Bridal Shower Gift & Wedding Gift

[jama]

If you go to a Bridal shower and give a gift are you supposed to also send a wedding gift? I attended a shower and gave an expensive George Foreman grill. We will be out of town so not attending the wedding. It is for a coworker of DH. Dh says wedding gift is seperate from shower gift. I say one gift is enough! I have never given 2 gifts nor did I recieve 2 from the same person. What does eveyone else do?

 

[Lizzy2]

I did recieve a gift for each when I was a bride but mostly from family who were just spoiling me! So fun! BUT in this instance if you are not actually attending the wedding you are not obligated to send a gift for it. It is wedding attendance that mandates a gift not the invitation that mandates the gift. Check Emily Post, I swear. So, as you have already attended a shower and given a lovely gift for that you are off the hook. Enjoy your weekend away!

 

[TurboKitty]

If you were attending the wedding, I'd suggest a modest gift. Since you are not attending the wedding, a card wishing the new couple well is enough.

 

[beck0321]

Hey! A lot of my own family members did this. They bought me an expensive gift for my shower and didn't bring a gift to the wedding. I wasn't offended in the least, and that was my family. So I wouldn't worry about it, unless you want buy two small gifts to give at each. Plus I don't think getting married is all about what you get and who gave you what. I was excited I got gifts but I was more excited about the wedding and honeymoon.

 

[GJM]

I have always given a shower gift and then at the wedding would normally give a card with money. If I wasn't attending the wedding I would still send a card with a modest amount.

 

[LoraJ]

Where I live, you buy a gift off of the registry for the shower, and then give money for the wedding.

 

[disykat]

Where I live, it is generally a seperate shower gift and wedding gift. However, people generally spend less on both gifts. If you gave an expensive gift at the shower, it makes sense to me just to give one gift - whether you attend the wedding or not.

 

[Princess89]

Where I live, you buy a gift off of the registry for the shower, and then give money for the wedding.

Same here, but you are not attending the wedding, so therefore, you don't HAVE to send a gift for the wedding. Not everyone that attended my shower came to the wedding. Those that were close to me sent me a modest gift, and those that were co-workers or not so close didn't send anything but extend a congratulations my way..which is also fine by me.

 

[Beth76]

In your case, I would not give a wedding gift since you're not attending the wedding. I would if it were a good friend though, but I'm assumming your husband's co-worker is not a good friend.

 

[lulugirl]

If you were attending the wedding, I'd suggest a modest gift. Since you are not attending the wedding, a card wishing the new couple well is enough.

I agree.

 

[CJBaby]

I send a gift for the shower and money for the wedding, whether or not I attend. If I'm not attending, it's usually not a person close to me so I send less than I would if I were going. Actually, I feel that if you were invited to the shower, you might be closer than you think because not everyone from the wedding is invited to the shower.

Either way, it sounds like your DH feels like you should send a wedding gift, so I would err on the side of not having him uncomfortable at work.

 

[Hannathy]

I also considered them 2 different occasions the shower more for the bride and the wedding for the couple so I always give 2 gifts. If I am not going to the wedding it is usually because I'm not that close like a coworker and if I'm not going probably wouldn't send a gift. But like someone said if your husband feels he should then I would. Some work environments are funny and he may feel like there would be tension if he didn't.