Are/or did your parents divorce?

Are/or did your parents divorce?

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  • they never married

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My parents have been married for almost 53 years. They had a few rough years when my dad was travelling alot, and mom was left home with 3 kids.

Other than that rough patch, they get along very well, and are getting cuter with each other..like we were taking a picture of the two of them, when my dad said "wait, get a picture of this" and laid a big fat kiss on my mom. I have that photo framed because it reminds me of what I believe marriage should be.
 
My parents were unhappily married for about 21 years before they finally got a divorce. My father never remarried. He much preferred to have quick hot love affairs then move on. :rolleyes: My mother never got over her anger at my dad. She eventually married a wonderful man who she made to pay for the sins of my father until the day he died. To this day, and she's 76, she hates my dad and will take any opportunity to make a snarky remark about it. To my dad's credit, I never heard him say ANYTHING negative about my mother.

and people wonder why I'm crazy:rolleyes1
 
My parents divorced when I was 30. That was about 25 years too late. When I was 5, they separated briefly and I was very excited at the notion that they would stay separated. (Keep in mind this was in the early 60s, when divorce was uncommon.) Sadly for us all, they reconciled then. Again about 15 years later. Again a few years after that, then a few more deeply unhappy years until my mother finally came to her senses and left my father. My mother never dated again -- she wanted no more compromises and no more drama. She liked men, just didn't ever want to be joined to one. My father immediately started dating a woman who looked just like my mother and dated her until she broke it off when he wouldn't get an annulment so they could get married in the Catholic Church. In reality my father had no interest in marrying again and spent the ten years after their divorce and before their deaths battling my mother in divorce court over property settlement issues (which I dealt with after my mother unexpectedly died and my father rued the day I took over that battle).

Very similar story with my ILs only they never did divorce, never separated, but had a very dysfunctional relationship as well right up until the moment my MIL died. (I honestly think she was a sociopath.) FIL got remarried with 15 months to a real winner of a woman.

In both cases, the couples got married young in order to have sex. Young lust is not a useful indicator of long-term compatability or emotional health. Not that old lust is either -- my FIL married his 2nd wife because he thought she was hot to trot. (Seriously. Just sleep with people, don't marry them for sex!) :rolleyes1

Now, my paternal grandparents had a very unhappy marriage -- also created out of young lust. When my grandmother died, my grandfather remarried a woman with whom he was much more compatible and they were happily married well into their nineties.

Interestingly enough, the best description of my maternal grandparents' marriage came from my paternal grandfather at the funeral of my maternal grandmother. He told me, "I can remember 50 years ago seeing your grandparents walking down Main Street, holding hands and talking to each other a mile a minute. 50 years later, they were still walking down Main Street, holding hands and talking to each other a mile a minute. They were still in love with each other, still enjoyed each other's company. They were very lucky. I envied them." It is definitely that relationship that I use as a model for my own.
 
yes. mine separated when I was around 2-3. My dad just left wife #4 last fall. Already moved in with someone new:sad2: because if this I have not been talking to him.
 

My parents divorced when I was 30. That was about 25 years too late. .

Mine too except it was about 29 years too late. They have both since remarried other people and get along.

When they separated I told them I they had to be able to get along for at least 30 min at a time. I couldn't deal with the bickering and deciding who would be invited to which function involved DD for example. They both agreed they would try and have done remarkably well.
 
Dad was a widower with two kids (boy and girl), his wife having died from polio.
Mom was a widow with three kids (three girls), her husband having been killed in a robbery

So, five kids at the wedding. A year later they had my sister, and four years later they had me.

My brother is the oldest (17 years older than me)
My two oldest sisters are the same age, born nine days apart.
I am the youngest and I will be 50 next year.

They were married for 31 years when Dad passed due to Alzheimer's. That was 18 years ago.

Mom lives near three of my sisters in the Cleveland area.
 
Thankfully my Dad came to his senses when I was 16 and filed for divorce. It was a long and very very ugly proceding. My mother argued every point in court, ticked off more judges than I can count. She fought tooth and nail to prevent it, went thru several attorneys and all she did was piss away tons of money on legal fees. She would not accept that the divorce was inevitable and she figured she could stop it. She sued my dad for custody when I was 16 and Bro was 17 the funny thing was that neither one of us was living with either of the 2 idiots.

My parents were married for 24 years which was 24 years too long.
 
My parents were married for 36 years when my dad passed away.

I wouldn't say it was a good marriage, but not nearly as bad as some of the stories the rest of you have.
 
My parents split up when I was 13 (I'm 34). My Mom kicked him out due to his cheating, and they got divorced a couple years later.

My Mom never dated anyone and my father is still with the woman that destroyed my parents marriage ~ though he's never married her, which gives me a perverse sense of satisfaction. :rolleyes1
 
My parents are unhappily married and will likely remain so until death.

Personally, I don't get it.
 
No. My parents have been happily married 51 years.
 
My parents are unhappily married and will likely remain so until death.

Personally, I don't get it.

Mine, too. They will be married for 49 years in October, and they haven't been able to stand each other for at least the last 20. They sleep in seperate bedrooms- Mom has her own friends and does her own thing and Dad does his. They rarely spend time together besides meals. When they are around each other for longer than an hour or so, the argueing, passive-agressive verbal abuse, and outright screaming are terrible. I told them this winter that they are welcome to visit our home seperately, but not together anymore. It is just too upsetting for me, DH, and DD to witness.

I told my mom (Dad and I don't talk about stuff like this) that I would have become clinically depressed if I had to live with someone I disliked as much as she dislikes him. But, she comes from an era when marriage really was "for better or for worse"- she wouldn't dream of divorcing my dad.

I hope thay get some peace in the afterlife, because they have been each other's hell for the last 20 odd years. :sad2:
 
My parents were married for 28 yrs when my Dad was killed in 1982.

My Mother never remarried. She's 74 now.
 
My parents divorced when I was 5, that was around 20 years ago and neither have remarried. I have a very strained relationship with my father. They divorced because my father was cheating on and abusing my mother.
 
I was the oldest. My parents divorced when I was in college and my sister was 3. (She was a save the marriage baby I think - didn't work obviously)
They were married 19 years when they divorced.
We are married 19 years this October!
 
My late in-laws were married 40+ years when they died...maybe 44 or 45. My parents are married 55 or 56 years, and they still seem to like each other as well as love each other.
 
Well, my parents were married very young. They divorced when I was nine and my dad hasn't remarried, living the bachelor life I suppose, I don't hold it against him and my Mom remarried when I was 18. The divorce was pretty ugly
 















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