Anyone for early toilet training

[Magic Mom]

elimination communication

Man that's a fancy term for talkin' about poop....elimination communication ....sounds like a SchoolHouse Rock song

Elimination communication
it's all about your defication
use the potty to make your poopoo
and then you parent's won't have to change you

I can't believe I just wrote that
I need a full time job.

i know i read one story about how the mom couldnt believe the looks she got when she was "helping her 4 month old relieve themselves in the public bathroom sink". UMMM, because ITS GROSS. You dont PEE in the sink I dont care how old you are!!!

Well that's just icky. Let me make a note to buy more hand sanitizer.

 

[Magic Mom]

Slacker. I came out running not walking. I completed a triathalon at 3 months. It would have been 2 months but my Mom kept slowing me down. I won a Nobel Peace Prize at 5 months. By that time I had mastered 7 languages and created 2 more. I was offered the position of Poet Laureat at 6 months old but it conflicted with my singing career. I never had to eat solid food because I found a way to get nutrients from osmosis. I am beyond gifted. Mensa said I was too smart for them.

Seriously though at that young age the only person being trained is the parent. Wait until your child is ready and it will happen quickly. So far all my kids have been trained around 2.5 years old. Our 10 month old doesn't really have an interest in training although she does find the potty to be very fascinating.

I bow to your superiority.

 

[MyPeanut&Bug]

Man that's a fancy term for talkin' about poop....elimination communication ....sounds like a SchoolHouse Rock song

Elimination communication
it's all about your defication
use the potty to make your poopoo
and then you parent's won't have to change you

I can't believe I just wrote that
I need a full time job.

That was GREAT! What about song writing for that full time job?

I know one person IRL that did "EC" (elimination communication) and multiple ones who say they do on an online parenting board I'm on. Just not for me, thanks! At around 20 months old, I got a little potty for DS, put it in the bathroom, didn't say much about it. He's pee in it every now and then but didn't have any big interest. At 2 yrs. 8 months he ended up with a horrible diaper rash after eating a lot of citrus and I pretty much just told him we needed to use the potty so his bottom would feel better. He was apparently more than ready because he was fully (urine) trained in under a week. (BMs though took another 8 months!)

DD will be 2 yrs. old in 2 weeks. I broke out the little potty again a few weeks ago and she's been going alot more than DS ever did, so we'll see how it goes with her.

Never used pull ups with either, I really think they're a waste of money in most cases. I taught daycare for years and never saw a kid who treated a pull up as any different than a diaper. I always figured if they're ready, stick them in underwear and see how it goes, if not, stick to the diaper.

 

[KelleyD]

OK first time mom with a couple of questions. DS is 15 months, don't think we are even close to ready yet. He is fasinated by the toilet but I am 99% sure its because 1 day soon he will be flushing anything he can find down it.

He was apparently more than ready because he was fully (urine) trained in under a week. (BMs though took another 8 months!)

Soo do this mean he would poop in his pants? I am not saying like ewww you let your kid poop in his pants, I am asking is that what happens? I need to be prepared.

Has anybody with a boy used that little jonny urinal? I though i read boys should start sitting down, but i wonder if it would be quicker with the little mini urinal...

Thanks.

 

[brymolmom]

OK first time mom with a couple of questions. DS is 15 months, don't think we are even close to ready yet. He is fasinated by the toilet but I am 99% sure its because 1 day soon he will be flushing anything he can find down it.



Soo do this mean he would poop in his pants? I am not saying like ewww you let your kid poop in his pants, I am asking is that what happens? I need to be prepared.

Has anybody with a boy used that little jonny urinal? I though i read boys should start sitting down, but i wonder if it would be quicker with the little mini urinal...

Thanks.

I agree that if you do plan on training (and not just letting the child decide when he/she wants to do it) it is the PARENT who needs to be ready, not so much the child.

I am not the one who posted that but my guess is yes, the child pooped in his pants. That's what mine did. I waited too long to train and he was so set in his ways he had 'accidents' (although there was nothing accidental about it - he did it on purpose) with poop for many months.

Got smarter with second child and started just at two...she was quick.

I realize there are more accidents to clean up with training (instead of waiting), but I HAD to train - I watched my nephew wait until he decided he was ready at about 3.5...that was about 9 months WAY too long. Anytime he would poop for about the last 9 months it was 'kid' not 'baby' poop and man - it could clear out the whole house when my sister changed him. It was SO GROSS and no one wanted to babysit him for that reason. I mean, I love him dearly - but it was way too much and he was way too big to be going in his diaper. So, I decided I needed to train while they are still more easily trainable.

