Are you seeing your DF before the wedding?

[PrincessBride010103]

I don't know what to do. DF has already seen pics of me in my dress and im not really supersticious about it or anything. I know if i see him before we can get a lot of the picture taking crap out of the way, i just dont know if i want to see his face surprised when i walk down the aisle. He firmly believes I will look the same as always lol Did/Are you seeing your DF before the wedding?

 

[caryndisneydiva]

we are probably going to see each other, i think it will calm us both down...

 

[PrincessBride010103]

....i took df dress shopping with me lol fmil and my mom both thought i was crazy. its just i've been with him since i was 14 and i've never made a major decison with out him. hes my best friend!! i definately want to see him before but everyone thinks im nuts!

 

[helloirishkitty]

I don't know. I'm a big traditionalist, so probably not... We probably won't even sleep in the same place the night before the wedding. That all might change though... my DF thinks I won't look any different on our wedding day too, even though I'm hoping for that look of happy surprise..

 

[orangetiggs]

we are not going to see each other, DF has seen nothing of my dress, he has however seen my veil, crinoline and tiara as I made this so I was working on it alot

 

[luv4mylittleones]

nope...and we aren't sleeping together the night before either...I feel like it will add to the excitement!!

 

[poohface]

We aren't seeing each other either, I am very traditional. Even the night before the girls are staying with me and we are having a pampering night.

 

[luv4mylittleones]

We aren't seeing each other either, I am very traditional. Even the night before the girls are staying with me and we are having a pampering night.

Us too Sharon and I'm really looking forward to it...champagne and girly stuff...woohoo!!

 

[PrincessBride010103]

DF would not like that idea at all....hes such a baby

 

[soontobebride]

we did not see eachother the day of the wedding until it was time to get married, I think it adds to the excitement. We got married at 2:30pm and I thought it would seem like forever , but all I can say is that the time flew by and before I knew it it was time to get married.

 

[B2B-2008]

We are both staying at different hotels the night before the wedding and won't see each other until the ceremony. I never thought it would be but this is something that is now very important to me.

 

[helloirishkitty]

We aren't seeing each other either, I am very traditional. Even the night before the girls are staying with me and we are having a pampering night.

Me too... I'm looking forward to that almost as much as the wedding...

 

[Tiggerific04]

....i took df dress shopping with me lol fmil and my mom both thought i was crazy. its just i've been with him since i was 14 and i've never made a major decison with out him. hes my best friend!! i definately want to see him before but everyone thinks im nuts!

DH came dress shopping with me as well for exactly the same reason as you stated -- we've been together soooo long and I just couldn't imagine him not being there for such an important decision!! We stayed together the night before, and he helped me get dressed the morning of the wedding for our MK photoshoot (and again a couple hours later for the wedding itself). I think it would have been too weird for us NOT to see each other since we've always done EVERYTHING together.

Do what feels right for the two of you and don't worry if anyone else thinks you're crazy

ETA that even though he had seen me in my dress several times already, the look on his face when those doors opened was still priceless. I didn't think he would be surprised, but I don't think it matters if he's seen you before -- there's something different about seeing you at the end of the aisle.

 

[Swmhc]

Same here. We stayed in the same room the night before too. He helped get me out of my dress after the MK shoot as I couldn't get my daughter awake to unlace me. We have been together through so much, it didn't make sense not to be there for each other. I had to help him with his cuffs and buttons, he helped me lace and unlace. It was special for us to be able to help one another getting ready for the big day. But that is us.

I think you need to do what feels right for you. Everyone is different. What is important is what you and your DF want.

 

[lurkyloo]

OK, maybe this is weird - we aren't staying together for any of the nights before the wedding but we are seeing each other before the ceremony, to get pictures out of the way.

However, we are staging what they call a "first look" where the photographer is there to capture DF's face when he sees you for the first time. To me, this is the best of both worlds - you get to take your photos before the wedding but you still get that special moment when you see each other in your wedding finery for the first time. Plus, you can actually tell each other what you think and how good you look without having to wait til the end of the ceremony!

 

[superdiz]

We didn't see each other before the ceremony, I'm both a traditionalist and superstitious to the point of nearly needing medication I really think it added to the day. When the doors opened we locked in on each other and I have never felt so excited in my entire life. So for us that was the right decision.

The night before I stayed with my best friend and he stayed with a good friend of ours. I loved having that time with my best friend being giggly girls and staying up late talking. I wouldn't change a thing.

It's such a personal decision. If you feel like you want to see him, go for it!

 

[tlhbdm]

We are seeing each other but we are doing the staged seeing the bride before the wedding. We have to do pictures before because our ceremony doesn't start until 7:00 p.m. Only 6 days left!

 

[DisBride2007]

DH came dress shopping with me as well for exactly the same reason as you stated -- we've been together soooo long and I just couldn't imagine him not being there for such an important decision!! We stayed together the night before, and he helped me get dressed the morning of the wedding for our MK photoshoot (and again a couple hours later for the wedding itself). I think it would have been too weird for us NOT to see each other since we've always done EVERYTHING together.

Do what feels right for the two of you and don't worry if anyone else thinks you're crazy

ETA that even though he had seen me in my dress several times already, the look on his face when those doors opened was still priceless. I didn't think he would be surprised, but I don't think it matters if he's seen you before -- there's something different about seeing you at the end of the aisle.

I agree 100% with Tiggerific... do what feels right for YOU, and don't worry about what everyone else thinks. DH came dress shopping with me, we stayed in the same room the night before the wedding, he even got ready in the room as I was getting my makeup done Then we had an hour of pictures with Randy before the ceremony, and he told me afterward that he STILL had an amazing, special feeling when he saw me coming down the aisle. It might even help to calm your nerves to see each other prior to the ceremony.

GL with your decision!

 

[yearbook50]

Shaun & I have basically lived together since we started dating. I do not do well sleeping without him, especially knowing he is nearby. (My 2.5 months in Africa w/o I had so much trouble sleeping even with my stuffed animal) I would not want to go into the wedding day without him waking up next to him. So we will be sleeping in the same bed together. We will also be hosting a breakfast for everyone at our wedding that morning at 8:00AM at Kona Cafe. Then I will go to Ivy Trellis to get my hair done and then get ready. He will get ready in his parent's hotel room.

He won't see me in my wedding attire until the ceremony. That is one thing we are keeping traditional.

 

[Stucas]

DFi and I have been over this a few times. My final decision is we will sleep in separate places (only because his mom wanted him to sleep at her house that night so I finally caved and its my Christmas gift to her, lol). Our wedding is at 11am and the place we're having it is on the beach, but I don't really want beach pictures so we're going to go elsewhere to have pictures taken before the wedding. I'll see DFi before the wedding, but he won't see me until I'm fully ready. I bought my dress last week and really want him to see it since I decided to go non white but he refuses. I never thought it would end up this way. I always imagined him seeing my dress before and staying with me the night before but I think I'm glad its ending up the way it is. You don't have to put too much thought into it way in advance. I think it will just fall into place when you know what is right


-Lauren