his job and does it very well. It is the respect or LACK OF IT that officers get.

OH....Is anyone else tired of the doughnut jokes? They tend to get pretty old or in doughnut talk... stale? ha ha

Disneyfan551, I think that's great idea...Maybe we need to start our own support group..."The Women Behind the Men Behind the Badge Sorority"!

Oh my goodness, my DH pretty much says the very same thing. It is not an easy job because people want to vilify you and then also expect you to be the big hero. As far as the donut jokes go, DH tells him he is a healthier cop and prefers bagels. ROFL.

 

[MickeysMommy]

I agree with all of you about how they get the "bad rap". It really bugs the guys here that the Fire Dept. (we have a professional fire dept here as well as volunteers) gets all the praise when they destroy someones house when they enter but the police officers are aren't thanked at all. Mind you, I am not picking on the Fire Dept. as I was married to a firefighter. But, I totally see the guys bad feelings.

 

[wildernessgirl]

. As far as the donut jokes go, DH tells him he is a healthier cop and prefers bagels. ROFL.

I'll have to tell my that one!!! Our guys use to go to the dunkin doughnuts for their coffee on the night shift, but now we have a BP station that is a 24 hour station so they don't have to hear all those jokes.