Best strategy to convince DH you are going to go to Disney next year?

Kara19840

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My plan is to return to Disney World for 2 weeks at the end of April 2018 for my son's Kindermoon. DH says we are not going and can't afford it. He wants to wait until 2019.

We can afford it even if we need to go Value or Moderate resort. Children will be 4 and 8 years old.

What are the best excuses/reasons for doing this in 2018? Please help me build my case. Thanks
 
My plan is to return to Disney World for 2 weeks at the end of April 2018 for my son's Kindermoon. DH says we are not going and can't afford it. He wants to wait until 2019.

We can afford it even if we need to go Value or Moderate resort. Children will be 4 and 8 years old.

What are the best excuses/reasons for doing this in 2018? Please help me build my case. Thanks

You could follow the same strategy I did when we got back last October. Tell him your going to sell stuff on EBay to pay for it. Then every time e gets upset over how much it costs remind him it isn't hitting the family budget.

We're heading back in a couple of weeks!
 
Don’t ask it’s easier to beg for forgiveness than ask permission lol
is it anyone’s Birthday? Or maybe you could make it part of Christmas gifts
 

My DH is big into the outdoors (not crowds) but we both wanted to go 1st time "for the kids." Well he (we) had such a great time that we are now here on our 5th trip!!! My biggest suggestion is to find the things he would enjoy about the trip and do those...if he likes space, maybe rent a condo. We have a 3BR/2 BA/full kitchen, access to 13 pools for about $100/day. Maybe he enjoys thrill rides so find ways to decrease wait times. Budget and stick to it! bring out pictures and video that show what a great time you all had on your last trip. 4 & 8 are good ages because you are able to meet most height requirement and do many more things!
 
Maybe listen to his reasons for not being able to afford it. Each person has their comfort zone with what they can afford or not. I do the bills in my house and when my husband thinks he needs something (extra set of new tires for his truck) I will kindly remind him that it will need to wait until DD is out of preschool. Maybe your DH is more of a planner for the future and sees that the $10k (just a guess) that it would cost for 2 weeks would look better in the bank account in case of an emergency vs a vacation. Maybe you need to compromise and make it one week instead of 2. It would cost less and that might make it more doable.
 
I convinced my DH about our most recent trip by saying I'd pay for it completely outside of our normal income. I spent a year making money through online survey sites and saving credit card rewards and was able to pay for our whole trip minus airfare. He never would have agreed otherwise because we wouldn't have had the money.
 
Thanks everyone, some great suggestions in there. And some did make me giggle. :stitch2:
 
Sounds more like a financial decision than anything people here will be able to help you solve.

If it's a money thing, stay offsite. We always stay offsite, have never stayed onsite...have zero desire to. We spend a fraction of what people spend staying onsite and have a 3 or 4 bedroom apartment with all the comforts that come with it.
 
If he is saying no for budgetary reasons, then maybe sit down with the budget and account information together and see why you are on different pages about what is affordable. Have him show you why he feels that way. Then if you can show him how you think it could work in the budget, you might be able to sway him. Show him the $ you could save by switching to a Value resort instead of a Deluxe. Consider a shorter trip as a compromise. Find ways to save money on dining and show him the list. Show him you are willing to compromise and work together to find a way to make it happen. I hope you are able to find some middle ground!! Good luck!
 
I feel you so bad right now! My husband did not grow up in a family that did any type of big vacations. A couple days at a lake 20 minutes from home was the extent of it. He argues that they were happy and fulfilled and didn't need much else. As a result, he has developed this odd guilt over taking vacations. We have never gone anywhere (besides our honeymoon), before our kids were born or after, where he has not gone into full panic and guilt mode over it.

