Mouse House Mama said:I totally agree that dragging a tired child around to suit your own needs is just ridiculous -but- my daughter is a crier. It doesn't matter if she is well rested, well fed, comfortable, completely catered to. She simply cries if she really wants something and she is not allowed. That is her personality and we lover for it! She's a strong willed little girl. We can't give in to her all the time so she will cry. We have gotten dirty looks from people (happened yesterday in target) and they have no idea what her personality is. No flames here- just wanted to throw my 2 cents in!![]()
I agree - at least part of the time it is just a kid being a kid OR just the personality of the child. I want to know with all the people who get annoyed with the parents dragging tired and cranky kids...how do you know they are tired and cranky? Really - you have to know the entire situation...whether the child is simply having a tantrum (after a two hour nap) trying to get their way since they have an audience...whether the child has any special needs that make it more likely they might meltdown in a crowd...whether the child is hurt and therefore crying...whether the child (like my 4 year old right now) just likes to rebel and say the opposite of mom (let's go see Mickey...'no - I don't WANT to see Mickey (in full whine mode)) - of course he always changes his mind if I say 'okay - let's not'.
Anyway - point is - a LOT of different situations, same result to onlookers not in the know - whining, crying children. I'm sure some of the time the parents might be pushing them too long/far, but I'm sure that's not what's happening all of the time. So, really - how do you know? You can't unless you hear the whole story. I prefer to assume it is just a child having a meltdown, as will happen from time to time with kids - sometimes a lot depending on their nature.
Again - discipline your child however is best for you and don't worry if onlookers think you're a mean parent trying to push your kids...