Anyone else's spouse not want to go?????

[JakeJoshMom]

My DH went as a child and didn't like it. We went 5-2005 and he didn't like it. When we got back he kept telling everyone how expensive the food was...I would say it's just like going to any other theme park the food is more expensive but its better food at Disney.
He corupted a friends DH and he didn't enjoy his 1st family trip to WDW. However, he also went as a child and didn't like it.
Next time i will take my mom in my DH place. It was a lot of money to spend for him to not enjoy it.
He did say after we got back that he didn't let himself have a good time!!!! GEEZ...I love the magic and was in near tears just seeing the smiles on my sons faces....(5 and 16m in 5-2005).
We had the best time despite Daddy being a stick in the mud

 

[Teacher03]

My husband doesn't love it either. We went last year and although he had fun, he did complain about the cost. This year was supposed to be an all girls trip, but he decided to come at the last minute. He had fun, but doesn't want to go back anytime soon. I told him if that is the case, he can plan the next vacation! Looks like it's back to Disney, with or without him.

 

[lizardqueen]

DH dislikes Disney immensly. He was there as a child and then his next trip was on our honeymoon in 2001. He had a great time then, even talked about future trips, but ever since then, all he does is complain about every little thing Disney related. We've gone back 3 times since our honeymoon and have an upcoming trip at the end of August. Says he really doesn't want to go, but since it is our first "official" family trip and his parents are also going, he can't really back out. However, from now on, when I plan a trip, I will ask him once and if he says no, will not beg him to go. I will either go solo or take the kids with me and leave him at home!

 

[Olallamom]

My dh actually loves disney just not WDW. He prefers DL because he likes being able to walk to everything. He loves doing rides, his favorite and mine is TOT.
So in October to celebrate my 40th, it will be myself and my youngest sister travelling without our husbands or children. My dh is happy that I am not making him go. We even have a trip planned for Aug 07, which will be again be myself, MIL, DD and DS. Notice again that dh is missing in action. I think that after he hears all the trip reports then he will be excited to do WDW again.

 

[Reese]

Dh was less than enthusiastic about our trip. I planned out how to afford it when I was over 100 miles away from home with my youngest in a children's hospital. DH agreed to it since I could find the money, he even picked up a paper route before work to help pay for it. The only reason he agreed was that he knew the kids would love it. He didn't help with any planning or contribute any suggestions. If I would ask him about resturants he would say "you pick". I felt like I planned the entire thing myself.

Well when we got there he had the best time. After being home for a week he started planning our next trip for Jan.. He picked up a second paper route so we can afford it (I'm on Mat leave right now so I told him he'de have to come up with the money). He's already wrote down our resturant choices and marked the day on the calendar to call.

I'm sure once your there DH will find the magic .

 

[skoi]

My dh saw taking the kids to Disney as a "duty". We took dd in 1997 when she was three. We had a great time. We went again in 2001 when ds was 3. Then he joined the military (just the reserves, but he's very deployable) and now he's totally converted to Disney. We've been every year since he enlisted, and we even bought DVC- which I had wanted to do since we took dd the first time. I think he realized that we have to take advantage of the fact we can go to places like Disney, and we should enjoy the benefits of our lives to the fullest.

He still leaves all the planning to me, because I'm obsessive and I like to do. However, now that we have DVC and I don't have to search for codes, discounts, etc, I've gotten lazy. We're going in Sept. and I don't have all my ADRs made. LAZY

 

[siestakeys04]

my dh wanted to take the kids when older now they are we booked our trip in jan 06 and i was excited he was not. He kept saying lets just hurry up and take them. Now that it is summer and it is hot HE CANT SHUT UP ABOUT IT!!!!! Mine came around and hopfully so will yours. I get excited thinking and planning to where he gets excited when it gets closer. Who knows men

 

[sameyeyam]

My husband went with us 2 years in a row, but then decided he didn't want to go this year. Guess what, we went without him and had an awesome time (as usual)!

I took my DD(14), her best friend (14) and DS(7). I was a little worried, because I like having hubby along, but everything went fine. We took Magical Express from airport and used Disney transportation.

To be honest (yes, I'm looking over my shoulder to make sure he's not here!), I think we had more fun this year than ever! Not that we didn't miss him, he's just not quite as into Disney as the rest of us.

So I say leave hubby home, take an enthusiastic friend along instead and have a blast. We sit around the dinner table sometimes talking about funny things that happened at Disney this year and my husband says "well, maybe I'll have to go next year".

But don't hesitate to go without him. Think about it, would you really want your husband to bug you into going on a vacation you really didn't want to be at? For instance, my hubby would love for me to go on his annual Elk Hunting/Camping adventure (just not my cup of tea!), so I respect his not wanting to go to Disney every year. There is nothing wrong with taking separate vacations. I think just being gone from DH for 9 days makes him really miss me and realize what life would be like without me & the kids. At least that's what he tells me when I get back home.

