Anything to do for an in memory of?

[griffiths2008]

So I may be really far off but I want to do something while we are in Disneyland as a In Memory Of. I don't know if the parks offer any such things but I need something. Originally when we planned this years vacation we were going to be doing the gender reveal at the castle of our 2nd child. We found out this past week that we lost the baby (at 14 wks). Totally unexpected obviously with no answers (yet). Tests are being run because there was no indication whatsoever earlier. Anyways that story aside we want something, even if just for our little family to do in place of the gender reveal. Any ideas?

 

[karliebug]

I am so sorry for your loss. How about getting a Mickey balloon and attach a note and let your other child let it go up to heaven.

 

[whoever]

So I may be really far off but I want to do something while we are in Disneyland as a In Memory Of. I don't know if the parks offer any such things but I need something.

Pretty sure they actively discourage such things (even the pavers out front couldn't be in memory of type of messages). The previous poster had a good idea about the balloon.

 

[KeKy4]

I was going to say the same about the balloon(s). So sorry for your loss!

 

[crystal1313]

So sorry for your loss. I think the balloon is a beautiful idea. Hugs to you and your family.

 

[sonnyjane]

I am so sorry for your loss. How about getting a Mickey balloon and attach a note and let your other child let it go up to heaven.

OP I'm so sorry for your loss but I really, really, really hope you reconsider the balloon idea. The whale-watching company I work for tries to fish balloons out of the water whenever we see them but on any given day there are dozens and dozens within eyeshot and we can only get a few. Sea turtles, dolphins, and other critters eat them confusing them with jellyfish and then die. I'm sorry it seems like a random PSA but it's a very real issue. People don't consider where they end up after they release them.

 

[crystal1313]

^never thought of that what about buying a balloon and as a family choosing someone to give it to? A random act of kindness? And ask them to pass it on.....

 

[sonnyjane]

^never thought of that what about buying a balloon and as a family choosing someone to give it to? A random act of kindness? And ask them to pass it on.....

Yes or better yet a little stuffed animal or something.

Also since you mentioned the castle I thought you might want to find a special 2014 penny or something and go to Snow White's wishing well and say some nice words before dropping it in.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

OP I'm so sorry for your loss but I really, really, really hope you reconsider the balloon idea. The whale-watching company I work for tries to fish balloons out of the water whenever we see them but on any given day there are dozens and dozens within eyeshot and we can only get a few. Sea turtles, dolphins, and other critters eat them confusing them with jellyfish and then die. I'm sorry it seems like a random PSA but it's a very real issue. People don't consider where they end up after they release them.

I agree with the above. I went to Catalina, and saw so many balloons littering the ocean. I was really saddened to see that.

Yes or better yet a little stuffed animal or something.

Also since you mentioned the castle I thought you might want to find a special 2014 penny or something and go to Snow White's wishing well and say some nice words before dropping it in.

I was thinking this, too. What if everyone dropped a coin at Snow White's wishing well, and said/or thought your intentions for your little one.

My condolences on the loss of your baby.

 

[theluckyrabbit]

So sorry for your loss. Agree with the above posters about the random acts of kindness. We know someone who planned a whole trip to DLR to memorialize her mother. Her mom had loved DL very much. Our friend came fully prepared with many ideas to share kindness and magic throughout her trip, e.g. buying balloons for kids, passing out stickers in lines, handing out small gifts, etc. She got to share about her mom and how she wanted to keep her love of DL alive. Needless to say, she has some amazing stories from that trip.

 

[lovebug33]

In memory of my aunts passing a few days before a trip, we got fast passes. When we saw people outside the ride not wanting to wait, we gave them out to the people (we had our little dd and couldn't ride anyway). It was the best feeling to make all these people happy that were going to leave the ride unhappy. We did this several times and it was fun.

 

[Girimama33]

I am so sorry for our loss.
I love the wishing well idea. It sounds like a good place for the whole family to remember the baby.
Take care.

 

[MichaelaF]

I don't really have any good ideas, but I do want to say how sorry I am for your loss. We lost a baby at 11 weeks a few years ago, and it's still probably one of the harder things we've been through. Miscarriage happens so frequently (they say 1 in 4 pregnancies end in it, and most of the time it's just for no real reason, or chromosomal issues) and it doesn't get talked about very often. I do hope that you all are able to enjoy DLR as a family and find a great way to honor that child of yours.

 

[Disney Dreams]

How about gathering somewhere that feels appropriate, saying a little something, and then releasing bubbles into the air. You can watch them glimmer as the light hits them as they float off. If all of you blow some bubbles, it could be quite a pretty and cathartic experience.

Sorry for your loss,
Dreams

 

[oohykitten]

For us, we went to the park after leaving our sons funeral, we bought him a brick out front and always blow him a kisses and say hello on the way in (and hopping). We also make wishes in Snow whites. But we just "talk to him" in the park. That oddly is the best way to remember him and feel complete.

 

[Disney Dreams]

For us, we went to the park after leaving our sons funeral, we bought him a brick out front and always blow him a kisses and say hello on the way in (and hopping). We also make wishes in Snow whites. But we just "talk to him" in the park. That oddly is the best way to remember him and feel complete.

I'm sorry for your loss. I smiled at the thought of blowing him kisses at the brick you purchased for him.

I just wanted to chime in for the sake of the OP that the bricks can no longer be purchased so they don't try to research that option.

- Dreams

 

[oohykitten]

Yikes. My apologies yes the bricks are no longer for sale.

 

[jason41483]

It's cliche, but toss coins into the moat around Sleeping Beauty's castle. My wife and I do that each visit for good luck.

 

[disneyxica20]

i'm so sorry for your loss. i'm going thru the same thing right now- we lost our baby on easter weekend. my husband and i went to disneyland over the weekend. i wasn't really up to going, but my husband talked me into it- he thought it would help cheer me up. i had just found out i was pregnant when we had last gone (in march), so like you, i wanted to do something for the baby during this last trip. we actually did what others suggested and stopped at snow white's wishing well and just had a little moment there.

 

[griffiths2008]

Thank you for all of your kind words and beautiful ideas! I did not know of the Snow White well? I think that is what we may do. While i love the balloon idea I can't let mine be in the one in the ocean. And the brick would be very cool but we never know when we will be back. We usually do WDW but my company's convention is at DL this year so we decided to go. We are military so we never know where we will be and when we will get to take trips.