Attn: Small-ish WISHers

[sk8ingmom]

HI !

I'm just wondering if anyone else is like me and afraid to post anything regarding size or weight for fear of the "oh you're so lucky" "your starting weight is my goal", etc. I KNOW I'm luck! Decent genes, determination, etc. That doesn't make losing weight any easier!

Here's what I mean...I've always been a pretty small person. I'm 5'2" and didn't break 100 lbs. until I was 22 years old. I got back to 110 after each of my 2 DSs, but then ballooned to 142 as a result of life stress and laziness. I cried when I had to buy size 8 pants - but I also realize that size 8 would sound great to many people.

ANYWAY, I'm at 120 right now (110 is my goal) and getting discouraged by comments (in real life, not WISH) about why I am watching what I eat, etc. I don't announce I'm on a diet for all the world to hear, but the big plate of carrots is a give-away!

I just wondered if anyone else has this experience and wants to commiserate or share announcements! I can tell from photos in sigs that I am not the only WISHer that many would consider already pretty small.

Maybe this is my way of creating a safe place to shout:
I CAN NOW BUTTON, ZIP AND SIT DOWN IN MY FAVORITE PAIR OF OLD JEANS!!
They are size 2x32 Ralph Lauren's ! Not ready for their public re-debut yet, but I couldn't get them past my knees 5 months ago!!!!

 

[Cruise04]

Well, I do want to congratulate you for being able to get them up over your knees compared to 5 months ago - that's a good accomplishment.

I'm not here to say whoohoo, yet. I'm still 82 pounds away from being just above where you are now. But I'm not going to "condemn" you for not having much to lose. I want to instead encourage you to keep trying. I have always been heavy, except for the year that I starved myself (literally - my food consisted of a diet coke for breakfast, a diet coke and Reese's peanut butter cup (2) for lunch, a diet coke before sports practices, half a sandwich and some chips and a diet coke for dinner). I have always struggled with losing. So I know it's hard. And I know it's hard to get down to a certain point and then it just seems to stop. Even with the 52 pounds I've lost so far I've hit those points already. But somehow it keeps going.

The one thing that I would caution you is maybe your body is saying that it can't get down anymore. I got down to 130 and no matter what I did - I worked out even more than I already was - and my body wouldn't budge anymore. Don't force yourself too much if it doesn't want to go down anymore. 120 is a good weight (not by nutrional chart standards but by most doctors) at your height.

I know there's going to be a point when I'm going to cry when I get into a size 10/12 - because I will know that I have made it!!!!!

Keep up your good work, listen to your body, and be happy that you are who you are inside! And, again, congrats on the jeans!

 

[jillane88]

Right there with you. For me, the worst comments come from my sister and my mother - "why do you exercise so much? you are already thin " etc... I can't even talk to my sister about it, she just gets mad at me. Granted, I hae always been on the small size - except for when I was pregnant with twins, which just turned 5 years old! Now my goal is to get fit and toned up. As I tell my sister, you can be thin and still not be in shape. I want muscle tone, not flabby skin. Clothes hide alot - even on someone people think is thin. I am 5'10" and weigh 140 (please no flames). This is 15 lbs more than I weighed when I got married. I have a small frame and very small features, so even though this may sound quite trim to some, I really feel my best between 130 & 135 and that is my goal. I want to wear a bikini for my upcoming cruise and until my abs and buns are toned and the flab is gone, there is no way I will feel good about it.

I'm not really on a "diet" so to speak, just trying to eat healthy and exercise a lot - because I feel a heck of a lot better that way and have so much more energy and less stress.

So far I've felt nothing but encouragement from this board. Thank you!
Heather

 

[westcliffemom]

To me, the WISH board isn't always about losing, it is about maintaining too. I am not needing to lose much more, but I need encouragement to keep going, to not back slide -stop exercising and not eat right. Does that make sense? That's why I come here, to see others talking about their goals and struggles and NOT GIVE UP!

When I look at someone who looks like they are in shape, I used to think - wow, that would be nice! Now I think- "There's a woman who works hard and probably exercises hard and watches what she eats". Staying in shape is hard work and doesn't take long to go back to old bad habits. Keep up the good work! You and your body knows what you need and how you can look.

 

[saturday97]

One thing you can tell people when they ask why you are watching what you are eating is that you want to be healthier-- simple as that! Even people who are happy with their weight make the choice to eat healthy to increase energy, pursue healthy activities, etc.

I have a small frame too-- it just can't handle the same amount of weight that other women's bodies can.

 

[norma1223]

I can relate completely to what you wrote. I've been in maintenance for a little over a year after losing over 25 pounds. During those last 10 pounds or so, I heard comments about how I didn't need to lose anymore and I was wasting away to nothing, etc. Even now, I hear that I'm so lucky to be able to eat anything I want or that I must have good genes to be at my current weight. It's not luck and it's not genes - it's lots of exercise and healthy eating.

More than 80% of the adults in my immediate and extended family are overweight or obese. Diabetes and heart problems are rampant in my family. I am very concerned about the health aspects of being overweight, especially since there appears to be a genetic component. As my doctor said I'm fighting age and genetics, but I'm winning the battle. I'm proud of what I've accomplished and I don't let other people's comments affect how I choose to live my life. For the record, I'm 49, 5' 5 1/2", weigh 122 pounds, and wear a size 4.

Like westcliffemom, I also continue to visit the WISH board to get the encouragement I sometimes need to not backslide and to continue living a healthy lifestyle.

