Bridesmaid + Flower Girl Dresses - How do I approach this?

[MegKate]

First off I have the social graces of an ox sometimes. I have an odd feeling that this may be one of those times.

How do I say that this is the dress I want you to buy? I can't afford to buy the dress for them. I'm not picky about it. My MOH picked out the dress for her and my JR.Bm from the Alfred Angelo separates line. I am not opposed to them changing their mind as long as they stay in the sunshine color.

Complicating this situation is that my MOH lives in West Texas, my Jr.BM in New York and my FG in East Texas. So do I tell them where to go for the dresses?

How do I do this? TIA!

 

[Angela0917]

Hi Meg! I don't think this should be a problem. Most people who agree to be a bridesmaid know that they will be forking over the cash for a dress. I would just show her the dress you picked out and ask her if the price is in her price range. I didn't pay for any of my bridesmaid dresses. I just went shopping with my MOH/sister one day and we picked it out. Then I emailed my bridesmaids and asked what they thought... they all liked it so I told them to go ahead and order it whenever. Has she said anything to make you think that she thinks your paying for it?

 

[jspahn]

Hi Meg! I picked Alfred Angelo for my girls as well. I gave them the direction that they had to be satin and cocktail length, and that I got final approval. But otherwise they could pick thier own dress (which has a little control over the price).

My MOH is here in atlanta, the other girls are in OH, NY and TX. I told them all to go try on dresses at a store near them and once everyone had picked thier dress, *I* would order them all from one place - so the dresses were all in the same dye lot.

The shop where I bought my gown said they would give us a 15%discount on the girls dresses if we bought them there. So i will do that, and then ship the dresses to the girls when they come in. Then they can just go to a local place to have it altered.

As for money concerns - we had that too. We have DF's uncle as best man and his twin cousins in the bridal party - so 3 people in the same household having to spend extra! We called his aunt and asked if they could afford it before we asked any of them. Her response - I've got 8 months notice to save money, I'll make it work. Hopefully your girls will feel the same way!

 

[OceanGdss]

hey Meg

I picked Alfred Angelo seperates for my BMs. I just emailed a couple options and had them all agree on one style they all liked, and then we went up to the bridal salon for them to try it on and get measured. It was never a problem or question. I agree with the above poster, I think most BMs assume they will be buying their own dresses

 

[CinderelliT]

I agree with everyone else. I have always had to pay for my BM dresses, even the one that my SIL picked out that cost around $600!
If a bride can afford to pay for it, then I am all for it, but I have never been in that situation.

In my wedding, my flower girl's family didn't have a lot of money, so I gave them a swatch of fabric to match and they went out and got something that they could afford to match. It was perfect!

So maybe you can just talk to them about it and see what they want to do!

 

[Tink_Kel]

Sorry Meg, I'm a little short in that area too! But I wanted to say Hi. It sounds like you got some good advise though!

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

Usually bridesmaids know they are buying their dresses. If they assume otherwise than that is there fault...LOL . I picked out my MOH's dress and she paid for it.