Bereavement leave

[barkley]

retired social services-nothing, we could use our sick leave or float days (but usualy it was'nt a problem to use our vacation time).

dh social services (a different county than i retired from) up to 5 days paid, then if more was needed you could use sick, float or vacation.

 

[LoraJ]

At my company it depends on the relationship with the person as well as if they are in state. You can get 1 day for a friend, 3 days for family and then extra days if it is out of state.

 

[Judy from Boise]

3 days paid, then PTO, It is expected that you keep PTO time in the bank for emergencies.

 

[miss missy]

BIG Co!!

We get 3 paid for immediate family, parents, sibs, aunt/uncle and gp's. They will check for obit too. People do abuse it so they check.

Now if you are having a hard time, you would go on disablility with a Dr. Like my friends son passed in an accident, he was 20, she was out for 4 months on disablilty because she was a mess. Her boss worked it for her and didn't push her back A lot has to do with the boss too, some will give you a couple extra days paid, but not all. It all depends I guess. You should be able to have in unpaid "to care for your Mom" under FMLA
(Family and Medical Leave Act), have you looked into that?


Q: Who is considered an immediate "family member" for purposes of taking FMLA leave?

An employee’s spouse, children (son or daughter), and parents are immediate family members for purposes of FMLA. The term "parent" does not include a parent "in-law". The terms son or daughter do not include individuals age 18 or over unless they are "incapable of self-care" because of mental or physical disability that limits one or more of the "major life activities" as those terms are defined in regulations issued by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) under the Americans With Disabilities Act (ADA).

http://www.dol.gov/esa/whd/fmla/

 

[aprilgail2]

we get three days- 2 for the wake, one for the funeral and then back to work.

 

[delilah]

I'm a physician, self-employed. You would think that since all of my vacation is basically unpaid, since, if I don't work, I don't get paid, that it would be at my discretion when to return after a death in the family. But, no, it is not. When I went to Florida because my mom had end-stage lung cancer, the office manager called the morning after I left. The first question she asked was not "how is your mom doing (answer: not well, she died last night), but, "when are you coming back". This was 14 years ago, now, but I was gone less than a week. I was back to work the next Sunday.

 

[Kimberle]

1 day for a spouse or child. Zero for anyone else. You can take more days off without pay without being given a hard time.

Small privately held company of designer bags.

 

[believe]

I work for a consumer goods company.

We get 3 days for parents, inlaws, grandparents, siblings, kids....and 1 day for other family members or close friends. We can take 1/2 days for others we wise to attend. All of this is paid. We can take additional days, if needed, and it is up to your manager if they are paid or unpaid. You can always take unpaid. When my mom passed away I took 5 days, paid. Came back to work a day, then became sick and took an additional 3 days. All was paid. If you take more than 5 days in a row, your manager has to get special approval for you to be paid.

 

[JunieJay]

Our policy is 3 paid days, anything after must be covered by vacation days.

 

[shirleyb]

OP,I think what you were given seems fair. Most places I have worked give 3 to 5 days and everyone knows some deaths will require more time to get things settled and you were given that time.

 

[clori]

When my mil passed away dh took off 5 days I think. It may have been 6 days but if so the extra day came from his accrued time off (they don't have separate sick, vacation etc). When I was working less than a year at a company my sil's father passed away. She called me at work and asked me to babysit my 1 year old nephew for the funeral and help set up things for when they returned (Jewish funeral so the very next day). Of course I said yes and my immediate boss was fine with that. I also knew I was taking the day off without pay since it didn't qualify under bereavement rules as non relative to me (even though I had lived in his duplex for 1.5 years). I did receive bereavement pay on my paycheck and I questioned it to both the high level manager and the hr rep when they were together. They said that because I was a dedicated employee and they could see by my sadness when I got the initial call that it was real and deserved the bereavement pay for the day even though it wasn't technically family. Another job had a 6 day personal leave policy but only 3 days could be used for any reason with the remaining 3 strictly for bereavement and/or religious holidays).

 

[Frantasmic]

I get up to 5 days bereavement per incident. If my father passed on and my mother died a month later, I'd get two 5 day periods. They are pretty good about that. This time of is not part of my own sick time nor does it come out of vacation. If you need something longer, I think you have to invoke the Family Medical Leave act and take time off unpaid, or you can use your own vacation time if you have any accured.

 

[candykisses]

Our company allows for 3 days with pay for our children, spouse, parents, grandparents, spouse's parents and grandparents and siblings. There can be more time with pay, the company looks at those on a case by case basis.

You can also use vacation or unpaid time off.

 

[NMAmy]

I work for a college and I get 5 days for spouse, parent, child, grandparent, step parents or children, and in-laws. We also can use half our sick leave to care for a family member who is ill--that would be spouse, parent, child, grandparent, stepchildren. This was so helpful when my father was dying.

 

[kelleigh1]

State law requires that we get 3 days paid bereavement leave for immediate family: spouse, children, parents, siblings, grandparents, MIL, or FIL. (I don't recall if spouse's siblings are included as "immediate family".) I believe that anything beyond the 3 days, we would be required to use personal, sick or vacation time. We do get 3 weeks vacation, 8 sick and 2 personal days, so it should be a significant problem.

 

[TiggerStac]

My company gives you up to 3 days paid time off for certain family members (grandparents, parents, siblings, spouse, children) and also for those same family members of your spouse. I have never needed to use more than 3 days but my understanding is that after 3 days you use vacation, personal leave, etc.. and then it would be unpaid. I think there is some wiggle room for supervisors to determine how much is OK vs. how much is not but I don't really know any specifics.

Mine is pretty much the same as this. My prev employers would give 1 day for aunts/uncles, cousins..not my current. We get the 3 days (after being employed for 90 days). You can take vacation or unpaid if you need it after that.

 

[Nancy]

3 days for immediate family member (spouse, parent, in law, sibling) 1 day for grandparents...nothing for aunts, uncles, cousins.

This is only for full timers, part timers get nothing.

I work in a grocery store.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

We get 3 days if it's in state or 5 out of state. I work for a city government.

Same here. Except I work for an agency of the city government (non-local tax funded, self-sufficient).

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I'm looking into this right now, as my grandmother has officially been listed as terminally ill. My single mother is her caretaker (they live together). I am an only child. I also grew up with Mum and my grandparents, from the time I was 2 years old. My mother has 3 brothers, but they are in Illinois and Georgia and therefore, not really "here." So it's just her and I.

Anyway, I get 3 days bereavement leave, paid. I've already spoken to my boss, though, and because of the uniqueness of the situation, I will be allowed to use whatever PTO time I need, either before or after her death, to visit her and to assist my mother with anything she might need.

 

[Pixiedust34]

I'm not sure how much leave my dh gets, but we have to factor in travel time, too. When family lives out-of-state, add time to pack, stop your mail or get someone to pick up your mail, kennel the dog, perhaps find a hotel, etc. We're within driving distance to family, though it would be really tough for those who need to fly to a funeral. The standard 3 days is not enough for most circumstances.

My MIL suffered a massive stroke in 2004 and it's a miracle she's alive. When the time comes, dh will take the time he needs to be there, and whatever doesn't come out of his funeral leave will have to be personal or sick days.

Dh had to use an "urgent business day" when my grandfather died because the funeral policy didn't cover an in-law grandparent. We drove 10 hours (round trip) so we could be there and back without missing more than 1 day of work.