Asking a bridesmaid to bow out?? -- 6/27th Updated / Resolved

[DVCGirl49]

Thank you for sharing ThunderMTexpert...I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one having crazy issues like this!

 

[DVCGirl49]

I would like to thank everyone for their advice, opinions, suggestions, and support.

While I generally agree with those who've stated that it is distasteful to withraw an invitation to be in a wedding once it's been given, I do have to take my own personal health and well being into consideration as well. This situation has been extremely stressful and has been a burden on DF, meself, and both our families.

The issue has now been resolved and the bridesmaid in question and the groomsman (her husband) will be attending our wedding just as guests.

Once we sat down and discussed it, DF and I still felt very strongly that while we value thier friendship and wanted them to be in the wedding party to help us celebrate we do not want anyone to feel uncomfortable with thier role or participation in our wedding. We would prefer to have our friends be able to attend as happy unstressed guests and enjoy the day with us, rather than stressed out schedule and financially constrained attendants.

It is a decision that is the best for everyone involved, and we are happy and relieved that it has been resolved.

Thank you again for everyone's help and support!

You guys are the best!

 

[dmslush]

I would like to thank everyone for their advice, opinions, suggestions, and support.

While I generally agree with those who've stated that it is distasteful to withraw an invitation to be in a wedding once it's been given, I do have to take my own personal health and well being into consideration as well. This situation has been extremely stressful and has been a burden on DF, meself, and both our families.

The issue has now been resolved and the bridesmaid in question and the groomsman (her husband) will be attending our wedding just as guests.

Once we sat down and discussed it, DF and I still felt very strongly that while we value thier friendship and wanted them to be in the wedding party to help us celebrate we do not want anyone to feel uncomfortable with thier role or participation in our wedding. We would prefer to have our friends be able to attend as happy unstressed guests and enjoy the day with us, rather than stressed out schedule and financially constrained attendants.

It is a decision that is the best for everyone involved, and we are happy and relieved that it has been resolved.

Thank you again for everyone's help and support!

You guys are the best!

I'm glad that you were able to bring this to a close. It should take a lot of stress off of you and give you the chance to actually enjoy the planning process.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

im so glad you did what makes you happy....stress...i can make you sick....seriously....i had stress so bad a my job as reception, i would get bad headaches & my blodd pressure went up....i finally told them I couldnt work there anymore, but they were nice & offered me a position in billing.....i feel so much better....so you made a wise decision...stress can harm you & you dont want that for your wedding

Best wishes