Bad Parenting.

[2HOT2touch]

I have two friends.One told me that her parents spanked her with a wooden spoon,and the other told me that her parents whipped her with a belt.Should that be considered child abuse? My parents would spank me when I was little, but never with a hard object! Like Disney Ears,it was just a few Taps.

that can be and should be considered child abuse expecially with the belt. it can cause physical and emotional abuse on the child.

 

[BabyPiglet]

well thats my point. a few high calorie snacks wont hurt. but kids never just stop at a couple. they dont know limits until they are taught limits, and if the parents dont teach that kid limits, they will never have them, leading to obesity.

But still...

 

[tigger/winnie/tink]

i had a friend in 5th grade who said my parents abuse me. o me and our other friend well she said her parents spank her and pull her by her hair. i don't consider spanking abuse or slaping a child in the mouth when they talk back i met her parents and they would never do that she doidn't do what she was told never had her homework and and didn't do classwork i think bad parenting i teaching bad things to clidren and noT CAREING WHAT THERE CHILDREN DO not spanking a child

 

[tigger/winnie/tink]

that can be and should be considered child abuse expecially with the belt. it can cause physical and emotional abuse on the child.

i'd say so to

 

[pigletgirl]

I think child abuse is anything that could harm the well-being of the child, whether it be physical or emotional.

Spanking is one of those touchy subjects because sometimes it is the only way for a point to get across to a child. IE..my sister. She used to just run everywhere...out into the street, in a parking lot, store, ect...and everytime my parents would be firm with her, it wouldn't work. Neither would a naughty place...so they had to resort to spanking. She only got it once, and then she finally learned the lesson.

I just think you do what you have to do sometimes to get a point across that is important.

 

[Pirate Me]

I don't believe that spanking is wrong, as long as you don't constantly or continuously do it. It teaches the child a lesson. I myself though would never touch a child.

 

[Disney.Ears]

Like in A Christmas Story when Ralphy had to get his mouth washed out with soap, is that child abuse?

Because in my last post I said that putting hot sauce on your child's mouth would be abuse but I don't know if I consider soap abuse, or just weird. What do you think because I'm unsure..

 

[Tinkerrat]

bad parenting to me is not feeding the child or giving it a caring home i also think your parents should always support your dreams but most don't like my parents they tell me to give up on acting forever because they think i will never make it but somewhere inside me i know they are wrong i don't care if they don't want me to ba an actress it's my life, my dream, not theirs

 

[Sparx]

bad parenting to me is not feeding the child or giving it a caring home i also think your parents should always support your dreams but most don't like my parents they tell me to give up on acting forever because they think i will never make it but somewhere inside me i know they are wrong i don't care if they don't want me to ba an actress it's my life, my dream, not theirs

I agree that parents should support you, but I don't think a lack of support constitutes child abuse. I dunno. maybe I'm jaded, but I see it as there are a lot worse things that could going on. While not supporting you is awful, I wouldn't call that child abuse.

 

[BandGeek911]

I don't think spanking is child abuse.
My mother spanked me a lot when I was little.


But.... if you bruise the child while spanking them, I think that could turn into abuse. Spankings shouldn't be as hard to bruise the child.

Soap in mouth isn't abuse either. I used to get that too. That got me to stop saying nasty words
For a little while anyway xD

 

[disney100666]

bad parenting in my opinion is a parent who is never home to see there child, and someone who hurts there child, like hurt so bad bleeding, bruiseing that type of thing.

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

I don't classify spanking as child abuse, but I would never spank a child. I don't have to hit you to make you listen to me.

lack of food is child abuse.
beating is child abuse.
verbal abuse is child abuse.
'tough love' is child abuse (this is where you hold a child in place until they calm down.)

I agree with all of the above.

And favoring one child over another.
Not giving a child attention.
Not completely supporting your child, no matter what.
Having a child see anyone being beaten.
And not being a good role model for your child. I think that may be the most damaging type of abuse.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

Bad parenting is neglecting your children and showing them bad examples, like if you get drunk every night or get high infront of your children. As long as you love them and try to give them the best you can, you're a good parent.

I don't consider spanking abuse. I was spanked, not often, only if I did something really bad. Yes, it upset me, but I learned from it. If I don't want to get spanked on the butt, I won't do that again.