I look at it this way - we train/teach them to do many things - hold utensils, share their toys, etc. I mean - in theory, we could wait until they decide to do all these things themselves, but being the parent and wanting them to 'fit in' and be good kids and good friends, etc. we teach them stuff. IMO using the potty instead of the diaper is just one more thing that we are required to teach them.

 

[chessie2008]

I always have to laugh when I hear moms/grandmas talking about then they got their kids potty-trained. My dh's grandmother swore that at 9 months he would climb out of the crib, walk to the bathroom and go potty by himself. When I asked her how old he was when he walked she paused and then admitted that it must not have been 9 months since he didn't walk until 14 months. That 20-30 some years seems to cloud some peoples memory. I agree that under a certain age the parents are more potty-trained (as in put the kid on the potty all the time) than the kid actually is.

My mother had me potty trained by 11 months.

 

[newtowdw1]

I don't usually post in these threads, but DD was trained by 19 months, and DS by 20 months.

I believe in the "naked" potty training, and both were good after a long weekend.

I don't see any convenience for the parent. DH would rather they were diapered when he took them places because he could IGNORE them if they were wet.

My kids enjoyed their independence. They enjoyed their big kid underwear. They enjoyed being in charge of their bodily functions.

And, yes, we had a couple accidents. Life goes on. Remember, the older the child the more manipulative. They will turn this into a control issue. The advantage of early training is they learn bathrooming as a habit, NOT a choice.

 

[sdoll]

Shoot I am in trouble. My son will be 3 in July and he has NO interest in going on the big boy potty. He knows he has to learn but he freaks out. So I decided that we will do i when he is more interested. I would rather not make potty time a war. I some times feel like it will be forever before he goes. I too am planning on doing the naked trick if it ever warms up around us.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Shoot I am in trouble. My son will be 3 in July and he has NO interest in going on the big boy potty. He knows he has to learn but he freaks out. So I decided that we will do i when he is more interested. I would rather not make potty time a war. I some times feel like it will be forever before he goes. I too am planning on doing the naked trick if it ever warms up around us.

Eh- don't stress out. I don't know anyone is high school that had a diaper on. Unless you count the giant kotex that we had to wear that time of the month then!

 

[Magic Mom]

Eh- Unless you count the giant kotex that we had to wear that time of the month then!

aaahhhh...the "phone book"..... I remember them well

 

[marcyinPA]

Man that's a fancy term for talkin' about poop....elimination communication ....sounds like a SchoolHouse Rock song

Elimination communication
it's all about your defication
use the potty to make your poopoo
and then you parent's won't have to change you

I can't believe I just wrote that
I need a full time job.

OMGosh, this is the funniest thing I've read tonight!

 

[Russian-in-Kansas]

My oldest was 2 and youngest was 1 years old when I started toilet training them. Didn't take long, really about 2 months for both urination and defecation during day and night. The little one watched his brother so it wasn't actually bad at all. We did potty breaks on the hour every hour. No rewards or any other hoopla, just taught them to understand that doing your business on the toilet was much easier for both parties involved than doing so in a diaper. And basically I did what my mom did years and years ago, in a country where diapers and washing machines did not exist and most kids were toilet trained by 1, because there was simply no choice. I honestly don't understand why the whole thing with waiting for kids to be ready and chastising those who want to promote proper hygiene as soon as possible. It is not like asking kids to do calculus from the cradle, just to use a proper receptacle for their waste.

 

[dizneychik]

If you believe your child is ready for it. I don't see why it would be a problem.
If you decide to do so good luck to you

 

[mom2girlsn1boy]

My first dd I tried potty training early, and to be honest it was horrible she was not ready and it was a long gruelling ordeal. She started using the potty after I said fine, and just let her do what she wanted She was fully potty trained at night too by 3 1/2.
My second dd is 2 1/2 I decided this time around I was just gonna encourage her to go potty when she turned 2 and if she didn't want to then that was fine about 3 weeks ago she said she wanted to go potty and she did, we had a little celebration and she has maybe 1 or 2 accidents a day but the last 3 days she's been dry all day. She still has night time accidents but that's to be expected.
My 2nd dd's experience of potty training was much more less stressful and less traumatic on her too, I wish I hadn't listened to people who said I needed to have my first dd potty trained by the time she was 2 1/2. I plan on taking the same approach with my ds as I did with my 2nd dd

 

[WantToGoNow]

I started with training all 3 of my kids (ages 24, 7 and 4) around 20 months. By age 2 they were all in underwear and atleast day trained (ds took a little longer with nighttime than the girls did). The tendency these days seems to be to leave kids in diaper's longer -- years ago when my oldest was a baby, it was strange to see a 3 year old in a diaper. Now it's almost odd to see a child under 3 out of a diaper.

