Bad Uncle???

[scottny]

Thank you to everyone....

 

[UGAFan0829]

I don't think you should feel guilty. It was funny because my DH has a lot of aunts and uncles. I had met some of them before our wedding, and some I had not. We sent invitations to all of them, as they were all welcome. It was funny because the ones that I had met didn't show up and one of the ones that I had not met came. It didn't hurt my feelings a bit.

 

[clownchk]

my oldest sister did not come to my wedding. Her reason? She couldn't get her front door to lock.

No Gift, no card, no phone call, I found out why when we got back form our honeymoon.

I still love her. I should add that yes, she does live 6 horus away and no, she is not the only one to live in her house, and it did not lock the THREE YEARS before my wedding either. She knew over a year in advance when my wedding was and even had THREE different offers for rides here from people in her area (including her DD who was in my wedding!) and her BF was going to stay home anyway (THat is a WHOLE other story, but I have yet to even meet him - I've been married almost 8 years now!)

I think you should just go!! Send a nice card and gift and me on your merry way!! It is VERY cnsiderate of you to even THINK about cancelling!!

 

[LilBlackSheep]

Should i feel guilty for not going???

Nope.

 

[lisajo5]

Go to DW. I am adopted as well, and met my bio family a few years ago, and have been in a similar situation. I don't think anyone would be offended, besides it's not like you were just starting the planning of the trip.

Go, have fun and just send a card and a little something.

 

[Detailor]

Go and have a blast and send a nice gift. If they are telling people that their date is only two months away then they may find a lot of people can't make it! It probably won't be a surprise to them that you can't do it.QUOTE]

Do go and have a good time, though it isn't unusual for invitations to be sent at about two months before a wedding. Based on my oldest DD's meticulous following of proper wedding etiquette last summer, the invitations generally go out 6 to 8 weeks before the wedding. However, a Save The Date notice is supposed to go out about a year before the wedding date.
Who knows why they didn't notify you earlier. Perhaps they felt that they didn't know you very well but didn't want to hurt your feelings by excluding you altogether. I'm sure they'll be quite happy with a card and a gift. And they'll probably be pleased that they didn't make you change your vacation plans. You could always send them a set of Mickey & Minnie groom and bride figurines from WDW.

Dick Taylor

 

[scottny]

Thank you all. I will go to Disney guilt free and enjoy myself.

Thanks

 

[megnsamsgracie]

I am adopted as well and I missed out on family things during the new"ness" stage too. Go and have fun. I totally get where you are coming from too!

 

[Tinkerbell24]

I do not think that you are being a bad uncle. You have not know your birth family that long and as you said you only met this nephew once. I know that I would want my uncles at my wedding, but I have known them all my life. Two completely different situations. Have fun in Disney!!!

 

[JPN4265]

Ok so I booked a trip to disney world 1 1/2 month ago. CRT is booked and paid for, adr's made. Plane ticket paid for.

Countdown on my comp going. Pics of Disney rotate every 15 minuites so I have a new wallpaper pic.

Just got email tonight from sister in law saying my nephew is getting married the day before I come back.

I said sorry but paid for disney and cannot make it.

Now i was given up for adoption at birth so only met birth family 3 years ago. met my nephew once.

Should i feel guilty for not going???

is Disney worth missing my nephew's wedding?

My guess is that you have only heard from them now because they want a gift. The next time you hear from them will be at the birth of a new baby, then graduation, and so on. Don't sweat it, enjoy your trip.