Bridesmaids & Groomsmen??

[Pomlover2586]

Ok......so i've been thinking a lot lately about bridesmaids and groomsmen. Soon to be DF and I have a small group of friends and none of which we really want in our bridal party......My BFF can be really flakey and dramatic...knowing her she'd never show up to dress fittings/rehearsals....the wedding!. ...none of which I'll be needing. DBF only has 1 really good friend [more of a lil bro].....but due to family issues with this individual they wouldn't be too happy if he was a groomsman. Has anyone ever done a wedding where father walked bride down the isle but apart from that there were no attendents only guests?? I'm halfway tempted to just have all the people closest to me as simply guests......this will also save drama in deciding tux's and bridesmaids dresses for them........what do you all think?

 

[KellyJo18]

I think that having no attendants is more common than you think, especially with Disney's intimate weddings. There was recently a post about brides without bridesmaids and it had quite a few responses from brides who did not have anyone stand up with them. If it is what you prefer I would say go for it! Good luck!

 

[RangerPooh]

I don't think that there's anything wrong with it. I think that it makes the wedding feel more intimate. I know that when planning our wedding DH and I had many days were we wished that it had been just us or just 1 person on each side.

 

[PrincessLinds]

Lot's of people go without attendants. It really helps alleviate stress, because many bridesmaids and groomsmen, even though they're trying to be helpful, end up causing the bride a lot of frustration. The bottom line is, it's perfectly acceptable, and even though some people may ask you why you're going without attendents, it's your wedding, and you should do it in whatever way makes you the most comfortable.

 

[purplegirl247]

We didn't have any attendants. There just wasn't anyone in our lives at the time that we saw as being in our lives in ten years, you know? We have casual acquaintances but are each other's best friends. That sounds corny, doesn't it? *makes face*

Anyway, honestly, at the YC Gazebo, I'm not sure where the attendants would've stood!

 

[jasonandlisa]

We're having a custom wedding with about 100 guests but no bridesmaids/groomsmen. We asked DF's niece to be a flowergirl, but if she gets "camera shy" at the last moment (she's 3), then she won't even walk down the aisle. For us, it was just a matter of keeping thinks simple. I have several, very realiable girlfriends who would have been happy to attend (and 3 brothers for the other side!) But they're spread all over the country--the closest is 7 hours away. So... we just decided not to bother. You can do absolutely any combination of attendants you want. While there used to be some etiquette as to the "proper" numbers to have, depending on the size of your wedding, I don't think anybody cares about that anymore. Also, "destination weddings" definitely don't need to follow the "rules" for traditional weddings! (BTW, that's a great excuse for anything. For instance, if your BFF asks why you're not having her as MOH, you can just say that having a destination wedding adds so many complications that you just want to keep everything as simple as possible.)