birthdays

[whtyger97]

i'm in a pouty mood becase *gasp* i'd like to celebrate my birthday on my birthday

Ya, i'm the *spoiled brat* according to my dh for desireing to spend time with him on my birthday

To be fair to him, he's in grad school and my birthday falls on finals week (like it always does) but right now the ONLY thing he'll have to do that week is a take home test, IF he gets that.
I'm so sick of never being able to do anything on any holiday because of school, but now that we MIGHT be able to do something he won't do anything because he might have a test he could schedule his time around and i'm the spoiled brat?!?

 

[RoutemanDan]

Not to be mean in any way, but,Grow up.

 

[mowsie dreamer]

I can sympathize. My B-Day is on Dec 23, so any special birthday plans are usually for after Christmas. Although, by that time we are usually low on funds, so my b-day celebrations tend to be fairly modest. Usually we just go out to dinner or something.

I'll send some PD your way, in hopes that something will work out for you.

 

[whtyger97]

i was really upset when i posted that and yes its a bit childish, but so can be said for going to disney every year or a million other things. It was just something that was important to me, it doesn't have to be important to you.

btw, when i said celebrate, i mean go out to dinner/maybe a movie.

 

[katerkat]

I understand.... Our dating anniversary (18 months, the one I knew we were getting engaged on) fell during his finals and the week my thesis was due. We had to put it off for two weeks. Then it was like, woohoo, it's our 18-month-2-weeks-and four-days anniversary! I did get that ring, but darn it, why did I have to wait for it?? Then we never did get around to celebrating our 2-year dating because it was election day and I was busy two hours north of where he was.
NOW, it's coming up on our wonderful 1 year wedding anniversary. And guess what else? Yup, that's the weekend he completes his first half of training and "track selects" his next plane. (either bombers/fighters or cargo/tankers) Yeah, and it's a HUGE party weekend for him and his class. Especially since the guys who are going to helis are leaving the class, and so are several of the Guard guys in his class. So it's going to be drinking and celebrating for them... And not the wonderful romantic anniversary weekend for us.
I know you know grad school is important. Maybe you can calmly discuss this with him? Just that you'd really like to do a nice romantic dinner on your birthday, and maybe, if he has time, see a movie. Don't be pouty with him, just explain that you'd *really* like to do this. And that it's important to you. (Honestly, I can't see how one test can keep him from A dinner -- unless it's due the very next morning??)

 

[JC2]

I voted "the closest possible day".

We often don't get to celebrate occasions such as birthdays on "the day of" because of various things - usually either my husband has to work late or I have studying/homework to do for school. We just celebrate when we can and make the most of it. We've learned to give each other mutual respect and be very understanding. And when we do get to celebrate on the day of the actual occasion, it's a nice surprise.

Understanding and supporting one another goes a long way and speaks volumes.

I hope your birthday is a good one.

 

[robinb]

It sounds like your BF is like my DH. He makes his priorities and they are different than yours. Now it's Grad school, next it will be work. I would advise you to get used to not celebrating your birthday the way you want to since it's not as important to him as it is to you.

I remember one birthday my DH said he was coming home "early" to take me out to dinner. At 8:00 pm I called a friend and took myself out to dinner. I was mad and hurt. Now, I don't sweat it. My birthday is tomorrow and I have nothing planned, nor do I expect my DH to do a darn thing ... not even a present or a card. I'll probably wrangle a dinner out of him on Friday or Saturday if I can get a sitter. The good news for me is that my DH is actually home on my birthday as he was out of the country last year. In my DH's defense, his family never celebrated birthdays or Hanukkah or Valentine's Day other events where one would expect to get a present from your SO. The whole birthday/holiday thing is much better now that I don't expect something he is unable or unwilling to give me. When he does come up with a present or a card it's a pleasant surprise!

So ... I would tell you not to sweat it and enjoy the day yourself. You don't need anyone else to make you happy.

