Bridal Shower

[Trish5768]

Does anyone think that the bride planning her own bridal shower is in poor taste?

A friend of mine is doing exactly that, she said her attendants won't give her what she wants so she is planning it and making them foot the bill. (over $200 each x 8 of them) I am not in the wedding.

I told her I thought it was just awful that she was planning it at all and she really could not expect them to pay that much for a hall plus still have to get favors, gifts etc. not to mention the dresses, shoes. What do you think?

 

[Crankyshank]

Oh that is wicked tacky!

 

[TEENEE]

She sounds like a spoiled brat.

 

[Chattyaholic]

Over $1600 for a freakin' bridal shower?! Eee Gads!!

Sure glad I'm not one of her attendants!!!

And yes, what she's doing is in extremely poor taste!!!

 

[shep]

I'd be dropping outta the wedding...

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Originally posted by shep
I'd be dropping outta the wedding...

I agree!

 

[vald1977]

Sounds like a Bridezilla .

 

[RadioNate]

I'm in a wedding on saturday. while the bride didn't plan the shower the bridesmaid who did set the original budget of $1100.

The girls intown who would be attending the shower were asked for $250 each and the out of towns were asked for $25. I was considered intown since I was attending even though I live about 2 hours away.

Fortunately (or not depending on your PoV) many people couldn't attend and our cut was dropped to $75 each. I still thought that was a lot.

What happened to having coffee and cake at a friends house for a shower?

 

[kimwim8]

Is this totally out of character for her? And why don't the bridesmaids want to give her a shower? Maybe they knew that whatever they did, it wouldn't be good enough for her!

I don't think I would be friends with someone like that, let alone be in their wedding, and letting someone tell me how much I have to pay to throw their shower.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

She sounds too immature to even think about getting married in the first place.

Lori

 

[helenabear]

I think it is incredibly tacky and more so to make them all pay that much for a shower! Unless this is totally out of character for the person or something else strange was going on, I'd be dropping out in a heart beat.

 

[Trish5768]

Her sister (maid of honor) and bridesmaids wanted to throw a shower for her at her sisters home. She would not hear of it. Sister wanted to invite 30 people she wants 125.

I think its crazy, they have lived together for almost 4 years its not like she needs anything. I think the small shower would have been fine. I don't know maybe its just me.

 

[Aimeedyan]

Yes, extremely tacky.

If i was a BM, I would be turning in my resignation.

I had several GORGEOUS showers thrown for us, and I promise none of them costed even $100.

 

[GoodFairies]

125 people? That is a wedding, not a shower. She sounds like a greedy little witch, but this attitude is becoming all too common nowadays; it is evident on the other wedding threads around here. She needs some sense knocked into her. I hope her friends do not let her have her way.

 

[kadaten]

Originally posted by GoodFairies
125 people? That is a wedding, not a shower. She sounds like a greedy little witch, but this attitude is becoming all too common nowadays; it is evident on the other wedding threads around here. She needs some sense knocked into her. I hope her friends do not let her have her way.

UNBELIEVABLY TACKY!

And yes, I'd be dropping out of the wedding.

She's obviously not a friend worth having if she can't be grateful for the party her friends were going to throw her. To plan it herself and present them with a bill??? Ughh. Glad I don't know her!

 

[aprilgail2]

By the time you rent the restaurant and get the favors, decorations etc.. 200 each for the bridamaids for a bridal shower here seems about average...they usually invite every female that is going to the wedding to the shower. Some have both guys and girls now at bridal and baby showers...hey if we have to be tortured with going to them the guys should have to be too LOL!!!....I am sure my baby shower must have cost clost to $1000 to throw...the restaurant catering room, decorations, favors, cake, invites, postage, and there was about 50 people or so there. so 18.00 a head is 900 just for the food and drink without tip!
BUT>>>she is certainly WAY WAY out of line demanding that they pay for it while she arranges it, that is just TACKY TACKY TACKY!! I would drop right out of that wedding party!!

 

[alabamaalan]

Originally posted by Trish5768
Her sister (maid of honor) and bridesmaids wanted to throw a shower for her at her sisters home. She would not hear of it. Sister wanted to invite 30 people she wants 125.

I think its crazy, they have lived together for almost 4 years its not like she needs anything. I think the small shower would have been fine. I don't know maybe its just me.

Nope..not just you. It was tacky before, and knowing they have been living together for 4 years (and I do not care if I am the only man living in America that is still bothered by that) and still want a large gimmie shower is just beyond tacky.

 

[JessetheCowgirl]

YIKES!!! Yes that is tacky

 

[leighe]

After reading this and other wedding threads, I think that weddings and all the preliminary festivities have gotten WAY out of hand. I had a large, traditional wedding and a number of showers, teas, luncheons, parties, but I'm sure not one of them cost $1600. Nor would I have ever, ever suggested or set a budget for one of them! I was so grateful and excited about every thing that was done for us. My maid of honor and I went out of our way to make sure the bachelorette party (hotel suites, limo, dinner and a night on the town) was affordable for everyone.

One of my close friends turned into a complete bridezilla after she got engaged. She demanded that certain people host certain kinds of events, called caterers and changed menus without informing the hostess (resulting in a $500 increase in the price), and even picked out the gift that we bridesmaids were supposed to chip in for off of the registry. She also got mad at one of the bridesmaids because she did not send a gift to every shower. This is in addition to the almost $600 bridesmaid dresses. We also had to have our hair and nails done at a certain salon the day of the wedding (at our own expense, of course). She had picked out matching jewelry for us to get but by that point some of us put our foot down and had a "heart-to-heart" talk with her! Anyway, she's back to normal now, but it's still hard for me to want to spend time with her because I know that selfish behavior has got to still be there somewhere!

Sorry for the rant! I am just shocked at how many brides seem to be so rude and demanding.