If you feel 110 lbs. is a good weight for your height and bone structure, then continue with your current plan. Don't let others discourage you.

 

[smilie]

I am in the same position as you. I don't feel that I'm over weight, just out of shape. Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING on me jiggles. I just want to start eating healthy and I've been going to the gym to tone up my muscles. I don't have a weight "goal" because I'm trying to tone up and get some muscle-and I realize that muscle weighs more then fat. So it would be pointless to track my weight right now. Just listen to your body, as long as you're doing it right and staying healthy I say go for it. I know what you mean about trying to get into old jeans. I can't wait until I can get an old pair of jeans past my THIGHS. Good luck!

 

[Misty89]

HI !

I'm just wondering if anyone else is like me and afraid to post anything regarding size or weight for fear of the "oh you're so lucky" "your starting weight is my goal", etc. I KNOW I'm luck! Decent genes, determination, etc. That doesn't make losing weight any easier!

Here's what I mean...I've always been a pretty small person. I'm 5'2" and didn't break 100 lbs. until I was 22 years old. I got back to 110 after each of my 2 DSs, but then ballooned to 142 as a result of life stress and laziness. I cried when I had to buy size 8 pants - but I also realize that size 8 would sound great to many people.

ANYWAY, I'm at 120 right now (110 is my goal) and getting discouraged by comments (in real life, not WISH) about why I am watching what I eat, etc. I don't announce I'm on a diet for all the world to hear, but the big plate of carrots is a give-away!

I just wondered if anyone else has this experience and wants to commiserate or share announcements! I can tell from photos in sigs that I am not the only WISHer that many would consider already pretty small.

Maybe this is my way of creating a safe place to shout:
I CAN NOW BUTTON, ZIP AND SIT DOWN IN MY FAVORITE PAIR OF OLD JEANS!!
They are size 2x32 Ralph Lauren's ! Not ready for their public re-debut yet, but I couldn't get them past my knees 5 months ago!!!!

HI
I am also a shorty LOL i am 5' 1 1/2" tall. I weighed in at 130 last week at my first WW meeting. I am 32 years old...all my life i wieghed 100 dripping wet. the last size of pants i can get around my waist was a size 12...WAY too big on the hips, butt and legs, but fit in the gut where it fit. ( i cant stand tight pants on my tummy) people would also tell me i am thin, small etc. I also have 2 dd with whom i lost the wieght both times. I never had to watch what i was eating in my 20's.
I joined WW to see if i can do it, I would like to wear pants that fit me everywhere not just my gut from now on, I am not even going to try to get back down to 100 lbs....i have set a goal and see how i look and feel when i reach it....I have also realized that i wont look like i did when i was younger,
but a little lost will look better than round in the middle like now.

 

[sm4987]

I have the same problem. I am 4'10 and now weigh between 123-125. I would like to weigh 115 as a personal preference, but if I don't get there, I'm fine with that. I lost 60 pounds due to a sbd/atkins mix over a year and a half ago and have maintained since then. I still follow the diet very closely and do allow for those occasional treats. I wear between a 0 and 4 (mostly a 2 though) I hear all the time (especially from family) how dumb I am to be following a diet and exercising so much. I've learned to ignore the critism and just live my life as my life. I know how I feel and how I look and that's good enough for me.

If you want to get down to that weight, I say go for it. Just know (as I'm learning) those last ten pounds are killer to get off!

 

[lovinaz]

I am pretty much in the same boat! I am 5'4" and weigh 135. I have been trying to get down to 125 since July... My family and friends are always telling me I don't need to lose any weight, but I just feel so much better about myself when I am under 130. I have gotten nothing but support from this board, which is why I continue chugging along instead of just giving up. The exercise challenges keep me going to the gym because I don't want to miss a goal! And yes, it is frustrating to see everyone losing a bunch of weight while I the same 3-4lbs month after month, but at the same time I am so happy for them because we are all in this together, whether we have 10 or 100lbs to lose!

 

[sk8ingmom]

You guys are ALL great! I love being able to shout out into cyberspace in frustration and get nothing but good vibes back!

It seems like everyone, no matter what size, just needs to find a weight/fitness level where they are "comfortable in their skin". I'm never was, nor never will be a super model, but I know what feels right for me!

 

[Cruise04]

Hi sm4987 - I just had to stick in here that I'm also 4'10"! I don't think I've ever met anyone, yet, that has actually admitted that they are 4'10". Cool!

 

[sm4987]

hello cruise4. I've learned that I might as ell accept it, it's not gonna change any time soon.

 

[andromedaslove]

Well, I don't fit in on the height with most of you here. I am a little more than 5'8, but I definatley understand not needing to lose much "weight". After I had my third child I weighed 206, most of which I have lost already. I am down to 148.5 as of this morning. Now 145 is usually my goal weight, because I work out at the gym 5 days a week and have quite a bit of muscle, but 145 puts me in a size 5 sometimes 7 in juniors. I have always wanted to join in here, but felt a little uncomfortable posting my stats (height/weight) because so many people ask me why I am trying to lose weight. Me and my Mom used to go rounds about it because she weighed almost 300 at 5'2. Now that she is down to 170 she isn't as hard on me about trying to lose weight and get fit.

Anyway, I just wanted to say I understand exactly what you mean and would love to have a place where even us "smaller" wishers can get together and help each other out.

Dana