Buying love???

[minkydog]

Okay, but seriously...doesn't this strike anyone as a little odd? It would make me very uncomfortable! That's just TOO MUCH (in my opinion). Or am I just a big ole' fuddy-duddy???

Odd,yes! my radar is going off! She's gettng the bum's rush. I don't know, maybe he really is this rich. Maybe he just wants to have a good time with a willing woman. Or maybe he's very controlling. Most normal men don't buy a woman expensive clothing the first night they meet(isn't that kinda personal?) And i sure wouldn't be going out of the country with someone i just met!

Genuine rich guys don't need to flash their wealth in order to find a girlfriend. Good character is very attractive, with or without money.

 

[SDFgirl]

i dunno-i'de feel odd being given a surprise gift worth that much so early in dating, but to participate in the purchase (i mean she had to be there to try them on so she knew the price from the get go) sounds like both parties were in agreement with it.

No, they were sightseeing/shopping together. She tried on these jeans and loved them, but they were too expensive for her. So they moved on to the next store but he "accidentally" left his Starbucks at the jeans store. He went back to get his coffee and decided to buy the jeans too!

 

[Chipperdini]

My friend met a new guy this past Sunday. The first day they met, he bought her a $275 pair of jeans. He has since invited her to Spain, Africa, and Napa.

Does this seem insane to anyone else? Or do people really live like that? I met and dated my husband the old-fashioned way...one dinner and a movie at a time! A big splurge for us is buying new end tables!!

Having visions of Tony Randall in Pillow Talk...

1. I would never accept such an expensive gift unless I was very serious/practically engaged. I highly doubt I'd accept any gift if I'd just met someone/first date (excluding, perhaps, some reasonable beverage/meal/activity/etc. costs if on a date).

2. The only traveling I would do would be to run, run, run as fast as I can away from the fella.

 

[lindakmonty]

yeah, that is pretty odd... you better tell your friend to be careful. That is not normal!! I'm sure she's loving it now, but hope it doesn't come w/a big lesson to learn in the end.

 

[goofygirl]

They just met and he's buying her stuff and talking about trips??

RED FLAG! RED FLAG!



Where'd she meet this guy to begin with? Let me guess- the internet?

 

[VSL]

Sounds kinda fishy to me (or should that be smells kind of fishy to me?).

Either way, I would tell your friend to be v.careful.

 

[Disney Doll]

All kididng aside with regard to him having a brother, uncle and so on...yes, this is strange.

It could be one of many things. He could be so insecure that he thinks he has to "buy" her love. He could be very controlling and will very shortly start saying "well I did buy you those $275 jeans, so I would think you could (insert what he wants her to do that she doesn't want to do here)".

In any event...yes, my radar would be up and the robot would be waving his arms shouting "DANGER WILL ROBINSON".

 

[Taylor]

I had at least 3 offers to "buy love" several weeks ago when I went to Vegas for a conference.

 

[BoyLovesBuzz]

While caution in any new relationship is always prudent, the facts are there are many many people in the country where $275 for jeans is not that extragavent. Going to school in your own Kentucky, I knew a lot of people with a lot of "horse" or "tobacco" money, that would pull something like that.

As for the travel, it depends. Was it something like "Oh Barcelona is beautiful, we should go sometime." or "I'm holding 2 reservations out of JFK to Madrid for next Friday, whats your full name as it appears on your passport."

Would a $180 dinner and $200 theater tickets be any different?

 

[disneymom3]

Well, some depends on culturally where he is too. I had a boyfriend in college that three days after we met he wanted me to go on some exotic trip with him. His family was well off, he was from Greece and to him it was no big deal. He didn't buy me jeans, but he did buy me lots of other stuff and took me out to fancy meals all the time. And honestly, I didn't like him all that much. I was on the rebound from a long term relationship, I was moving out of state a month after I met him and it was fun while it lasted.

Obviously it pays to be wary, and I sure wouldn't GO on the trip with him, but maybe that is just his personality. Of course, maybe barkley is right and we'll see your friend on Dateline one of these days.

