At home reception

[dakcp2001]

We are having a small escape wedding with just parents.

My parents want us to have an at home reception with all the aunts uncles etc to "show us off"

DF family thinks this is extremely tacky and is insisting we have to either invite everyone to the Disney wedding (which to me seems like an UNvitation, and would prob be more offensive to the relatives we dont see often) or they insist we must just get married at home. That BTW is not happening. We KNOW if we invite the extended fam to Disn about 50-75% would say no.


We are thinking of doing an at home Halloween Party/reception in costumes for our friends & family. Just renting a hall & having a cater is a zillion times less expensive without the word WEDDING in this area. ANd Halloween is BIG in Massachusetts, I think it would be fun!!

I am ok with just eloping and having no at home reception, as is DF. But we both like the idea of a Halloween party. Is this tacky?

 

[figment fan21]

Well hello fellow massachusetts-er! Even though we recently moved to NH we're right over the boarder so i consider myself still from Mass!

I feel the same way! DF and I decided a big wedding here wasn't what we wanted... also not something we could afford. We are now planning an october 2010 escape wedding and are perfectly fine with that being it. Alot of people are giving us crap about it so DF and I decided to have a party at our house and have it catered and just have it be low-key and relaxed... nothing crazy.

Well certain people got wind fo that idea ::cough:: my mother ::cough:: and called up saying that was unacceptable and that shes will to pay for everything if we can have a reception at the ELKS that shes a member of and she wants to invite HER friends so that we can get "shown off". This to me completely defeats the whole purpose of doing a very small destination wedding. DF and I are totally against it and are sticking with the small party at the house. We even talked about doing it a few weeks before the wedding in september so the weather will be nice and we could have tables set up outside and have it be more of a cook out.

My advice to you is to keep your wedding how you want it. If your thing isn't the big 300+ guest list wedding then don't do it and don't let someone pressure you into it. I almost did and i'm glad i stood my ground. by the way when are you planning your escape wedding?

p.s. I love the halloween costume party idea! I dont know if you're near the salem MA area but that would add to the festivities! I used to go to salem state college and the traffic getting in and out the entire month of october was insane!

 

[Ann117]

I have always wanted a Disney wedding but can not afford a huge one. So I am having a small wedding as well but i really want the other people in my life who would not be able to go to Disney anyway be apart of my wedding. So i am having a reception when I get home. It is also going to be relaxed and fun. I do not think its tacky and it lets you spreed out this one of a life time event and have even more fun with it. Its your wedding so do whatever u want if u want it small then do it that way. You will hopefully only do this once so you should have no regrets. A Halloween theme would be fun to.

 

[Kimmers127]

I'm planning a Wishes wedding for September 2010, we're a little concerned that some people who we would like to be there won't make the trip (example: his sister has 5 kids so not exactly a cheap trip, and none of our grandparents have the health for that kind of trip). It's important to me to have the ceremony and reception together in FL. I only get one wedding day and I want it to be a DAY. I don't want to have to wait and have our first dance two weeks later, to me that would feel false.

So Nick's solution was to have the Wishes wedding in FL, complete with DP, and then have a reception when we get home as well. We can have the at-home reception very inexpensively if we have it at the VFW out here, because Nick and I both help out there all the time and his mom essentially runs it, so they'll help us do everything as cheaply as possible. We'll do a scaled down reception, but with all the traditional "wedding" elements... dinner, dancing, cake, redo of the first dance, so that the people who couldn't make it to FL can still feel very much a part of our wedding. At first I thought this was sort of overkill (two receptions!) but you know what? You do what works for you and your situation. It truly is YOUR wedding.