Blocking Texts

[wenmc]

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[cruisnfamily]

As a parent of a 13 year girl, I'm thinking about blocking texts from her ex-boyfriend. I don't want to say he's completely harrassing her but sends things to her that make her feel terrible since they broke up two weeks ago. They will be OK for a couple days, then it's back to arguing. They don't go to the same school and were together for 9 months. She is a sweet kid and broke up with him because he would spend the night with "friends" that were girls. (Yes, parents allowed this!) Should I stay out of it or would you block?

Can you block just him? I was under the impression it was block all texts or block none...unless you're paying a monthly fee for some kind of parental controls.

I'm amazed that a 13 year old girl had a 9 month relationship, that's pretty serious for that age and kind of unusual.


Anyway, in answer to your question, I'm all about avoiding things that ramp up the teen drama so yes, if it was in my power to do so, I would block him. I would tell my dd I was doing so but I would not let her change my decision.

This is my opinion coming from a mom of a dd18 who did not allow texting AT ALL during the school year until just about 1 month ago. DD is now 18 1/2 years old and high school senior and she is finally texting.

 

[scrapquitler]

As a parent of a 13 year girl, I'm thinking about blocking texts from her ex-boyfriend. I don't want to say he's completely harrassing her but sends things to her that make her feel terrible since they broke up two weeks ago. They will be OK for a couple days, then it's back to arguing. They don't go to the same school and were together for 9 months. She is a sweet kid and broke up with him because he would spend the night with "friends" that were girls. (Yes, parents allowed this!) Should I stay out of it or would you block?

If your carrier allows you to block texts from only his number, I don't see a reason not to do it. But he might start borrowing someone else's phone to text her.

I'd be talking to my daughter about just deleting his texts without reading them.

 

[Acklander]

I can understand your wanting to block him, and think it's a good idea, but keep in mind that when entering the world of dating as a teenager, part of that is learning HOW to end a relationship. It's a growing point. The only reason why I mention this, is i see so many girls who send mixed messages because they're uncomfortable with confrontation or don't want to hurt someone's feelings. Has she told the ex boyfriend that she wants no more contact with him and refused to answer his texts? Or is she responding in a wishy washy way that leads him to think that he might have a chance to make up with her and therefore he's still arguing the point?
If she's been firm, yet he's still texting her and ignoring her stated wishes on this, then I would resort to blocking the texts and also mention to someone (maybe his parents???) what's been going on. To continually text a girl, after she has said that she wants no future contact with him seems a bit controlling and he might have issues that could grow to bigger problems.