Are you stuck living somewhere you hate?

[DMickey28]

I very much dislike where I live. I hate it 9 months out of the year. The first three I deal with it because the weather is nice.

we live here because of DH's job. He is currently looking for a new one that will get us to move somewhere else.

It's too hot 9 months out of the year. I despise grocery shopping week in and week out sweating. I hate not really being able to go outside because it's too freaking hot for an infant. I hate the general enviroment made up by the people, the landscaping and the buildings. The area we live in now is much better but I am sick of palm trees and little wimpy trees. I want a tree that is not a palm and taller than my house.

The lizards. I hate lizards. This time of year they are better but during the summer I can't open my front door without a lizard running inside. Luckily the cats usually take care of that.

The COL. I do not see a time in the future when we can buy a house if we stay here. Our friends bought a small two bedroom townhouse down the street from where we used to live for over $600K. Now I don't want to buy a condo or a townhouse, I want a house with a little backyard and no one on top of me. I want my own garage and my own driveway. I want my mailbox at the end of that driveway. I do not see that happening here, at least in a town that I would want to raise my son and other future children in. I do not want to have our second child until we have a house so that bugs me.

I want to move to Dallas, Indy or basically anywhere else that has a small resemblance of seasons without the bitter cold of Chicago (though I would like that, DH would hate it.) Some place that has a afford housing market. I would like to be able to purchase a 3/4 bedroom home for under $300K.

I am currently obsessed with Colorado and other areas out there. I don't think I'd ever move there, too far from family in MA but I'd love to give it a shot. Looks so beautiful out there. I grew up on the ocean and missed it when living in Indy and Chicago. I am back now and NEVER go. I would love to live near some mountains and be able to really get back into skiing again. I'd love to teach DS to ski, well when he can walk!!

 

[december]

Yep-I hate it here. Luckily we are already in the process of moving back home. We moved 3 hrs from everyone we know last summer because dh wasn't happy and he always wanted to live in this area. I agreed, but the kids and I are miserable. The great job we thought he had fell through, and he had to take a big paycut with no benefits. I teach so make the same no matter where in the state I live.

Luckily, dh's replacement was an idiot and they realized what they lost in him. They offered his job back at the same salary he had before (making $10,000 more than the job he had here, plus great benefits and retirement) PLUS they are building us a new house and paying utilities. He started last week and is living with his brother right now. I agreed to stay here with the kids until May and sell the house, but I'm thinking more and more about breaking my contract and bolting! I hate it here and want to go home! If the house sells we'll have to rent, and I'd rather rent there and be with dh than rent here without him, so that will be the deciding factor. We really can't afford to pay for the house and rent at the same time. And our house there won't be ready until late spring.

 

[dogluva]

Yup - Live in Massachusetts and I hate it. If we could, we'd move to Florida today. We can't. My step-son's father lives in Mass., and has visitation. Even if we could move, we wouldn't, as it wouldn't be fair to my step-son. The day he graduates high school, we be out of here.

I often wonder why I didn't move to Florida when I was single. I guess I just wasn't ready then. Obviously, I'm glad I didn't. I never would have met my wife and had my boys.

I have lived in MA my whole life. I hate it. Sad but true. I hate the winters. They are long. By March I am sick of it all. However, it changes for about a month in October. I love the Fall. I want to move somewhere warm and come back just for the month of Oct.

I cannot move either. My oldest children would be heartbroken. My mother is here. My job and my husband's jobs are here.

My kids ski as well. I am destined to live here forever.

 

[scottishduffy]

We Live in Miami, FL and absolutely despise it!!! We are stuck here because I want to obtain a Master's degree and the program I want is in Miami. We are already counting down the days until I graduate and we can move back to Orlando.

Miami is a concrete jungle. There is not a single tree around that wasn't planned out on a city grid. The people (most of them) are rude and the drivers around here are some of the worst! I believe Miami has been rated worst in country for driving as I saw on some survey. While learning spanish has been useful, I overall hate the city. Too crowded and too 'trendy' for our tastes. It is hot as hades for 11 months out of the year and no one takes pride in where they live. Things are so messy and run down all over the city.

I can't wait to move back to Orlando. A much more family centered city. Most of our friends still live back in Orlando as well. We miss the city of the mouse so very much. We had 5 happy years there and will return!

 

[momto2girls]

I used to be. I lived in Tampa for 13 years and hated every single one of them. I'm just not a Florida gal. I return for WDW and that is it!

 

[POOHDRMR]

We bought our house 5 years ago and we hate where we live.At the time it was all we really could afford -my dd was 1 and I am a sahm and it is close to my husbands job at the time.we live about 45 min from the rest of our family and noone likes to drve out to us except for Christmas.The area is not what we hoped and the schools are not great.Taxes have gone up 3000 since we moved in cause the school tax has gone up 14% each year.We knew that the schools were not the best but the lower taxes compared to the taxes in the good school districts made up for it but now we are not far behind the top districts.My husband has a new job now and his comute is an hour or more each way but it was a good oppertunity and we want to move closer to our family and his new job.Cost of living on Long Island sucks but I can't move away from the family.Unfortunately we live in an area with alot of illegal immagrants and it has taken a toll on the community-not tying to start any trouble but it definately has hurt the schools.

 

[Cool-Beans]

This is just something that's been on my mind lately. Are you stuck? Why?

One of the ladies I share an office with moved here from New York. She isn't fond of living here and doesn't try to hide it. It made me wonder just what brought her here and more importantly what *keeps* her here.

