Beth....are you out there?

[starann]

Beth are you there? It's me, Star!!!

You have been quiet and I just wanted to make sure your holiday went well!

 

[Saxton]

I was just thinking the same thing - Beth hasn't posted in a while. If nothing else we need some Julia stories!

 

[OrlandoMike]

Maybe Beth is busy celebrating something today..........

Happy Birthday Beth!

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

AHA!!!

Happy Birthday! Hope you are having a great day!

 

[mykidsintow]

Thanks for the Bday wishes!!! And thanks even more for thinking about me. My bday pretty much sucks, but so does everything else. Whats another sucky day?

I owe you all a bit of an update....

*He* moved out at the beginning of November. He lied about a work trip and flew to be with *her*. He had a bout of cleaning out the bank accounts. I was able to get my portion back. I had it wired out and now have all my finances independent. Actually the move was shockingly uneventful. The kids didn't skip a beat. They say they miss him when they talk to him and when he visits, but day to day..... he is rarely mentioned.

I never realized how lonely I was until he moved and nothing really changed. Obviously I have a lot of needs that weren't being met.

We will mediate this month and get everything filed. My atty says it will all be final 60 days from the time we agree and sign.... obviously longer if the judge gets to decide.

The kids and I spent Thanksgiving with my family. For Christmas we have spent 2.5 weeks at the beach. I have never spent Christmas away from home, but this is my season of change. It all went as well as can be expected.... being my first holidays alone in 10 yrs. He did fly down the 24th and back the 26th so he could be with the kids for Christmas. Again, went as well as can be expected. My family all left the beach last weekend and my friend came down with her son. We have spent a week relaxing and I guess I am as ready as can be to go home and face reality. Back to School Monday, digging out all our financial information and getting things lined up. I am not sure about selling the house yet, but it maybe going on the market in Feb. That has yet to be determined.

And so.... there you have it. The crappy life of Beth and crew. We are about to leave the beach and drive home. Happy freakin B-day to me.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

I am truly sorry that things seem so bleak for you right now.

Honestly though? I'm "hearing" a strong sense of self coming out of your words, your communication.

I think it was brilliant that you did something completely different for the Christmas season. Personally, I find the sea very therapeutic (presuming "the beach" is the ocean) and I'm glad you had a chance to be by the water.

Returning home to settle into a life that will now be quite different, could end up be anticlimactic. You say that things haven't changed much with him gone. So, going home to your new phase of life may not be so very strange?

Would that pixie dust would really bring some magic to your life, but we're all a bit too practical to trust that, eh?

Magic will come though. It will.

 

[starann]

Beth...HUGs.....

Out with the old, in with the new...........that is the idea of the New Year (I think?). I know things have not turned out the way you imagined but hopefully in a few months things will be so much better than they have been.

I'm glad the kids are doing ok through it all.

Where will you move if you sell the house?

HUGS

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Beth, I am glad you popped in! I'm sorry things are sucky right now. Hang in there. We are here for you when you need to vent. I know there are better days ahead!

 

[Saxton]

Aw, Beth, I'm sorry you had a lousy birthday and I'm sorry you're feeling so down. You will get through this and you'll be much better on the other side. You're comment about how nothing really changed when he moved out is telling. It's time for a change and a new life.

 

[mykidsintow]

Because I know everyone needs a picture fix..... Here are some from our trip:

The Beach Christmas Morning:

The kids by the tree at home:

Julia and Lucas Christmas Morning:

Jared Christmas Morning:

Each of them in front of my aunts tree in SC:

Kids on the beach:

And if that's not enough there are more at the following link (a few of them are very cute).
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v432/_kulali_/Christmas 2008/?action=view&current=IMG_2972.jpg

We did have a nice trip overall. Sorry I was so grumpy the other day when I posted. . Good days and bad, right? Thanks for letting be vent!

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

Awesome pics, Beth! And better times are ahead...

 

[hematite153]

Ahh, Beth. Here's hoping for more of the good days.

I agree that it sounds like you're discovering yourself and have an opportunity now to figure out what you need to be less lonely.

I've been thinking about you, so, it was great to hear an update.

 

[rosiep]

Thanks for the pictures Beth. I am always thinking of you and your beautiful children. I just have one question: How can your house look so emaculate with two kids and a dog..at Christmas no less???????????

 

[mykidsintow]

Thanks for the pictures Beth. I am always thinking of you and your beautiful children. I just have one question: How can your house look so emaculate with two kids and a dog..at Christmas no less???????????

My house? **emaculate**???

First pic is balcony at the condo...
2nd is my house before we left to go to SC
3 & 4 Condo
5 & 6 My aunts house
last 2... well the beach!

Simple, none were really at my house!!!

 

[rosiep]

ah.........That explains it. 'Cause when my kids were little my house looked...um....lived in