Broodiness......

[Everything Eeyore]

First off, can I just say how interesting and helpful this thread has been to me on a personal level. It's been a real eye-opener to read people's views and stories on the subject of kids and parenthood. So much so that this thread has encouraged me to reply - and I don't post that much, and certainly not of such a personal nature but here goes...

I have never been broody or particularly maternal when it comes to kids. I don't dislike children, but I have never been one to want to hold the baby when someone brings their kids into work and that kinda stuff. Now, animals - well, that's a different matter! A bit like Elaine with her puppies, that's me! I adore animals

To my absolute shock, I found out just before Christmas that I was pregnant. As I write this, I still can't quite believe it. DH was just as shocked as I was but I think that he has accepted it now whereas I'm still coming round to the idea. I also thought that I was too old to have kids (I'm 39) but reading other people's posts has reassured me more about this. I'm hoping that once the little one arrives, I will feel different but at the moment, the whole pregnancy, antenatal thing, birth (the whole journey) feels me with dread. I've also been feeling unwell the last few weeks so I imagine that isn't helping my cause

Anyway, sorry to ramble on. I thought that by getting some of this angst of my chest that it may make me feel a little better. It is reassuring to know that not everyone starts off maternal or even bonds straight away with their kiddies. I feel very guilty for feeling this way but reading this thread has really helped me so thank you all

 

[Zeebs]

First off, can I just say how interesting and helpful this thread has been to me on a personal level. It's been a real eye-opener to read people's views and stories on the subject of kids and parenthood. So much so that this thread has encouraged me to reply - and I don't post that much, and certainly not of such a personal nature but here goes...

I have never been broody or particularly maternal when it comes to kids. I don't dislike children, but I have never been one to want to hold the baby when someone brings their kids into work and that kinda stuff. Now, animals - well, that's a different matter! A bit like Elaine with her puppies, that's me! I adore animals

To my absolute shock, I found out just before Christmas that I was pregnant. As I write this, I still can't quite believe it. DH was just as shocked as I was but I think that he has accepted it now whereas I'm still coming round to the idea. I also thought that I was too old to have kids (I'm 39) but reading other people's posts has reassured me more about this. I'm hoping that once the little one arrives, I will feel different but at the moment, the whole pregnancy, antenatal thing, birth (the whole journey) feels me with dread. I've also been feeling unwell the last few weeks so I imagine that isn't helping my cause

Anyway, sorry to ramble on. I thought that by getting some of this angst of my chest that it may make me feel a little better. It is reassuring to know that not everyone starts off maternal or even bonds straight away with their kiddies. I feel very guilty for feeling this way but reading this thread has really helped me so thank you all

you will do fine but you are right it is all very overwhelming and down right scary when you have no idea of what is happening.

My best piece of advice is to do a NCT course. The people you meet on there are life savers.

While you might have frieds with kids and that is great for advice and stuff there is just something great about being friends with people who are going through the same stuff exactly the same time as you.

When Seth my second was born, he came too fast for an epidural and he got stuck first his head and then his shoulders (he was a big baby though) I didn't want him near me for about an hour afterwards as he had hurt me so much, I was just so cross with him who would have thought I could be cross with a brand new baby. (he got good bonding time with his daddy while I continued to suck on the gas and air)

Good luck with everything it is all worth it in the end, some days you will be left wondering how you will get through and others you just spend it smiling all day.

Kirsten

 

[joolz1910]

First off, can I just say how interesting and helpful this thread has been to me on a personal level. It's been a real eye-opener to read people's views and stories on the subject of kids and parenthood. So much so that this thread has encouraged me to reply - and I don't post that much, and certainly not of such a personal nature but here goes...

I have never been broody or particularly maternal when it comes to kids. I don't dislike children, but I have never been one to want to hold the baby when someone brings their kids into work and that kinda stuff. Now, animals - well, that's a different matter! A bit like Elaine with her puppies, that's me! I adore animals

To my absolute shock, I found out just before Christmas that I was pregnant. As I write this, I still can't quite believe it. DH was just as shocked as I was but I think that he has accepted it now whereas I'm still coming round to the idea. I also thought that I was too old to have kids (I'm 39) but reading other people's posts has reassured me more about this. I'm hoping that once the little one arrives, I will feel different but at the moment, the whole pregnancy, antenatal thing, birth (the whole journey) feels me with dread. I've also been feeling unwell the last few weeks so I imagine that isn't helping my cause

Anyway, sorry to ramble on. I thought that by getting some of this angst of my chest that it may make me feel a little better. It is reassuring to know that not everyone starts off maternal or even bonds straight away with their kiddies. I feel very guilty for feeling this way but reading this thread has really helped me so thank you all

Being pregnant for the first time is downright scary. I had waited 10 years to have my first DD. We had planned the pregnancy and so the positive pregnancy test wasn't exactly a surprise, however, I burst into tears! And they weren't tears of joy! I was terrified. I realised that life had changed forever from that moment onwards. My poor DH didn't know what to say.

That was almost 11 years ago and I went on to have two more daughters. They are reason for living. I love them beyond words.

Congratulations and good luck with your pregnancy.

 

[natalielongstaff]

Ali what a great story, your little man is very lucky xx

everything eyeore, congratulations on your pegnancy xx

 

[PoppyAnna]

First off, can I just say how interesting and helpful this thread has been to me on a personal level. It's been a real eye-opener to read people's views and stories on the subject of kids and parenthood. So much so that this thread has encouraged me to reply - and I don't post that much, and certainly not of such a personal nature but here goes...

I have never been broody or particularly maternal when it comes to kids. I don't dislike children, but I have never been one to want to hold the baby when someone brings their kids into work and that kinda stuff. Now, animals - well, that's a different matter! A bit like Elaine with her puppies, that's me! I adore animals

To my absolute shock, I found out just before Christmas that I was pregnant. As I write this, I still can't quite believe it. DH was just as shocked as I was but I think that he has accepted it now whereas I'm still coming round to the idea. I also thought that I was too old to have kids (I'm 39) but reading other people's posts has reassured me more about this. I'm hoping that once the little one arrives, I will feel different but at the moment, the whole pregnancy, antenatal thing, birth (the whole journey) feels me with dread. I've also been feeling unwell the last few weeks so I imagine that isn't helping my cause

Anyway, sorry to ramble on. I thought that by getting some of this angst of my chest that it may make me feel a little better. It is reassuring to know that not everyone starts off maternal or even bonds straight away with their kiddies. I feel very guilty for feeling this way but reading this thread has really helped me so thank you all

Congratulations

Don't feel guilty about you feelings, a first pregnancy brings out so many emotions and I can confirm that I felt dread, fear, worry and many many more.
My first pregnancy wasn't at all planned, a total surprise. We spent many evenings wondering what it was going to be like after baby was born and felt to a degree that we could hardly looked after each other sometimes let alone a tiny dependant baby. I am an only child and so were my parents so I'd never grown up around nieces, nephews or cousins so I had never had contact with family babies. Even the evening we bought our DD home I was still filled with fear and a little dread.

Just take one day at a time and as it's likely you'll feel physically better soon this is bound to help