We stayed at the VWL in early February and did not notice the problem bedposts that you mentioned. We had a then 3 1/2 years and 11 months, trying to walk little one. With the nightly water parade, the playground on the beach, proximity to the MK, and the awesome lobby of the WL to explore, it seems like a no-brainer. But a resort that you have not stayed at has already failed your "safety" check then you are down to 2 choices. The BWV is too "hotel" like for our little family but maybe you will find it safer. The pool area is better at the BW. We enjoy staying at OKW because it is so laid back and we enjoy taking the boat to DD. Good Luck in your selection.