There was a lady at church that did the early training with her dd and she was potty trained completely before 18 months -- the first word I ever heard her say was "pee".

 

[Munchkin'sMommy]

I don't know if anyone else saw this story on "Nightline" last year, but it was about a group of New York mothers who don't put any sort of diapers on their children even babies. They called being "intune" with your baby and picking up on signs that your baby/toddler needs to go to the bathroom. Basically, they wait for the sign, pick up the kid and then go sit him/her on the potty and let them do their business. When they are finished, they go about playing.....still with no diaper. One mother did say she spends a good part of her day cleaning up pee and poop, but to her it was "worth it." Not really sure how, but she was convinced.

I am currently trying to decide whether or not to start potty training my son as well. He just turned 2 but he is developmentally delayed.
So developmentally he is only around 16 months.
He does sign to me when he is dirty, so I keep thinking maybe he is ready, but I am not sure.

I went looking at daycares last wk and that was one of the first things they asked me: is he potty trained? One place wanted to charge me 25 bucks more per wk because he wasn't. Another place told me "we really don't have time to change a class full of 2 year olds so we will have him trained whether he is ready or not." Yeah,right. That's the type of place I want my kid so spend 8 hours day.

He is in the Early Childhood Intervention Program and his caseworker suggested we wait until HE shows signs that he is ready. And then proceed from there. I already bought him a potty, but all he really wants to do is put toys in it and drag it all over the house!

 

[lclark0621]

My DS asked to use the potty at 18 months & got it right away.

However I was nowhere near ready!

I never let my DS "sit in his own waste" & was always quick on changing his diapers.

But boy when my DS said he had to go, he meant NOW. That meant if we were half a mall away from the nearest bathroom, or in the car, etc.

It was much more stress on me.

I would never potty train a child until THEY showed signs of being ready. I really dont care what the ECers say, I cant see a BABY of under a year really "being ready". Yes, the parents sure are trained to the clock to make sure their child is over a potty at regular intervals. The child is not trained. The parent is.

And if I ever saw someone letting a baby go to the bathroom in a sink, you better believe I am going to say something! People wash their hands in those sinks!

I dont pee in the sink you wash your hands in, so dont let your baby pee in them either!

YUCK!

 

[newtowdw1]

If a child can tell you he's dirty, he's ready.

Boys do better in underpants than naked, because their pee doesn't trickle uncomfortably down their legs. It shoots out in a cool fountain, reinforcing the wrong thing.

We kept the little potty right in the room with the pottier. Then they could go at their discretion.

To me, it's better than puppy training. At least my kids understand they're not SUPPOSED to pee on the floor.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I don't ge tthis whole naked thing. None of my kids so far wanted to hang out half naked all day. They knew that people wore underwear and that is part of using the bathroom. Sorry but I just don't get that. Not flaming but to this day I find it strange.

 

[meowmarie]

I really thought my 2 year old was ready to potty train last year. She had the words for the actions, she could be dry for a few hours at a time, and heck the first time she sat on the potty, she peed!! So we bought the potty patty and some dvd's, books, and she was really into it. We did a "naked" weekend and put some plastic down in the living room and her new potty and let her run around naked. She LOVED peeing on the potty! The problem was, she just didn't understand that ALL her pees needed to go in the potty lol. She was perfectly content to go on the potty when it was there and go in her diapers or pull ups when it wasn't. So we took the next step after a few months, we took the diapers/pull ups away and just put her in panties. Well that was a total disaster. She totally didn't care if she was wet. We tried for a month. She would just walk around wet and not even tell you lol. So we did the next thing everyone said to do, back off for a month or two and try again. No change, she still loved the potty, had no resistance, but just wouldn't tell anyone when she needed to use it and kept peeing in the pull-ups too. So again we tried just switching her to panties and again, no luck. This was around February of this year, when she was 2 1/2. So I talked to her teacher and we decided to just put her in the pull-ups full time, not push the potty, and let her tell us when she was ready. Well needless to say our life has been much less stressful lol. And she FINALLY has started asking to use the potty full time, last week! She asks her teacher, she asks in restaurants, she's finally getting it and wanting to. She asked for her big girl panties yesterday and her teacher said she's had minimal accidents, mostly the #2 kind. So we are just so elated, especially since she turns 3 in July lol. I guess the bottom line is, you can totally try it, every child is different, but if they are too young for their them to tell "the feeling" they get when they need to go, it's almost impossible. You can get them on a schedule or habit but it won't help in an emergency if you know what I mean. Every child is different though, so I would say it's totally possible. But don't do like I did and beat your head against a wall for 6 months. If it's not working abandon it and pick it up later, it's just not worth the agony.