 

[matthew&haleysmom]

My dh went with us last year and he did not like DW. Unforunately, we took our 2 children, my dm, and brother. Huge mistake. DH did tell DD, 6, that we would go back before our DS, 2, starts kindergarten.
Then, he looked at me and told me that he looks forward to going in 2 years. However, my mom CANNOT go with us and we can't go in the summer.

I sure didn't tell him that was my plan anyway!

 

[Angela&Kayla]

For whatever reason, my husband is totally against anything Disney. Bizarre. But, that isn't stopping my daughter and I from taking our first trip ever to Disney!

I know that my husband loves to go on family vacations, but I don't want him to go somewhere with us that he doesn't want to go (could you imagine going with a whining husband for ten days in the august heat? ugh). Disney will be for DD and I...Costa Rica in 2007 will be for the family...it all works out for the best!

 

[mmaddog56]

My husband went with us last year and had a great time but feels that once every 10 years is enough. I know my husband well enough to know he will stand firm to that. So for the next 10 years I will be going to WDW solo with our son. I wish he would go and we will miss him but it's his loss and it's just one less person to slow us down. lol Good luck convincing your husband hopefully he is like the other converted men.

In my family it was me who converted the wife to being a Disney fan....

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[mmaddog56]

After putting in 55+ hours a week at the job so my wife can stay home and raise the kids, I would prefer being able to stay home and enjoy being home.

Man....not to be harsh, but this says a great deal. If you put in that much time at work you leave the impression that work is more important than the family. I put in some pretty good hours at work and on business trips, but I don't do it "so the wife can stay home and raise the kids". I do it to support the family in the manner that we have chosen. (BTW, I put in long hours too but still manage to be at gymnastics practices and meets for my daughter, swimming events and Boy Scouts for my son, and make myself as available as possible so that my wife can have time to do things outside of the home without the kids.)

We (my wife and I) made the choice for her to stay at home with the kids. We live just as well on one income as we did on two, and quite frankly it has kept her looking 10 years younger. You leave the impression that you begrudge her that and it is a burden on you.

mmaddog56
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[tessqt]

Well my dh and I went for our honeymoon, almost 15 years ago, had a great time, went back again 2 years later for anniversary and my dh got sick, not such a great time.

I have taken our kids with my family when dd was 18 months (9 adults had a great time), when dd was 5 and ds 3 (9 adults had a great time)! I finally wanted us to go as a family my dh said when dd is 10 and ds 8, I said no when dd was 8 and ds was 6! I got my way and we went this past December. I WISH I WOULD HAVE TAKEN THEM BY MYSELF!!! LOL Well, actually he wasn't all that bad, we had a good time, but there were some instances when I wished it was just us. Twice I told him to take a bus back to the hotel because he didn't feel well, but NOOOOO we all had to leave earlier than anticipated.

He's not as fun as he use to be I guess because he's not as young as he use to be. I love Disney and will take the kids back again hopefully in the next couple of years by myself or with MY family!

Your dh may be one of the ones who end up having more fun than the kids, try to get him to go but if not just enjoy!!

 

[Tnkrbelle565]

DH and I went together (alone) for the first time as a little "break" when DD was about 1. My parents had taken us to Disney every year when I was little. (Not to mention that I'm my parents' 1976 Disney vaca souvenier!!! ) So Disney is in my blood. Before our trip, my DH had only been once before and enjoyed it but clearly isn't the fanatic that I am. Well after trip #1 together, I was able to quickly convince him to take #2 and #3. And although he complains to his friends that his wife "only wants to vacation in Disney" and that before we were married we went to all sorts of other locations...he always goes and has a blast. Plus, now that our DD is almost 3, he joins in the planning...because no number of trips to Disney are too many for his Disney Princess

 

[singingpixie]

DBF grumbled through the planning stage but had a great time when we were there... but when we got back he still grumbled when I talked about the trip and the possibility of going again someday. I decided to let it drop and then HE suggested to our friends that the 4 of us should go together in the next year! I think he partly grumbles when I talk about it because he knows it bugs me. He also will never be a planner. I've just gotta work on accepting that instead of driving him nuts making him help me pick ADRs.

 

[Caitsmama]

I say leave him behind and GO!!!

I always tell my DH if he chooses not to go, he will just be a "postcard". LOL

 

[kellyg403]

Trust me...you are not alone! DH hates any planning. Last year when I was obsessivly worrying about every detail, staying up late on the internet to have the best vacation at Disney possible DH was sleeping. He never wanted to hear about. We went in Dec and he had a great time. We came back and I was hoping he would want to go again. He said in a couple years. I didn't say anything...next thing I know he says why don't we take an adult trip in Oct.? Then, free dining came out and now we are all going because it was so much fun before! We are even taking dgd with us this time and she is 5. I think sometimes, its the kids reaction that hooks 'em. Once they start to remember this or that time at Disney they want to go back. But, I will say DH liking or not liking Disney wouldn't hold me back from taking the kids if we wanted to go. He is a great guy but when he wants to be a stick in the mud I would rather not be present!

Kelly