Bad Parenting.

[BabyPiglet]

What, for you, classifies bad parenting? Examples?

What about spanking, do you classify it as child abuse, and why?

Discuss.

I hope this turns into a good conversation

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Neglecting your child is bad parenting to me. There's more but that's the first thing that came to my mind.

Yes I believe that 'spanking' is child abuse.
A little tap on the hand is OK but not a smack on the hand,behind,leg,etc.

I don't care if it teaches the child right from wrong,when my dad did it, all it left was bad memories.

 

[Babyjustrun]

I was spanked. But it wasn't like constant beating. It might have hurt when it it happened, but I didn't feel the pain afterwards.
I don't even remember much about it, other than that. Depending on how the person is spanking the child, is how I classify it. If the parent is screaming and yelling so the child is reduced to tears and then spanked, that is awful.

 

[CheezDoodle]

I was spanked, it was no big deal, I mean I didn't like it, but it didn't hurt afterwards or any thing. If I have kids I'm not going to do it to them, but I don't think it makes somebody a bad parent if they spank their kids.

I think yelling and screaming at a kid is much worse than spanking.

 

[Sparx]

I don't classify spanking as child abuse, but I would never spank a child. I don't have to hit you to make you listen to me.

lack of food is child abuse.
beating is child abuse.
verbal abuse is child abuse.
'tough love' is child abuse (this is where you hold a child in place until they calm down.)

 

[VMK_MagicalLadee]

My parents believe spanking is wrong and so do I.

I would never hit a child.

 

[Ping-PongMaster]

bad parenting is not giving your kid enough attention, but it is also giving your child too much attention. if you spoil your child, he/she can and most likely will turn out to be a spoiled little brat. my family may have a lot of money, but i was never spoiled when i was little. i got what i wanted, but i was aways told not to take advantage of it. i was tought discipline, and i turned out to be a very "cheap" person, if you know what i mean.

bad parenting is also not keeping track of what your kid eats. if you let your child eat whatever he/she wants whenever it wants to, they are most likely going to become obese, and will have a lot of health problems when they grow up.

im also against slapping children. the only thing physical discipline is going to teach the child is to be afraid of their mom or dad. there are also many other ways of punishing a child for doing something wrong.

 

[BabyPiglet]

bad parenting is also not keeping track of what your kid eats. if you let your child eat whatever he/she wants whenever it wants to, they are most likely going to become obese, and will have a lot of health problems when they grow up.

Wow, that's a big jump IMHO.

 

[Ping-PongMaster]

Wow, that's a big jump IMHO.

well if you were a little kid and you saw a huge lollipop in the window, you would want it wouldnt you? that one lollipop turns into a lollipop, some doritos, a donut, etc. a good parent would set a limit, but a careless one would keep giving and giving and eventually the child will become obese.

 

[Babyjustrun]

bad parenting is not giving your kid enough attention, but it is also giving your child too much attention. if you spoil your child, he/she can and most likely will turn out to be a spoiled little brat. my family may have a lot of money, but i was never spoiled when i was little. i got what i wanted, but i was aways told not to take advantage of it. i was tought discipline, and i turned out to be a very "cheap" person, if you know what i mean.

bad parenting is also not keeping track of what your kid eats. if you let your child eat whatever he/she wants whenever it wants to, they are most likely going to become obese, and will have a lot of health problems when they grow up.

im also against slapping children. the only thing physical discipline is going to teach the child is to be afraid of their mom or dad. there are also many other ways of punishing a child for doing something wrong.

A lot of my childhood, say from.. 6 to now, I chose my own snacks. I ate what I wanted, usually whenever I wanted (obviously not right before or after meals). I AM NOT OBESE.
However, parents should explain to children, that eating junk all the time is bad, and encourage them to exercise and have fun.

I have seen those people, who feed their 2 year olds whatever they want. And it is disgusting and horrifying.
But I think if a parent is going to encourage their own child to eat healthier, they should take that pattern to. Kids are impressionable.

 

[2HOT2touch]

in definition anything that leaves a mark on a child such as a hand print is considered child abuse. I wrote a pretty long speech on child abuse and you wouldn't believe the things I know about it. I hate child abuse, and when I am older I want to be a foster parent and a children's lawyer.

 

[BabyPiglet]

well if you were a little kid and you saw a huge lollipop in the window, you would want it wouldnt you? that one lollipop turns into a lollipop, some doritos, a donut, etc. a good parent would set a limit, but a careless one would keep giving and giving and eventually the child will become obese.

Yeah, but just because you eat a few high calorie snacks doesn't mean you're going to be obese.

I don't normally eat healthy stuff and I'm not obese.

 

[Lil_Tink]

I don't think spanking is child abuse, as long as it is to an extent. Sometimes time outs don't work for kids and you have to use other ways. A quick smack is ok, but if it leaves marks or bruises then that is abuse.

 

[Disney.Ears]

I heard on GMA about parents who put hot sauce on their child(ren)'s tounges as punishment..That's bad parenting to me. It's not necessary.

I was spanked a little. Nothing like a big WAAM! Just little taps here and there. I learned my lesson LOL.

 

[Sparx]

in definition anything that leaves a mark on a child such as a hand print is considered child abuse. I wrote a pretty long speech on child abuse and you wouldn't believe the things I know about it. I hate child abuse, and when I am older I want to be a foster parent and a children's lawyer.

in your opinion, does that refer only to a physical mark?

