AVery Depressing Turn of Events (Pixie Dust Needed!)

[jsmla]

After a long discussion with FIL's (notice not DFIL!) doctor it has been decided that he will need someone with him 24/7. He is an Alzheimer's patient and has recently taken to wandering. The greatest responsibilty for him will fall to me and I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with this. DH, DD and DS are all helping out but they have jobs and school while I have had the luxury of being a stay at home mom all these years. I'm going to have to give up my volunteer work, travel and all sorts of other things to do this and I'm just so frustrated! It feels like I've just been sentenced to house arrest. FIL and I have never gotten along and right now I'm just so sorry for him as well as for myself. Not really looking for a solution. Just needed to vent and maybe have a little pixie dust sent both our ways. I'm trying to stay positive for my friends and family because I don't want them feeling bad about something they can't do anything about. Thanks for listening.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I know you aren't looking for a solution, but can I give some advice anyway? Look for a local Alzheimer's care-taker support group. It's a lot for one person to handle.

 

[minniecarousel]

Sorry that this falls to you - hang in there. (are you sure you're "the only one" who can do this?)

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

 

[golfgal]

Hugs. Make sure that when your DH and kids get home that they are pitching in as well. Take that time for yourself, go shopping, out to eat with friends, etc. I would contact the Alzheimer Support Groups too. Often they have adult daycare available so you could still do some volunteer work, etc.

Have you looked into assisted living places?