I had to drag him kicking and screaming on our first trip to Disney. We can technically "afford" it, but he always comes up with valid reasons for where else that money could be allocated- i.e. saving for college (we have 5 kids!), paying more towards our mortgage, finishing our basement, and the list goes on and on. He is right-- there are MUCH more practical ways we could spend our money than on a Disney vacation. We have been a total of 3 times and he wrestles with this guilt each time we go. However, he is the HAPPIEST member of our family when we get there. I think this is what makes him keep going back. He would never go without someone like me to push him there, but he is always glad we went. Rarely, does he mention the expense when we get home and are left with just the credit card bill. Because we are also left with AMAZING memories to last a lifetime.

Our kids may not remember all these trips, but I will. I will cherish them in my old age. My dad was sick my whole adult life and died when I was 30 after a long battle with Parkinson's. My mom is suffering from elder depression and other physical ailments since his passing. She lives with us, so I am exposed firsthand each day to the difficulties and heart-wrenching reality of aging and I will not feel guilty for experiencing enjoyable vacation time with my family while we are all still young and healthy. These are good years, and I fully intend on taking advantage of them. YOLO!!!!

Some things that have helped with this are: like the poster above, we ALWAYS stay offsite. We have a lot of kids, and we need in-unit laundry and space. We almost stayed at the Campground Cabins this past trip but when a deal came up for Bonnet Creek that was $150/night less than the cabin, I could not justify it. Where you only have two kids, you could stay at a value resort on the cheap. I would if it was just four of us. We also grocery shop and prepare most of our own food and rarely do ADR. If you stay in a hotel with no kitchen you will need to do the meal plan so maybe budget for that. We drive from New England to save on transportation, and we spend very little money on "stuff" in the park. I usually buy just one ornament for our Christmas tree, or I let my girls get inexpensive birthstone Mickey earrings. We buy our Disney merchandise to wear to the park outside of the Disney parks. We always buy tickets from a reputable discount vendor. And I search for as many deals as I can. Maybe if you tell him you are willing to compromise on some stuff, or do your research on how your family can save, he can be convinced. Good luck and keep us posted!
 
Ah yes, the "we can't afford it" excuse :headache: My husband tried to use that on me few years ago. :goodvibes
But in all fairness, we were a little tight with money and I did understand why he was reluctant on spending money on a trip to WDW after we just came back from one a year ago.:(
But we both work hard and and I get really tired and look forward to my yearly vacations. So I really wanted this to happen.
Well I did what any Disney addict would have done. I found a way to go. I told him: "If money is the only reason we can't go, I'll find the money". So that is what I did, I found extra money on my own. I sat down calculated all our expenses and tried to see where I could save money for this trip.:coffee:

I started changing how I did my groceries, using coupons and buying no name brands. If I did not need the item right away, I would not buy it. Next, I called my phone and cable company and saved a few hundred dollars by cutting some options. Took that money from our bank account and transferred it into a vacation fund. I stopped going to the aesthetician and did all my own waxing/pedicures/plucking, etc. I also stopped dying my hair at the hairdresser and did my own hair dye. Took the money it would have cost me each month at hairdresser and aestethician and transferred it to my account. We also stopped going to restaurants and the movies. We started doing movie night at home each friday, with Neflix movies, popcorn and treats (a tradition that my family has adopted since then). I also took on a cleaning job on the side (I work full time so this was extra work for me). I cleaned someone apartment once every week. A small sacrifice for reaching my goal. I also did small things like put a jar to accumulate all the loose change from each day and stopped going to the coffee shop on the way to work and brought a travel mug with coffee from home instead. Money was accumulating quickly in my travel fund. My husband was actually really impressed with my determination to make this happen and I did make it happen. We ended up going to Disney for a week with the kids. We stayed at POFQ and had an amazing trip and I even had extra money in that fund after the trip was done.
:dancer:
 
I feel you so bad right now! My husband did not grow up in a family that did any type of big vacations. A couple days at a lake 20 minutes from home was the extent of it. He argues that they were happy and fulfilled and didn't need much else. As a result, he has developed this odd guilt over taking vacations. We have never gone anywhere (besides our honeymoon), before our kids were born or after, where he has not gone into full panic and guilt mode over it.

