Best Friend dating Crush!

[Elvis' Canadian Fan]

Ok - I have been keeping this inside for a long time so I really want to get it out.

Here's the story

I had/still have (I can't decide!) this huge crush on this guy. He is really sweet and nice - and I am really shy so I didn't do anything except for watch him at dances etc. So then his friend dances with me and starts to ask me a whole bunch of questions on what my ideal boyfriend would be!!!! So I am really embarrassed but I answer. and then he asks if I would date someone like Josh (I changed his name for privacy reasons!)!!!!! I start to freak out!! And I answer no!!!! I was so shocked that he asked me that! And I didn't want anyone to know that I had this crush on him!

So nothing happens, nothing happens. then he starts to hang out around us - my friends and my sister. I'm liking it because I can hang around him! Then my best friend invites him to her birthday party, and than a Winter party. And then a few weeks ago they start to "date"!!!!! They are still not official but anyone with eyes can see that they are going out!!

I don't think I have ever felt that way before - I felt rejected and betrayed! She knew that I had a crush on him! So now I say that I don't have a crush on him anymore but everytime I see him I feel angry!

I still "love" my best friend, and I'm happy for her but I have these emotions that I just want to yell out!

There's no need to reply to this - I just need to tell someone! But feel free to reply it might make me feel better!!

 

[RaggedyAnnPrincess]

I'm sorry! You might share your feelings with your friend? I think she should have told you when it happened, but most likely she didn't tell you because she didn't want to hurt you.

 

[Elvis' Canadian Fan]

I'm sorry! You might share your feelings with your friend? I think she should have told you when it happened, but most likely she didn't tell you because she didn't want to hurt you.

Thanks. Yeah maybe- but I have been pretending that I don't care for him anymore so maybe that's why they started to date because she thought that I really don't care? I don't want to make a big deal out of it though so I don't know! It does feel good to tell someone though! Thanks for listening!

 

[Rockstar mentality]

u answered no. if i read that right then ure crush sent his friend over ther 2 probe u. and wen u said u wouldnt date a guy like him he picked up and moved on. thats the honest truth..... if im reading ure post right

 

[Elvis' Canadian Fan]

u answered no. if i read that right then ure crush sent his friend over ther 2 probe u. and wen u said u wouldnt date a guy like him he picked up and moved on. thats the honest truth..... if im reading ure post right

I know! That's why I'm kicking myself! I wanted to answer yes but I was too shocked and embarrassed to answer yes!

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

I'm sorry.
I've been in that sort of situation before.
It's no fun, but you might just have to ride it out.

 

[Rockstar mentality]

wow im gonnna sound like a jerk but what do u care about more ure friendship or that boy. wait i didnt sound like a jerk i am one

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

That doesn't sound jerky.
In my situation, I cared more about the boy.
And it showed.
It ended up messy. Really messy.

So that's why I would say just to wait it out..

 

[Rockstar mentality]

in my eyes i sound jerkish. ok wat evr depending on what u want to do i have suggestions on if u want then

 

[Elvis' Canadian Fan]

hey you didn't sound jerky at all! I know that I value my friendships more than any boy so I will just wait it out! T
hanks everyone for allowing me to talk about this!

 

[Rockstar mentality]

yeahh... u still may wanna tell ure friend u LIKED him.

 

[Elvis' Canadian Fan]

maybe - but I know I mentioned it before they started to go out so I know she knows already. Is there any point in bringing it up again? what do you think?