 

[gdulaney]

Years ago I met a really "nice" guy at a midnight movie. We exchanged numbers and the next weekend he met me and a group of friends for dinner and another movie.

At dinner, he gave me a really cute necklace that he said he bought because it made him think of me. Well, my grandmother sold AVON and it had an AVON imprint on the back...it was cute and since I knew it was from AVON, I knew it wasn't too expensive, so I accepted it. I was, however, a bit wary since most reps don't keep alot of stock...you have to order merchandise.

A few days later he called and we chatted for a bit and then we hung up... (and this will really tell ya'll how long ago it was), three-way calling was a pretty new feature and apparently his phone had it. He hadn't disconnected with my phone before calling a buddy. I heard a bit of the conversation before I got disgusted and hung up, but to put it in DIS-friendly language, he was pretty darn graphic about his plans for our first "date". There was no first date, nor did I ever see him again. YUK!

So, I'd say, just be careful.

Ginny

 

[Hercules10]

The guy must be nutz.
A stripper would be cheaper plus you get to see her goodies.

 

[preshi]

Okay, but seriously...doesn't this strike anyone as a little odd? It would make me very uncomfortable! That's just TOO MUCH (in my opinion). Or am I just a big ole' fuddy-duddy???

Ummm yeah big time. My good friend met a guy like this... he turned out to be a big time drug dealer! She was too naive to see it but I caught that right off the bat! I'd stay away personally!

 

[minkydog]

Well, some depends on culturally where he is too. I had a boyfriend in college that three days after we met he wanted me to go on some exotic trip with him. His family was well off, he was from Greece and to him it was no big deal. He didn't buy me jeans, but he did buy me lots of other stuff and took me out to fancy meals all the time. And honestly, I didn't like him all that much. I was on the rebound from a long term relationship, I was moving out of state a month after I met him and it was fun while it lasted.

yeah, I had a boyfriend back in the 70's like this, only he was Palestinian. He was pre-med which impressed a lot of the girls on campus(I'm a nurse; doctors don't impress me ) He wore a Speedo,flashed a lot of gold and cash, and decided that I should be his girlfriend. Okay We can have some fun. Then he wanted to be all possessive, demanding of my time and lying about his. But the thing that finally turned me off was when he started insisting that I go home with him to the Middle East, "for a month or so".

RUN AWAY!

There aren't enough jeans in the world

 

[Cool-Beans]

The amount doesn't matter. Gentlemen cannot give ladies clothing! On a first date, no less! And no lady would accept it.

Traveling with a man you just met????

 

[Cindy's Mom]

No, they were sightseeing/shopping together. She tried on these jeans and loved them, but they were too expensive for her. So they moved on to the next store but he "accidentally" left his Starbucks at the jeans store. He went back to get his coffee and decided to buy the jeans too!

I see nothing weird or wrong with it - I think its kinda neat actually. Maybe its just the Italian and the Italian neighborhood coming out in me....I was on a second date with a guy one time (we had kinda knew each other but no really) anyway on the first date I was using a Bic lighter for my cigarettes, on our second date I had a $700 gold lighter given to me - darn right I took it - he's no longer in the picture (20 years ago); but my lighter is BTW we dated for 3 years. There was nothing clandestine about him - some guys are just like that.

 

[Mermaid02]

If your friend is smart, she kept the receipt for those jeans and she's going to return them ASAP (for cash of course).

When I was 17 and worked in an ice cream shoppe a guy in his late 30's or early 40's asked me if I'd like to go to Jamaica with him for the weekend. I said, "I don't think my Mom will let me."

 

[dnoyes]

Maybe the guy just works hard and has extra money to spend.

Sorry, Just had to get one in for the other guys reading this ....... Not ALL of us are out to get you girls. I knew after five minutes that I would spend the rest of my life with my wife. It was a blind date too. 21 years ago

 

[Tiggeroo]

buying it sounds odd. Her accepting it sounds equally as odd. I would never be comfortable with a date doing that, not even a couple weeks into a relationship.