You have made a sweeping set of your own assumptions.
For some families, camping--even at a posh resort fully paid for, is a hardship of logistics.
And my family ENJOYS camping.
Also, OP did not mention anything in her OP about providing all equipment, so pointing out that lack of equipment would be a barrier is reasonable. A supposedly inexpensive camping trip for a family with no experience and no equipment can suddenly become a nightmare of costs as they navigate what does and doesn't work for a family. Camping in the pouring down rain when one is inexperienced and ill prepared is but one example.
And I don't know about you, but washing dishes while tent camping is not a convenient exercise. It is a little better at Fort Wilderness than setting up dish washing stations in the woods--but it is still not convenient.
I have camped while it was raining with a broken ankle, so I totally understand the suck it up buttercup mantra because I do it regularly.
But that is just a poor attitude to have for giving a gift to a family who may have never find camping before. And I would agree that if this is your attitude, then maybe you should refrain from gifts where you have zero consideration for the needs of the family receiving said gift. It is Scrooge with a twist. You can't afford it and I can so you will like to because I said so!
And just because someone has financial issue does not mean the you can bestow whatever you like upon them and expect them to be grateful for it. Poor doesn't equate to tolerating discomfort in the name of your charity so that you can feel good about yourself.
OP is quite generous and I would appreciate such a gift, but on the flip side--there are people for which camping is not practical, period. They don't like it, their kids don't like it. It is just how it is.
But yay you for your awesome love of camping.
Hah - my POINT is, the PP's on this board are making the FIRST assumption that just because they hate camping, this family is bound to hate it to, just because it is not the PP's idea of a "vacation".
*I* AM assuming that since the OP knows this family, and none of us do, that she must think that camping could possibly be on the family's list of "things we might consider doing even if it's not our first choice" if it means kids going to WDW. And, to me, is seems like a nice thing to do by the OP and I would hardly ASSUME that she is planning a bare-bones vacation for her poor friends so she can feel charitable. That's quite a statement you have made. Wow.
And, I do believe that I said in my first post - it is an OFFER of a vacation, the way the OP is designing it and what she can afford to give, that the parents are quite able to decline if they so choose. The UNGRATEFUL part comes in where PP's are literally saying they would cry in despair over the OFFER. REALLY???!!! That is so sad to ME. I would be touched by the OFFER, even if I didn't like it. "Crying with despair" wouldn't really factor in. I find it disconcerting that not everyone would at least think that is was a nice OFFER - poor or not poor. On MY flip-side, I think that anyone, poor or not, should at least understand that the OP is extending a GIFT not meant to promote discomfort, but as a nice gesture of friendship. If someone, poor or not, cannot find it in themselves to be grateful for that, well....then, I don't know what to say to them. In my world, one doesn't get to mandate the type of gift someone else wants to OFFER them. Different worlds have different people, I guess.
So, I guess where we all stand is either A. You get to be angry and despair over an offer of a gift, or B. You are not angry or despairing over a gift. I'll choose they way I would go, you choose your direction. And we are all... happy? Great!!!
(And, BTW - I hate camping with my kids. But if someone wanted to give it to me as a gift to WDW, I wouldn't "cry with despair'. I *would* suck it up and go- just for them. I agree whole-heartedly with you that not everyone would do this.)