 

[Princess Michelle]

I like to celebrate on the actual day, even when it lands on Thanksgiving but sometimes it just doesn't work out that way. Just as long as I get to celebrate some time in the general vacinity of my birthday I'm happy.

 

[Steve H.]

At this point in my life, I really could care less to celebrate my birthday.

 

[Bichon Barb]

My birthday was yesterday--a Tuesday-- . On a scale from 1 to 10, it was a 3. Maybe I'm too much of a martyr. I tell my family not to make a fuss, and they sure as he!! don't!

I think I need to recelebrate this weekend.

 

[Micca]

Cheer up, school doesn't last forever I like to celebrate on the weekend closest to my b'day(although I don't exactly go out and tear it up just because I'm a year older).

 

[skuttle]

Usually the closest day possible. It doesn't matter too much the exact day. For Valentine's day this year we celebrated on the Wednesday before to avoid the weekend crowds.

 

[AirForceRocks]

It doesn't matter to me when (or if) we celebrate my birthday.

How my DH treats me on a day to day basis - the love and respect he shows me everyday in so many different ways, the little things that he does without me asking, etc. - those are the things that are important to me.

Everything else is just gravy.

 

[4greatboys]

I do like to celebrate my birthday, however with 4 kids (2 in school) and a dh that usually gets home late we normally do the dinner out thing on the weekend. My dh would go out on the actual day if thats what i wanted but sometimes it just doesnt fit into our schedule. However if it was completely overlooked I would not be happy (so far that hasnt happened).

 

[Grog]

I've never really been into B-Days. To me it's just another day. I've actually forgotten my B-Day on a couple of occassions until someone has called to remind me. I even forgot my tenth B-Day because I was at Summer Camp and having too much fun(how many kids can say that?). I will however celebrate WITH people who are celebrating their B-Day as I know it is more important to some people

 

[CamColt]

I like to celebrate the weekend closest to my birthday because that means we can get a babysitter and go out alone. And by "celebrate" I just mean a quiet dinner at one of my favorite restuarants. I dont go out looking for attention or announcing its my birthday.
However, this year I will celebrate on the actual day since we will be in WDW on then. I do feel bad for DS though. We will miss his birthday in WDW by 3 days.

 

[Sharby]

Now if birthdays are important to you - here's a nice solution for birthdays (I'm not taking credit for this - it's just something that we do and it works fine).

Some years you have to have 2 - Your "Celebration" birthday and your "Actual" birthday.

Celebration birthday: If you can't celebrate the day of your birthday - celebrate as close to - but definitely before (not after) your birthday. Make sure you designate - and tell loved ones that this is the day you are celebrating your birthday. Actual Birthday On your actual birthday - just enjoy the day knowing it's your birthday. If possible, mark the actual date of your birthday by having birthday cake for dessert for dinner with your loved ones. At midnight on this day - your birthday is over.

Actual Birthday If you have a birthday very near or on another occasion that's celebrated - for example - Christmas - mark the actual date of your birthday by having birthday cake for dessert for dinner with your loved ones. At midnight - your birthday is over. Celebration Birthday However, if you're smart - you've already celebrated your birthday - maybe 1 month month previously - i.e. - if your birthday is December 25th - you can celebrate on November 25th (or as close as possible before - see previous paragraph).

In both of the above examples - you get a full celebratory birthday plus a quiet day sharing birthday cake with your loved ones.

 

[Blondie]

On the actual day. It wouldn't be the same any other way.

 

[MAC3]

I'm one of those people that believe Everyone should have a cake on their birthday. Even if you hate cake, you should be able to have a birthday wish.

Stupid I know but I do it every year. Last year my daughter had 3 cakes. She celebrated with my family one day, dh's family the other. But on the day of her birthday I made sure there was a cake there.

 

[imgoingtodisney]

this year I will be celebrating my 46th birthday on the ACTUAL day onboard the Disney Magic while floating on the sea with my tropical drink