broken up w. in disney!

[foxysilver]

I'm more of a lurker here, but I just had an amizingly horrid expirience at WDW and I need to vent. I figure this is the correct place for me to post it as i am a lesbian and i dont know where else to put it.

My gf (ex gf?) and I went to WDW from 7/4 to 7/13. Just got back on Sunday. On our third day there my gf decided to tell me that she is breaking up w. me for a 17 y/o. I am 23 and she is 26. I think that might be an issue and perhaps illeagle as well.. and yeah, she is one semester away from getting her teaching deree , and what is she teaching you may ask? High School History of course. I do think that most of her students will be in the 17 age range. SICK! yeah I freaked out alot. i dont know what upset me more, getting broken up w. or her dating a 17 y/o. she says nothing happened betwen them but im no fool. she moved very fast w me and from what i know of her past (why do we always overlook the past??) she moved just as fast w. others.


to make it worse it was our anniversay trip. Our 2 year was on the 11th. So yes, happy anniversary to me. i paid for the whole fricking vacation, we stayed at the grand floridian, ate at ohana, brown derby, and rainforrest cafe. not cheap. last time i pay for someone elses vacation. going dutch next time.

Another high point was her telling me that she loved me but she wasnt in love with me, this came the day after she broke up with me. As if I hadnt been through enough, but I guess her not being in love with me was obvious, although I still threw a crying fit. Cried most of the time there & felt sorry for myself.

I was just so sad that I couldnt enjoy myself, and im sure her being there did not help matters much. The best part was the first two days before I knew & the last two days because I was sick & I thought more about being sick than I did about her breaking up with me.

Then she says she wants to work it out. Me being the pipe dreamer that I am agrees. As long as she stops talking to the girl. She agrees & then goes to get some breakfast at the counter service place (Gasparas Grill I belive). Well she was gone a really long time, like an hour. I didnt think it took that long to get some eggs and a waffle? Low & behold she was talking to the damn girl for an hour. At that point I addmitted my defeat.

For the rest of the vaca I tried to put it out of my mind but it really didnt work that well, however if i wasnt at disney i'm sure it would have been much worse.

What can I really do. If she dosent want to be with me than why should I want to be with her? The trust is now nonexistant, everytime she goes to work Im going to be paranoid. Before this I would have bet my life on her being true to me. She wants to work it out and i'm trying, but i find it hard to forgive and forget in this case. i'd been waiting for this trip for a long time & disney is my favorite place in the world & she shat on it for me.

Just wanted to share my nightmare WDW vacation w/ you all. I'm at the moment very drunk so sorry if its hard to read and loing winded.

 

[jlewisinsyr]

The best advice I can give, is to focus in on the fact that there can be no trust in this, and whether this is just a fling or not, her actions and style are unforgiveable. It's one thing to be stray and be remorseful and respectful, and a complete other to be arrogant and inconsiderate.

I would definately call it off, mark it up as a hard, hard lesson learned and maybe if possible go on a short weekend mini vacation by yourself or with just a friend (definately just a friend, no possibility type of thing) and just have some fun.

 

[VillainesSheri]

Thats just horrifying.
I've been to Disney with my ex gf, and she acted like a spoiled rotten brat kicking and screaming that she was 'hot' and 'uncomfortable', but I couldn't imagine her breaking up with me there, (and I came close to sending her home) (even though we did break up for some of the very same reasons that you got broken up with about a year later.)
I'd say it's time to move on. She obviously has lost your trust, and once that is gone - really, whats left?
You can still care about her and love her - but as far as the relationship, I'm not sure that can be repaired unless you can learn to trust her again.

There are plenty more fish in the sea.. everything works out in the end, I promise!!

 

[tomboy_m]

I had a similar thing happen years ago. I took my then GF on a trip to Florida.. west palm beach and then WDW. She broke up with me a few days before but we went anyway because it was paid for. It was not a healthy emotional place to be.. on vacation with someone who will obviously take the trip and then leave the person who paid for it. Looking back our break up was a good thing. I moved on and learned a lot. At the time it was very painful.

As for the young girl... that is disturbing as age boundaries really do matter in our society. If she lived where I lived she would be at risk of a long time in prison. I know a woman who started seeing someone who was under 18 and she had a long and expensive legal battle... she got off, but she was lucky.

You deserve more respect than you are being given. I wish you the best of luck with this.

 

[lindseywb]

wow, that's horrible, i'm sorry
i don't have any advice beyond what others above me have said - good luck

 

[LukenDC]

What a terrible vacation! It sounds like you are better off without her. Look at it this way: you will not have to endure the acrimony and humiliation when she is arrested for sleeping with underage girls and her face is spread all over the newspaper.

