Call me Mr. Mom

[Bob Slydell]

Or don't, actually, I'd prefer not to get that for a nickname.

Let the travel schedule begin for DW!

She's gone Thursday and Friday this week and Monday and Tuesday next week. Then we go to Greece (no complaints on that one, since I get to go ). In November, she has at least one meeting out of town (Dallas, I believe) and another meeting in December (Orlando).

I'm tired just thinking about it (and DW's sick of even thinking about travelling.) Thankfully, most of these trips are only a day or two, so they're not so bad for me and the boys.

 

[snoopy]

Wow....good for you for being such a supportive husband. I have one like you, and from talking to my colleagues, your kind are pretty rare.

Are you still considering the SAHD thing?

 

[Bob Slydell]

Are you still considering the SAHD thing?

Not right now. DW needs to figure out if she even likes being a partner at this point. If she can't get the flexibility she wants (e.g. she's trying to have most Fridays off to spend with the boys) she might end up just doing this for a few years and then quitting. In the meantime, we're going to live off my salary (and my much, much better benefits) and sock away her income so we can retire early (we're thinking 50 right now).

 

[dvcfamily41801]

Wow, thats quite a schedule! Hope all her travels are safe and you get some R n R time together!

 

[snoopy]

Wow, now that would be awesome if she were to get the flexibility in combination with the partnership.

I was just thinking the other day how women who are mothers who also happen to be driven get shafted so much in corporate America. The situation here at work is a perfect example -- they have relocated everyone up to NJ because the VP decided he wants everyone at one location. Nevermind the hardship that causes for families. So much hardship that its really a great loss to the company since so many talented people can't make that level of commitment -- to choose your career over your family is not something most people are willing (or should be willing) to do.

Hope it works out exactly like you plan Bob. The new pic is absolutely precious, that oldest boy of yours sure does love the camera! And all the babies, including your sweet boy, are darling.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I was just thinking the other day how women who are mothers who also happen to be driven get shafted so much in corporate America. The situation here at work is a perfect example -- they have relocated everyone up to NJ because the VP decided he wants everyone at one location. Nevermind the hardship that causes for families. So much hardship that its really a great loss to the company since so many talented people can't make that level of commitment -- to choose your career over your family is not something most people are willing (or should be willing) to do.

Forcing people to uproot families is just so wrong. It shouldn't come down to a matter of having to make a decision like that.

Nicole's been offered opportunities to transfer to other groups in NYC and overseas. If it was the two of us, we would have probably gone for it, but not with the kids. She's said if they ever made her transfer, she'd just quit. Fortunately, we're in a position where she can do that if the need arose.

 

[Crankyshank]

Phew! It's exhausting just reading that. Hopefully she'll be able to scale her schedule back if it gets overwhelming.

 

[MsDisney23]

You are a Great Husband and Father! Wow your boys are just adorable! I am sure they are a full time job themselves. Good for you!

 

[Pam]

So - are you going to clean the boys by running the shop vac over them to get all the crumbs? And use the leaf blower to stick all the toys and clutter in the closets??

I remember the scene from Mr. Mom movie where the Dad greets his wife's boss and tries to come off all macho!

 

[Bumbles]

Hi Mr. Mom

 

[shep]

Keep up the good work

 

[monkeyboy]

DAYTIME poker games!!!!

 

[Bob Slydell]

DAYTIME poker games!!!!

Alas, I'll be like a SAHD, without the AH perks.

 

[QT Pooh]

I share your pain (well, without being a guy). I have a hubby that travels at least 50% of the time - I also only have two kids. It DOES get easier as the kids get older.

Good luck and keep up the great work! Your wife needs you...traveling may seem leisurely but it's really exhausting.

 

[Crankyshank]

Alas, I'll be like a SAHD, without the AH perks.

Au Pair?

 

[Bob Slydell]

Au Pair?

Good idea!! I should hire one (preferably an attractive one! )

 

[aunt2brant]

what does your wife do? I am begining my career and I would like a job that allowed me to travel since I am finishing up my MPA and I am not married, nor do I have children. I love to travel and what better way to do it than to get paid for it, right?

P.S., I have a Business Administration concentration, so I could use that if needed.

 

[Bob Slydell]

DW's a Public Accountant (auditor). She didn't do as much travelling previously, as all her clients were local for the most part. But she just made partner, so all but one of these trips are partner meetings.

If you're looking to travel and it's something you'd be interested in, look into management consulting (with a firm like Accenture). They're usually travelling Mon.-Thurs. every week.

 

[mt2]

You're a good man, Bob.

Good idea about the putting her salary away and living on yours. We did this before we had kids and we are doing fine. DH wants to reitre at 55.

I told him he could stay home for 2 months after retirement then he ( and a couple buddies) would be dropped off at Best Buy to get a part time job. they could play and drool all they wanted over the electronics. I wouldn't have to deal with the expense.

mt2