 

[2HOT2touch]

in your opinion, does that refer only to a physical mark?

no that's ony one part of the deffinition. This is an exerpt from my speech:
Child abuse is divided into four types of abuse, neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse and emotional abuse. Children who are neglected physically and emotionally may not develope normally. Some children suffer permanent damage. Neglect includes neglect of food, neglect of clothing, neglect of housing, neglect of supervision, meglect of medical and emotional care and neglect of education. Neglect is when a parent or caregiver doesn'tprovide for the basic emotional and physical needs of the child on an ongoing basis. Physical abuse includes anything a caregiver does that results in physical harm to a child. Physical abuse may happen if a child is punished harshly even though the parent may not have meant to hurt the child. Physical abuse includes bruises, marks in the shape of objects or handprints, shaking, burns,human bite marks, fractures to the skull, legs or ribs, and mutilation. sexual abuse occurs when a person uses power over a child and invloves the child in any sexual act. I'm not going to go into detail about this one, because it is a Disney site but if you want to talk about it you can PM me, i've had some experience i guess you can say in this. and lastly there is emotional abuse, when a parent or caregiver continually uses any of the following when interacting or disciplining a child, rejecting(I wish you were never born), criticizing(why can't you do anything right?), insulting(I can't believe how stupid you are), humiliating or embarrassing the child in front of other people, terrorizing/scaring( the police are going to come and take you away), isolating (not allowing the child to play with others), corrupting ( swearing in front of the child or having the child participat in illegal things), not responding emotionally, and punishing the child for exploring the environment.


I've always been really interested in child abuse, I guess I just wanted to know what was happening in my family. When I was younger I was sexually abused by my grandfather, and my cousins are abused my their mother. I want to be able to help them, but I can't, it's complicated, so that is why I can't wait to become a lawyer and finally beable to help people like my family.

 

[BabyPiglet]

no that's ony one part of the deffinition. This is an exerpt from my speech:
Child abuse is divided into four types of abuse, neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse and emotional abuse. Children who are neglected physically and emotionally may not develope normally. Some children suffer permanent damage. Neglect includes neglect of food, neglect of clothing, neglect of housing, neglect of supervision, meglect of medical and emotional care and neglect of education. Neglect is when a parent or caregiver doesn'tprovide for the basic emotional and physical needs of the child on an ongoing basis. Physical abuse includes anything a caregiver does that results in physical harm to a child. Physical abuse may happen if a child is punished harshly even though the parent may not have meant to hurt the child. Physical abuse includes bruises, marks in the shape of objects or handprints, shaking, burns,human bite marks, fractures to the skull, legs or ribs, and mutilation. sexual abuse occurs when a person uses power over a child and invloves the child in any sexual act. I'm not going to go into detail about this one, because it is a Disney site but if you want to talk about it you can PM me, i've had some experience i guess you can say in this. and lastly there is emotional abuse, when a parent or caregiver continually uses any of the following when interacting or disciplining a child, rejecting(I wish you were never born), criticizing(why can't you do anything right?), insulting(I can't believe how stupid you are), humiliating or embarrassing the child in front of other people, terrorizing/scaring( the police are going to come and take you away), isolating (not allowing the child to play with others), corrupting ( swearing in front of the child or having the child participat in illegal things), not responding emotionally, and punishing the child for exploring the environment.


I've always been really interested in child abuse, I guess I just wanted to know what was happening in my family. When I was younger I was sexually abused by my grandfather, and my cousins are abused my their mother. I want to be able to help them, but I can't, it's complicated, so that is why I can't wait to become a lawyer and finally beable to help people like my family.

What inspired me to help child abuse victims is a little skit I did in 2nd grade.

My aunt was in college speech, and had picked child abuse as her topic, so she decided to make it a little more interesting, and recruited me as an "actor" for it. I played a little abused girl, and really it was kinda fun being in front of all those people. But it really got me thinking, and so I asked my mom about a few things...and the rest is history....

Kristy, I'm so sorry though. That must feel absolutely horrible.

 

[hidmickey:myantidrug]

In my opinion, parenting isn't something that you can say "this is right, for sure" and "this is wrong, for sure" (obviously except for the obvious. Shooting your child is, for sure, a wrong thing to do, for instance). It's not black and white. It's hard to explain what I'm trying to say and it's too late for me to try, to a great extent. I'll come back tomorrow and try harder.

But no, I don't think spanking a child constitutes as abuse. I've seen abuse and spanking is not it (except for obviously the extremes).

 

[RaggedyAnnPrincess]

I have two friends.One told me that her parents spanked her with a wooden spoon,and the other told me that her parents whipped her with a belt.Should that be considered child abuse? My parents would spank me when I was little, but never with a hard object! Like Disney Ears,it was just a few Taps.

 

[Ping-PongMaster]

Yeah, but just because you eat a few high calorie snacks doesn't mean you're going to be obese.

I don't normally eat healthy stuff and I'm not obese.

well thats my point. a few high calorie snacks wont hurt. but kids never just stop at a couple. they dont know limits until they are taught limits, and if the parents dont teach that kid limits, they will never have them, leading to obesity.