Bad Parenting.

[2HOT2touch]

alot of kids that are abused their whole life, think that they deserve the beatings, because they don't know any better. they don't know that it's wrong, because that is how they were raised. so to some people hitting your child is okay, because that is how they were raised. I don't think hitting a child is okay in any circomstance. there are other ways that you can get respect from your child with out hitting them. I don't approve of spanking, expecially if you are spanking a child for hitting another kid, i feel like that is just hipocritical, you are telling the child not to hit others but you are there hitting them. I mean if that happened to me, I would be pretty confused. there are other ways to get through to a child other than hitting, even if they seem uncontrolable.

 

[hidmickey:myantidrug]

alot of kids that are abused their whole life, think that they deserve the beatings, because they don't know any better. they don't know that it's wrong, because that is how they were raised. so to some people hitting your child is okay, because that is how they were raised. I don't think hitting a child is okay in any circomstance. there are other ways that you can get respect from your child with out hitting them. I don't approve of spanking, expecially if you are spanking a child for hitting another kid, i feel like that is just hipocritical, you are telling the child not to hit others but you are there hitting them. I mean if that happened to me, I would be pretty confused. there are other ways to get through to a child other than hitting, even if they seem uncontrolable.

But there's a difference. Spanks are different from hits. Spanks are a wake-up to kids. It's more of a "hello, let's pay attention here to this" not a "bam, don't hit" type of a thing.

 

[2HOT2touch]

But there's a difference. Spanks are different from hits. Spanks are a wake-up to kids. It's more of a "hello, let's pay attention here to this" not a "bam, don't hit" type of a thing.

It could be. in some households it is. I'm just saying there are other ways to say "hello, let's pay attention" than hitting your child. but that's my opinion. like I said if I was hit for hitting others, I would be severly confused.

 

[RaggedyAnnPrincess]

I don't think spanking is abuse. I was spanked and my mom pulled my hair but thats because I was misbehaving and I deserved it.

Last week my 2 year old brother was pushed down 3 concrete stairs by a 3 year old girl. He wasn't doing anything to her she just decided to push him. He was crying hysterically. All the mom did was just bring her into the house for 2 minutes and brought her back out not doing anything to her. She also has a 5 year old who weighs 70 pounds. All they do is just annoy everyone. The dad tries to discipline them but the mom does nothing to help him out with it. And they both don't share with anybody and there is a lot of kids down there, too.


Tell me your opinions on that.

I think the mother should ground her, or at least say something like " Don't do that again, or we'll ground you " It worked on me, when I did something wrong, my mom said that I would be grounded.And I was really afraid of that seriously.And it's better than hitting.

 

[Sparkle_Cherry]

To me, child abuse is...

- Making a child feel inadequate.
- Deliberately bringing a child's self-confidence down.
- Telling your own child that you do not love them.
- Telling your own child that you do not care about them.
- Pulling a child's hair.
- Touching a child, in a way that makes them uncomfortable, sexually or emotionally.
- Cutting, suffocating, smothering, strangling or burning a child.
- Bringing your own anger or frustration out on a child.
- Calling a child names or insulting them to their face.
- Spanking a child until the point where they are scared of you.
- Denying a child the right to use the washroom facilities.
- Denying a child food or water for more than a day, if you can accomodate it just fine.
- Denying a child better clothes or shoes when they grow out of them, if you can afford it just fine.
- Throwing things at a child.
- On a regular basis, telling a child that they are bad.
- Physically shutting a child out of the house.
- Using an object to spank or a hit a child.

'tough love' is child abuse (this is where you hold a child in place until they calm down.)

I don't understand what you mean by this. Do you mean to say that sending a child to a corner for a time-out is child abuse? Or holding a crying baby?

 

[StitchfansJr]

no that's ony one part of the deffinition. This is an exerpt from my speech:
Child abuse is divided into four types of abuse, neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse and emotional abuse. Children who are neglected physically and emotionally may not develope normally. Some children suffer permanent damage. Neglect includes neglect of food, neglect of clothing, neglect of housing, neglect of supervision, meglect of medical and emotional care and neglect of education. Neglect is when a parent or caregiver doesn'tprovide for the basic emotional and physical needs of the child on an ongoing basis. Physical abuse includes anything a caregiver does that results in physical harm to a child. Physical abuse may happen if a child is punished harshly even though the parent may not have meant to hurt the child. Physical abuse includes bruises, marks in the shape of objects or handprints, shaking, burns,human bite marks, fractures to the skull, legs or ribs, and mutilation. sexual abuse occurs when a person uses power over a child and invloves the child in any sexual act. I'm not going to go into detail about this one, because it is a Disney site but if you want to talk about it you can PM me, i've had some experience i guess you can say in this. and lastly there is emotional abuse, when a parent or caregiver continually uses any of the following when interacting or disciplining a child, rejecting(I wish you were never born), criticizing(why can't you do anything right?), insulting(I can't believe how stupid you are), humiliating or embarrassing the child in front of other people, terrorizing/scaring( the police are going to come and take you away), isolating (not allowing the child to play with others), corrupting ( swearing in front of the child or having the child participat in illegal things), not responding emotionally, and punishing the child for exploring the environment.


I've always been really interested in child abuse, I guess I just wanted to know what was happening in my family. When I was younger I was sexually abused by my grandfather, and my cousins are abused my their mother. I want to be able to help them, but I can't, it's complicated, so that is why I can't wait to become a lawyer and finally beable to help people like my family.

The bold are what my sister's dad does to her. The Italic is what happens to me. I'm sworen (Is that a word?) at or I hear swear words a lot from my parents

 

[Arianna]

Bad parenting is when a parent (or more like my parent) criticizes me all day. She says that I will never get better at driving, i'm going to "fail" at life because she considers me a slob, etc. It gets annoying after a while.

 

[2HOT2touch]

The bold are what my sister's dad does to her. The Italic is what happens to me. I'm sworen (Is that a word?) at or I hear swear words a lot from my parents

um...the whole thing is in italics. and that's wrong, have you told anyone?

 

[StitchfansJr]

um...the whole thing is in italics. and that's wrong, have you told anyone?

Oops, I didn't know the whole thing was in italics. Well, my mom knows. My sister criticises me a lot.

 

[2HOT2touch]

Oops, I didn't know the whole thing was in italics. Well, my mom knows. My sister criticises me a lot.

well her knowing and not doing anything to stop it just makes her a bad guy too. I mean does anyone know that is going to do something about it?

 

[StitchfansJr]

well her knowing and not doing anything to stop it just makes her a bad guy too. I mean does anyone know that is going to do something about it?

I don't know. Did you get the information from a site? If so, I can show my mom the site right now

 

[2HOT2touch]

I didn't get any information off the internet I looked everything up in books. and i wrote that speech 4 years ago. it's just common knowledge.