 

[kafitty]

OH. MY. GAWD.
that absolutely stinks!

and i know how tough it is to hear things like this, but methinks you're definitely better off without someone who clearly lacks any sense of decorum. Breaking up with you ON VACATION that YOU PAID FOR is, at best, extremely rude, and at worst, exceedingly selfish!!!
and i won't even go into the 17 year old thing...holy wow. Does that mean she'll see her classroom as a potential dating pool?? YIKES!!!

breakups suck the big one, i do hope you find someone who treats you much better!!

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

Absolutely heartbreaking...

 

[quietgirll]

omg...im so sorry!!

the fact that she would do this...AWFUL...the fact that she would let you spend thousands of dollars and go hundreds of miles from home to do it....downright cruel.

the pain you are going through right now, and will be going through for MANY MANY months is deep and unspeakable. i have been through a similar situation where an ex used me for money only to leave me for someone else and then try to pull me back into her web...stay away from her...do what you can to get away from her now.

its going to be hard, and youre going to want to go back. stay strong, and do everything you can to get over this. it will get better, and we are all here to support you...

 

[foxysilver]

Thank you everyone for your replies and advice, I really do appriciate it

I know I'm better off without her. It's very frightening that she's going for that age bracket, makes me consider home schooling my future offspring because Im sure she's not the only person like that. Seriously I never would have expected that from her. She's a little immature for 26 but I never saw this coming. I asked what about a 17 y/o is better than me but she didnt really have an answer.

Honestly if she's that type of person who would take advantage of a child like that than I don't want anything to do with her anyway.

Her underage muse can pay for her next vaca. They'll be staying in some flee infested motel most likley.

 

[tomboy_m]

atta girl foxysilver. I am glad that you can see that you will be better off. Keep up the positive attitude.

 

[foxysilver]

hey tomboy- i got your PM but I can't reply because I don't have enough posts. But thank you

 

[Joshua_me]

Oh, honey !

Two words: Move on.

I know that's easier said than done, but the fact that a) She'd even consider leaving you for a 17 year old, and b) that she's pick your vacation to announce it to you...

Oy.

Pick up the pieces and go home, I say. Better you find out now what kind of person she was.

You have my condolences.

 

[DVCajun]

((((hugs))))

 

[MouseketeerOvaHere]

I'm sorry that your trip was ruined and you are going through such a down time right now. Just know that you are FAR better off without a person like that in your life. Trust me, I've got you beat for crappy WDW trips and gf's. I went on a trip a few years back with brother, his girl, my girl and her sister, and my best friend. Brother and I ran to CVS to get some essentials, his girl was getting ready in their room, my girl's sisiter was in shower and you guessed it... my girl and my friend decide to make out while they have the room to themselves. This took place day 3 and we still had 3 more days to go. Talk about a "lovely" trip. I was ready to whip everyone's .... well you know.

So just know that you're not alone in this and have joy knowing that youre likely to see Chris Hanson and Dateline NBC interviewing your ex in the near future.

 

[foxysilver]

You win Mouseketeer That's much worse, and I offer my condolences.

I'm glad to know that I'm not alone in the horrible disney trip category, although no one should have to go through that!

In fact all people that are the cause bad disney trips should be banned and banished from WDW. When they scan their fingers at the turnstiles it should come up w/ "no admittance cheater" & they should be escorted off property.

 

[kafitty]

In fact all people that are the cause bad disney trips should be banned and banished from WDW. When they scan their fingers at the turnstiles it should come up w/ "no admittance cheater" & they should be escorted off property.

this scanner should also be able to detect immaturity, intolerance, and jacka$$es, for good measure.

 

[foxysilver]

this scanner should also be able to detect immaturity, intolerance, and jacka$$es, for good measure.

Yes! That would be a nice preventative measure to ensure no one elses trips are ruined! Only nice people would be allowed in

 

[MouseketeerOvaHere]

In fact all people that are the cause bad disney trips should be banned and banished from WDW. When they scan their fingers at the turnstiles it should come up w/ "no admittance cheater" & they should be escorted off property.

Yes, that would be perfect. We could have a Disney version of that show Cheaters that use to be on CW or WB or something like that. Film them being rejected by the mouse.

 

[foxysilver]

Yes, that would be perfect. We could have a Disney version of that show Cheaters that use to be on CW or WB or something like that. Film them being rejected by the mouse.

Yes, that's a great idea! and for some reason I'm picturing the Great Mouse Detective hosting, and the green army men from toy story escorting the undesirables off premisis.