Big and Scary step for me.....

[Poohnatic]

Hang in there, pixie dust to you.

I thrive on change, but I also had a relationship fall apart after 9 years. Ex husband decided he wanted his space and moved out.

I was devastated...what was the past nine years for? Honestly, it didn't seem likely at the time, but it was a GOOD change. We wanted different things out of life -- I won't go into the whole, sordid story -- but I now have a wonderful DH and two kids that I adore.

That's my happy ending, and I'm sure one's waiting for you, too. You may not see it now.

Suzanne

 

[disneefamily]

Disnee Dad Says.....................................There's a great big beautiful tommorrow, shining at the end of everyday, a great big beautiful tommorrow, just a dream away.

BTW, Before you quit claim on the house, make sure the car and furniture is worth 45% of the equity in the house. If the house were sold, it would cost at least 10% in commision, fix up costs, fees etc. If the car and furniture is less than 45%, you should get cash also. If you bought a few years ago, your share should be worth more than a car and furniture, unless it's a really nice car.
And that is asking for nothing, only being 50/50 fair.

I hate change, but there is one thing worse, uncertainty. In my case it's working for a company in Chapter11, that could shut down any day, or be sold to new owners. They have taken our sick pay, will vacation pay be next? Each day is a what if.

In your case, it would be should I stay or should I go, will I get my share, what about my best friend, what about the last nine years, is it my fault (no!), what if, a change will put an end to all that.

Best of luck, at least you have the board to fall back on, we are here for you, what does he have?

 

[lulubelle]

Carol-
I am so sorry, this must be the worst time for youl
Please know that better times are ahead because THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON! and this, too shall pass. In the meantime, do not get taken to "the cleaners" because you are emotionally stirred. Stand your ground, girl! Again, I am sorry you have to go thru this

 

[holycow]

(((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))) to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know how scary change can be...believe me moving 3000 miles across the country from Ca. to Fl. leaving every bit of family and friends I have ever known...but you know what...I LOVE IT HERE NOW!...just make sure where ever you go ....get out and do things! Don't sit on the computer! join a club! go dancing! have some fun!

YOU CAN DO IT!

holycow

 

[Dan Murphy]

Just dropping by to wish you the best, Carol. As said many times here, change is tough ( I don't like it either), but sometimes, it is good. Not always, but very often. Good luck.

 

[safetymom]

You took a great first step. Congratulations!!! I used to hate, hate, hate change. Then my husband died at a young age and left me with 3 young children. I had many changes in store for my life. Now change doesn't bother me. I would never have thought I could survive that but I did.

I am sure you will survive and be stronger. Change can be a good thing.

 

[jamsmom]

Tonight is the Annual Sylvan Party for the company tonight. This is the first one in 9 years that I will not be at! Jim could take me, but he never asked. So, that answers a few questions...actually told me he might not drive home if he drinks.

 

[Saffron]

{{{{Hugs}}}} Carol.

Change causes a lot of anxiety for me, whether it's for the best, or for the worse. I like having things the way I'm used to having them. I think the change is not the bad part, but the thoughts that preceed the change are the ones that get to me! What if this ... what if that ... etc. ACK!

I wish you all the best life has to offer. One day you'll look back on this time in your life and be amazed at how everything happened and the strength and courage you really had. And we're all here for you, just as you have been for us.{{{{Hugs}}}} again.

 

[Carebear7]

Change can be so scary. Two months ago, I moved to a different state after I experienced a very sad series of losses in my life. I was encouraged by my loving mother and sister to start a new life somewhere new. It has been hard to be away from my mom and leave the only life that I knew. I was very lonely at first and I cried every day because I was so scared. But I have to say, that after a short time, I can feel in my heart that it is the best decision I have ever made. I just started a job that I love, and have met the nicest people ever. Every day, God has given me something new to smile about and I know the same will happen to you. He has a plan, even though we might not be able to understand it. Just trust that He will take us to a place that we might not have ever seen by staying in our comfort zone! Hugs and good luck!