birthday parties and relitives.

[Narnia]

I'm invited to my nephews b-party and only a few of my kids were invited. First of all only 2 of my kids where invited out of 5 . It wouldn't be an issue but my niece is the same age as my son who isn't going and would get upset( they both are 7) so sould I crash the party with him anyways. My relitives forget about my kids ( on purpose)at birthdays even if they are reminded about them. I have never forgot about any of my nieces or nephews. So my issue is when it comes time for gifts to be opened and my kids didn't get anything for thier birthdays from thier aunts how do I deal with this. They didn't even call! Oddly enough I think I'm going to be hurt more then the kids.

 

[Disneyluvr]

How in the world do they only remember 2 of your 5 kids? That is just rude, imho. We always invite ALL of the cousins to a b-day party , regardless of the ages, they may be the only 12 yr old with all 5 yrs olds or vice versa, but it is tacky and rude to leave out family.

 

[LadyShea]

I wouldn't attend a family function that didn't include all of my kids. In fact, I probably wouldn't speak at all to family members who routinely forgot my kids.

 

[mjkacmom]

Is it a same sex party? Is it a friends party, and not a family party? And why would your kids be opening up gifts there?

 

[jellybeans0607]

I'm sorry, i'm a bit confused. you're relatives come to your childrens parties and don't bring them gifts? or they don't come, but don't send a gift. There's a big! difference!

And, yeah I don't quite understand why they would invite 2 of 5 kids? Maybe like someone else said it is a same sex confused3

 

[Narnia]

The party is for both family and a few friends. It's a mixed sex party. My kids wouldn't be opening gifts but two of my kids have birthdays really close to my nephew and will remember that they didn't get any gifts on thier birthdays from thier relitives(at 6 and 7 you remember). If we don't throw a party they don't even get a phone call (we live in the same small city! ).

 

[jellybeans0607]

The party is for both family and a few friends. It's a mixed sex party. My kids wouldn't be opening gifts but two of my kids have birthdays really close to my nephew and will remember that they didn't get any gifts on thier birthdays from thier relitives(at 6 and 7 you remember). If we don't throw a party they don't even get a phone call (we live in the same small city! ).

If it were me, I would just give a call and ask why the other kids weren't invited. Or I just wouldn't attend.

On another note, I don't call my neices or nephews on their birthdays. If they have a party we go, if not, we don't send a gift. Same goes for my childrens aunts and uncles.

 

[The Disney Bunch]

If all of my kids were not invited to a party I would either call & find out or not attend. Your kids are your family, and it sounds like they are of a young age so there is not excuse for the entire family not to be invited. If you attend with only those kids who were invited, what message are you sending those who were not invited? that they are not really part of your family? it just is wrong.

 

[holly7347]

I just wouldn't go. I think what was done only inviting 2 of 5 siblings was wrong. But bring an uninvited guest to a party is also wrong. If there are treat bags or something involved she may not have enough for extra guests. If you still want to acknowledge the birthday send a card.

 

[natnelliesmom]

I would call and ask why the other children were not invited. Be upfront and stick up for yourself and your family.
Why subject yourself to poor treatment? If they can't behave in a respectful manner then you have no obligation to attend.
Send a card for the child since it's not their fault that their parents can't behave themselves.
Good luck with this.
-Sarah

 

[disykat]

I don't see the no party = no gift as any big deal. In our family, we don't normally do gifts for extended family unless we are at their celebration. That would be explained easily by "we didn't have a party this year."

However, if it is not an all girl party, an all boy party, or a party for a specific age group and some of your kids just plain weren't invited, I would decline the invitation.

 

[PrincessTiffany]

I'm sorry, but I would be mad if my SIL only invited 2 of my kids to my niece's birthday and not the other two. That just sounds crazy to me. I would never just invite one of her kids to a party and not the other one. If it was a friend or a neighbor I could see them not inviting everybody, but this is family for goodness sakes. That just wouldn't be okay for me. It would be all of us or none of us.

 

[fortheluvofpooh]

If it were me, I would just give a call and ask why the other kids weren't invited. Or I just wouldn't attend.

On another note, I don't call my neices or nephews on their birthdays. If they have a party we go, if not, we don't send a gift. Same goes for my childrens aunts and uncles.

ita

 

[mommy-on-the-move]

I'm actually pretty used to my nieces & nephews parties excluding at least my oldest because she's 5 years older than any of her cousins (we had her in our teens, and then everyone else waited until their twenties so biiig gap from her to first sibling & first cousins) usually it's because it would be entirely inappropriate to have such a bigger child at a younger child party for things like soft play (we have one coming up on saturday actually- I'm not at all offended that it's at a venue DD11 is too tall for) I also think it's a big difference one of mine not being invited for being X years old and their same age cousin getting an invite if the cousin is the birthday childs sibling (we don't invite all the little ones to DD11s celebrations anymore due to the age gap but her younger sibs obviously attend)

For first cousins we do gifts whether we attend or not because their our siblings children, for second cousins etc we need to be going to the party to send a gift.

 

[tlbwriter]

Are the uninvited kids significantly younger or older? Or are they your/SO's children from a previous relationship? I'm trying to think of an excuse for inviting some but not all of your kids. Not that they're appropriate reasons, of course.

Anyway, I would decline the invitation, but that's just me.

 

[LadyShea]

If it's a family party with adults etc. then the kids ages shouldn't make a difference.