When I have kids, I don't know if I'll spank. It does teach a lesson sometimes when nothing else works, but I'd rather talk to them and let them know that they did wrong and shouldn't do it again. I've never hit a child, and I don't think I'll be able to either.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

I believe being a bad parent is defined by whether or not your child feels safe in his/her home or if he/she feels loved by his parents.

Hitting a child in any way, shape, or form is abuse. No child deserves to be hit.

If you are a bad parent you don't encourage your child to do go, you allow, them to go wherever they want unsupervised(Partying, raves, even the movies with the wrong people.) You also call your child names or get frustrated easily.

 

[KidGoofy]

I don't think spanking is abuse. I was spanked and my mom pulled my hair but thats because I was misbehaving and I deserved it.

Last week my 2 year old brother was pushed down 3 concrete stairs by a 3 year old girl. He wasn't doing anything to her she just decided to push him. He was crying hysterically. All the mom did was just bring her into the house for 2 minutes and brought her back out not doing anything to her. She also has a 5 year old who weighs 70 pounds. All they do is just annoy everyone. The dad tries to discipline them but the mom does nothing to help him out with it. And they both don't share with anybody and there is a lot of kids down there, too.


Tell me your opinions on that.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

I don't think spanking is abuse. I was spanked and my mom pulled my hair but thats because I was misbehaving and I deserved it.

Last week my 2 year old brother was pushed down 3 concrete stairs by a 3 year old girl. He wasn't doing anything to her she just decided to push him. He was crying hysterically. All the mom did was just bring her into the house for 2 minutes and brought her back out not doing anything to her. She also has a 5 year old who weighs 70 pounds. All they do is just annoy everyone. The dad tries to discipline them but the mom does nothing to help him out with it. And they both don't share with anybody and there is a lot of kids down there, too.


Tell me your opinions on that.

I think that letting your child way 70 pounds at that age is being an irresponsible parent not a bad parent. Then again, you don't know if the child can help it and how he eats in his home. You also have no idea what the mother said to the girl in private. Sometimes actions don't hurt as bad as words. Are you trying to say that you wanted the little girl to be phisically punished?

 

[KidGoofy]

I could hear everything because these are bungalow's with very thin walls. All she said to her was to not do that again. But these kids have been bad for a long time the dad has tried everything to stop it except to give them a spanking. So what would you do say no and they still wont listen or give them a spanking and show some authority so they wont do it again.

 

[2HOT2touch]

I could hear everything because these are bungalow's with very thin walls. All she said to her was to not do that again. But these kids have been bad for a long time the dad has tried everything to stop it except to give them a spanking. So what would you do say no and they still wont listen or give them a spanking and show some authority so they wont do it again.

I wouldn't hit the child. I think that hitting a child as punishment is just encouraging them to hit others to, it is like saying to the child that it is okay to hit someone. if I was that childs parent, I would tell her what she did was wrong, tell her that she needed to apologize and then she wouldn't be able to play for a day or two. but hitting the child in my opinion would do nothing but encourage the child to also be violent.

 

[Babyjustrun]

I wouldn't hit the child. I think that hitting a child as punishment is just encouraging them to hit others to, it is like saying to the child that it is okay to hit someone. if I was that childs parent, I would tell her what she did was wrong, tell her that she needed to apologize and then she wouldn't be able to play for a day or two. but hitting the child in my opinion would do nothing but encourage the child to also be violent.

I think it honestly depends on how you go about the situation.
I was spanked. Many people I know were spanked. None of them are violent.
Because, the parents made it obvious, that it wasn't okay for us to do that to another person. A lot of the time, a spanking was more of a threat to keep me in line.
If the parents aren't talking to the child, and disciplining them more without violence, then yes, that could lead to a very physical child.

 

[Mr. Grumpy Gills]

Bad parenting is to be verbally and/or phycially abusive to your children, ignoring them, starving them/letting them over eat, not being home, not helping them when they have a problem, not loving them, not giving them all you can.

I could never spank a child, but I don't think is completely wrong. As long as it's used appropriately, as in the child has badly misbehaved. But I think sitting the child down and having a stern talk works fine. I've never been spanked, even when I was bad when I was younger. My parents would always sit us down and talk to us for a long time, and we would learn our lesson.