This has been coming for a long while, but it is still a difficult process for us all. We are next door neighbors, godparents to kids, vacation together, etc. It comes at a very bad time for me as my family has been struggling with one emergency after another the past 2 years, and especially the past month as my dad just had a mental breakdown (he is recovering - one minute at a time). So, even though I am a pillar of strength, I am very exhausted and not sure I can give 100% of myself to them at the moment as I am so very tired...
The husband is very off, and always has been. Says and does things that just don't compute as he has some serious, and I mean serious, emotional issues that we have all been very concerned about for quite awhile. They have 2 young kids, and so this is best for all. He is coming over here telling us that his wife (I don't want to use names, so I will say husband and wife) has taken money, and done things that she has not - he actually closed their one joint account yesterday and left her with no money. She called us sobbing from the restaurant as the kids were hungry, and she didn't know what to do. He then came over a few hours later to asked hubby (my hubby is a banker) to fix the problem as it was going to look bad on him. He is so angry and all about upstaging her, that he didn't realize she has no money (he has secret bank accounts) and that his babies couldn't eat dinner.
We have always cleaned up his slack - setting up at parties, helping the kids, etc. as we love them. At this point, we aren't sure what he is going to do as he is really not a rational human being. If I told you about some of the stuff he has done to "teach his wife a lesson" you would be shocked and appalled.
Thank goodness the wife and kids will be able to stay at the house (they've done well financially), or my kids would be devastated. We haven't told my DD yet as we have had a very rough couple of months, so she just knows that her auntie and uncle are having some problems. She is a very bright 6 year old, so she knows something is up, as uncle came in our house yesterday ranting and raving...He does this all of the time with most topics. We are trying to keep things as normal as possible for our kids, but most especially their kids.
Our first priority is the kids, as it always has been, so we are remaining neutral as much as possible. But, we are concerned about the wife as she has been through many years of turmoil. Anyone in a similar situation? How do you handle it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. As well, if anyone can spare some extra prayers, we would be forever grateful.
Tiger
The husband is very off, and always has been. Says and does things that just don't compute as he has some serious, and I mean serious, emotional issues that we have all been very concerned about for quite awhile. They have 2 young kids, and so this is best for all. He is coming over here telling us that his wife (I don't want to use names, so I will say husband and wife) has taken money, and done things that she has not - he actually closed their one joint account yesterday and left her with no money. She called us sobbing from the restaurant as the kids were hungry, and she didn't know what to do. He then came over a few hours later to asked hubby (my hubby is a banker) to fix the problem as it was going to look bad on him. He is so angry and all about upstaging her, that he didn't realize she has no money (he has secret bank accounts) and that his babies couldn't eat dinner.
We have always cleaned up his slack - setting up at parties, helping the kids, etc. as we love them. At this point, we aren't sure what he is going to do as he is really not a rational human being. If I told you about some of the stuff he has done to "teach his wife a lesson" you would be shocked and appalled.
Thank goodness the wife and kids will be able to stay at the house (they've done well financially), or my kids would be devastated. We haven't told my DD yet as we have had a very rough couple of months, so she just knows that her auntie and uncle are having some problems. She is a very bright 6 year old, so she knows something is up, as uncle came in our house yesterday ranting and raving...He does this all of the time with most topics. We are trying to keep things as normal as possible for our kids, but most especially their kids.
Our first priority is the kids, as it always has been, so we are remaining neutral as much as possible. But, we are concerned about the wife as she has been through many years of turmoil. Anyone in a similar situation? How do you handle it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. As well, if anyone can spare some extra prayers, we would be forever grateful.
Tiger