I had to drag him kicking and screaming on our first trip to Disney. We can technically "afford" it, but he always comes up with valid reasons for where else that money could be allocated- i.e. saving for college (we have 5 kids!), paying more towards our mortgage, finishing our basement, and the list goes on and on. He is right-- there are MUCH more practical ways we could spend our money than on a Disney vacation. We have been a total of 3 times and he wrestles with this guilt each time we go. However, he is the HAPPIEST member of our family when we get there. I think this is what makes him keep going back. He would never go without someone like me to push him there, but he is always glad we went. Rarely, does he mention the expense when we get home and are left with just the credit card bill. Because we are also left with AMAZING memories to last a lifetime.

Our kids may not remember all these trips, but I will. I will cherish them in my old age. My dad was sick my whole adult life and died when I was 30 after a long battle with Parkinson's. My mom is suffering from elder depression and other physical ailments since his passing. She lives with us, so I am exposed firsthand each day to the difficulties and heart-wrenching reality of aging and I will not feel guilty for experiencing enjoyable vacation time with my family while we are all still young and healthy. These are good years, and I fully intend on taking advantage of them. YOLO!!!!

Some things that have helped with this are: like the poster above, we ALWAYS stay offsite. We have a lot of kids, and we need in-unit laundry and space. We almost stayed at the Campground Cabins this past trip but when a deal came up for Bonnet Creek that was $150/night less than the cabin, I could not justify it. Where you only have two kids, you could stay at a value resort on the cheap. I would if it was just four of us. We also grocery shop and prepare most of our own food and rarely do ADR. If you stay in a hotel with no kitchen you will need to do the meal plan so maybe budget for that. We drive from New England to save on transportation, and we spend very little money on "stuff" in the park. I usually buy just one ornament for our Christmas tree, or I let my girls get inexpensive birthstone Mickey earrings. We buy our Disney merchandise to wear to the park outside of the Disney parks. We always buy tickets from a reputable discount vendor. And I search for as many deals as I can. Maybe if you tell him you are willing to compromise on some stuff, or do your research on how your family can save, he can be convinced. Good luck and keep us posted!

You hit the nail on the head for me with the comment about aging and the medical problems that can occur! You see, I am 67 and my husband is 70 y/o. We are beginning to "slow down" and have minor health problems. However, we are not getting any younger. My husband doesn't want to go to WDW next year, wants to save money, etc, etc. We have the money so that's no excuse. We do move a little slower but went last year (we go yearly) and did just fine at our slower pace.
I have overcome that problem of not wanting to go to WDW for whatever reason by booking a surprise vacation for this February/March. I have never done anything like that in my life. I am saving money like mad to show him when I do tell him.
Our 50th wedding anniversary is next year, too, so I want to celebrate at WDW.
Wish me luck:)
I hope you talk with your husband and tell him good health will not last forever, the kids get older, so if you can go to WDW, then DO IT. Good luck.
 
I don't know your financial situation- only you and your DH do. And if one of you doesn't- it's time to adult up and share the load.
The two of you need to have a serious discussion about your short and long term goals in order to resolve this lifestyle difference as soon as possible.
Some might tell you one idea that worked for them and others a different but the bottom line is this is YOUR marriage and you get to fix any possible differences in approach to life:).
JMO.
 
My plan is to return to Disney World for 2 weeks at the end of April 2018 for my son's Kindermoon. DH says we are not going and can't afford it. He wants to wait until 2019.

We can afford it even if we need to go Value or Moderate resort. Children will be 4 and 8 years old.

What are the best excuses/reasons for doing this in 2018? Please help me build my case. Thanks
"Honey, I'm taking the kids to Disney World next year. Want to come along?"

That's how I always phrase it. Of course, I'm the one who pays for the trips as I'm the one who really wants to go.

If he's the sole or primary breadwinner & would be the one paying for the trip, I recommend not pushing him to spend more than he's comfortable spending for vacation.
 
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