at what age do kids start asking ? about the birds and the bees?

[minnieandmickeymouse]

I have 4 kids ages 8 ( he will be 9 in 4 months) 6, 4,2.

My oldest DS 8, has never once asked a single question! Not even where do babies come from, or how do they get there! I know he knows that mommy has the baby in her tummy, he's seen me PG 3 times. But when should I ecpect any other questions? I hate for him to hear things from other kids. I wonder if he is scared to ask me or DH.
When did your kids start asking questions?
I am not looking forward to the day he does ask. I just want to know if it is normal that he hasn't asked.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Well, I don't have kids, but I know that growing up, I never asked any questions. I just found out on my own when I was old enough to think about it (probably around age 9 or 10) and looked it up in my encyclopedia set.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

yeah, i never asked anything either..i had an older cousin that talked ..but never asked my parents

 

[HisEllyNelly]

DS(11) started asking when he was 5 just before his sister was born. DD(6) started when she was 3 thanks to watching a Baby's Story with me on TLC....she was blunt then and still has no problems just coming out with ??'s to floor me. Sometimes I have to tell her to give me a few minutes so I can figure out exactly how to word things.I think the only thing she isnt quite clear on is how the babies actually get into the mom....but she is starting to ask that too.

 

[monarchsfan16]

I asked when I was 12, after 6 months or so of being harrassed about my lack of knowledge at school. Frankly I didn't care (still don't), but apparently others did . From the sounds of it, most of the kids in my grade found out when they were about 10. And most don't ask. If you want him to find out from a reliable source (read-not the rumors at school) be prepared to sit him down for a chat, when you're ready.

 

[grinningghost]

I never asked, I just found out however kids do - from friends or something.

DD asked me for a definitive answer when she was about 9. She wasn't buying the stork theory anymore, and she would roll her eyes when I told her that God put the baby in a Mommy's tummy.

So I gave it to her straight.

Boy was she sorry.

 

[MinnieYC]

No kids here, but I have heard a lot of pediatricians recommend starting "the talk" when a child is visibly starting puberty, if you haven't already. It helps them understand that the changes happening to them are normal.

 

[CamColt]

Originally posted by grinningghost
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So I gave it to her straight.

Boy was she sorry. [/B]

ROFL!

 

[disneysteve]

I guess DD started around 6. Little by little, we've explained things at an age appropriate level using various books and diagrams to help the discussion. She will be 9 in a few days and is quite well informed for her age (which occasionally causes a problem). For example, there was a discussion at school that mentioned how a man and woman get married and decide to have a baby. DD pointed out that you don't HAVE to be married. Later in the talk, she also contested the boy and girl concept because she understands artificial insemination and she knows at least one homosexual couple who had a baby together. Teaching the birds and the bees isn't quite as simple as it used to be.

 

[RadioNate]

I never asked - at 29 w/ a child of my own I still can't imagine discussing "it" with my mom or dad!

We had a movie at school in 5th grade and then there was health class.

I think I just learned from other kids etc. For the most part I understood the mechanics by 10 or 11.

 

[ZachnElli]

We just told ds (9) in early summer. He had (we moved) a friend with older siblings giving him lots of info, so we decided to step in and give him the truth. He was never a curious kid about it either. But I wanted him to know the truth and not hashed down myths from the neighbor's kid! LOL! We got the book, "Where did I Come From?" and dh and ds read it together. We put the book up, since we have dd 5. Ds did say "GROSS!" LOL!

 

[Pin Wizard]

DS was 9 or 10. He says it was during 5th grade. Seems longer ago than that to me. We sat down with a book and read it. He was asking a question here and there for a little while. But I wanted to beat the friends to the punch with it, so we read.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

DS asked when he was 9. My DD8 asked a couple of weeks ago. I think she is still in shock. I told them the truth. I gave them the correct names for things, never cutsey words.

My ped. asked my son if he knew about the birds and the bees at his last physical. He looked at me confused. I said, " she wants to know if you know about sex?" He didn't know what the birds and the bees were. He said, "Ohhhh, yeah!"

Lori

 

[Phrebert]

The way I learned was with a pair of high powerrd binoculars.

 

[liznboys]

Well my 4 year old has asked all sorts of questions!!! We give him the bland version for now, he can be a little bit older for the specifics. I tell ya, the first time he asked dh and I, we were pretty freaked! LOL!!!!

 

[Robinrs]

My son and I have "discussed" it in stages over the years. He is now 11 and is very clear on it. Funny this subject came up because his class is going to Fernbank Museum tomorrow for the "boys" sex ed session. He's actually looking forward to it!

 

[gr8tpanther]

My kids never asked, I just told.... they are 10 and 11 (going on 12) and I think I started telling them things when they were like 5 or so.