So I asked her. Was it work or family or cost of living? No. Angels. Angels led her here. And she's not one to argue with angels so here she will stay until the angels take her away.

But I but her reason isn't typical of those stuck somewhere they'd rather not be. Why are you stuck where you are?

She sounds like a fruitcake.

I live in the same city my whole life. I don't hate it, but I do hate winter and would like very much to move south when the kids are all in college and my father no longer needs me.

DH doesn't want to leave the area. He REALLY doesn't want to leave. So, we'll see how it works out...but I think we'll be staying here.

Unless I leave my husband (which I will not), I'm pretty much stuck.

 

[Virgo10]

Nope. My signature says it all.

 

[nhpooh]

Nope. My signature says it all.

Your signature says why I want to be there!

If my DH didn't get a promotion a year ago we would be there now. I hate SNOW and COLD!
I don't like the people next door, and there wood stove. I HATE when you go outside you smell like you just come out of a fire.

 

[kerrynic78]

I'm in CT and I hate it as well. Taxes are going up, cost of living is ridiculous when compared with areas I'd rather be in, weather sucks - I've been sick with migraines for the past 2 weeks because our weather can't decide what it wants to do, and I HATE snow.

Only reason we're still here - our house hasn't sold yet. It's on the market, it's priced reasonably so we're just waiting for it to go and we're outta here to AZ.

I actually miss CT! I lived there for 27 years and then moved to FL. Although I love Florida, there are a lot of things I miss about CT but the taxes, COL, and snow are not any of them! Hope you get to move soon!

 

[wilderness01]

I only dislike where I live during the winter.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I really dislike living here. The town doesn't fit me. I'm a big-city girl, not a small town one. What keeps me here, and what will keep me here for a long time is my family. My family won't move, and I can't leave my family.

Will see what happens as I get older, but right now, I'm stuck.

 

[Jpgirl]

I used to live in Ohio and while I didn't hate it I didn't love it. Dh got an offer to move to Texas and was hesitant to ask me. Are YOU KIDDING?? I had my bags packed before he finished the question. I love the heat, the humidity, the lizards, the tree frogs, the toads, no snow and especially the food. I've been here going on 6 years and I would really hate it if we had to move UNLESS it was somewhere else in TX

 

[Ride Junkie]

Funny, I was just talking about this very thing with a coworker this morning. It's biting cold outside, and I hate it. And it's not even a fun kind of cold. At least if it snowed, you could play in it. But it doesn't snow here, it just rains...a lot.

I guess I'm still here because I was born & raised here, and most of my family (and DH's family) is here. We end up helping family members every now & then, so maybe we feel obligated to stay. If we could afford it, I would love lo live somewhere with a more tropical climate. I am truly sick & tired of these cold, rainy winters!

 

[Honu]

I lived in Los Angeles for 5 years, because my DH's work is predominately located there. I really tried, but I just hate LA. I've made my DH commute from SF to LA for the past 12 years.

 

[disney1990]

I'm here, hate it, can't wait to get out

Reasons (in no particular order):
1. People don't know how to drive
2. it never snows here. It snows all around us but we never get anything
3. Nothing to do.
4. People.
5. No good ski resorts
6. so much more

Wow, it's hard to believe we live in the same state. I hate it here because
1. It's too COLD -- I hate snow
2. Cost of living is just too high.

 

[Rafiki Rafiki Rafiki]

I lived in Northeast Mississippi. I hated it there...vehemently.

Texas is much more my style. I loved Arkansas too.

I heart the South...just not Mississippi.

 

[mzzzh]

I absolutely hated, despised living in a suburb of Dallas while I was in high school. Moved to AZ by myself (to attend college) 3 months after graduation. I love living in Arizona even if summers are so darn hot.

But.....as I look back on my years in Texas, I realize that my unhappiness there had less to do with where I lived and more to do with dysfunctional family issues.

I used to visit family in Texas at least once a year. But now I don't have family there anymore, and dare I say it, I miss going to Texas!

 

[MoniqueU]

I like the area I am in and love my house. As long as I don't actually have to really go anywhere I am fine. But the minute you set foot on those freeways here anything goes. It could be standstill traffic with people driving on the shoulder to get out of it. Even my mom has done this a few times. Or the freeways could be moving. At that point all bets are off. Anyone goting anywhere near the speed limit gets passed, tailgated, stuff thrown at their cars and people weaving in and out of traffic so fast your head spins. It is not unusual to see people weaving in and out at 100 mph out there on the roads. I have been all over the US and everytime I go somewhere else it feels like I am driving behind a grandma because I am not used to going so slow.
We have suberb after suberb here, our beaches are cold even in the summer but where I live the cost of electricity is through the roof. I had to pay 1000 bucks for an AC bill once last summer. That hurt. I don't want to move out to the coast because I hate Orange County and the attitude people have there.
My husband is working down in San Diego right now and I flat out told him I won't move even though we have family down there and the two of us lived their most of our lives. We just don't think it is all that great of a place to raise your kids at. LOTS of DRUGS in the schools there and 2 working families so not alot of parental supervision for teens etc which bothers me.

I don't know where I would like it better down south I suppose but not sure I could get used to everyone you meet asking you what church you go to and being invited to bible study. That would just drive me nuts. But the cost of living is good there, the weather is nice and the beaches are WARM. Maybe someday.

 

[kimluvswdw]

I live in Virginia Beach and I hate hate hate it. I grew up here and use to like it. It is too cold for me here and I am sick of these blasted jets flying over our house. The jets used to be ok until they brought the big boys in. Big mortgage, not much money for anything else., etc.