anyone else not getting any planning support!!

OMG!! My dbf is the same way, altho i can at one point get him to read the menus, he just says just picvk a place and ill eat, or the ill eat anything, one day i want to pick somewhere where i know theres absolutely nothing on the menu he will eat or like and subjust myself to it to teach him a lesson...lol.

ON the upside he does genreallyenjoy what i book so he doesnt complain but he is pretty tired of hearing me go n about food at disney, we leave tomorrow night and thats all i want tothink about..lolm the food we wil eat!!..lol
 
I am traveling with my husbands family a total of 7 and I asked them the same question this weekend about meals and they said they will just "wing it". Well, there is no winging it the week of Thanksgiving! :rotfl2:

LOL - what is it with inlaws? 2 years ago we went with a party of 26 from my DH's family. I painstakingly spent months calling & re-calling, making ADR's ... I was on the phone at 7am or 11 pm, whatever the situation called for .... (nevermind that they couldn't even be bothered to show up on time at said ADR's - but that's another story). I handed out little credit card size sheets with everyone's cell #'s listed so at any given time you could reach so-and-so. And also passed out an itinerary with dates, ADR location & times and confirmation #'s. DH's 18 yr. old nephew thought Disney did all that for us (grrrr!). Uhhh, no, that was me, wasting at least 40 hours of my life on your behalf. Never felt so unappreciated in all my life. :headache:

Sorry for the vent -- but at least I know you guys can understand. :)
 
I feel for you all as I'm getting the same thing from DH right now too! I'm trying to plan our January 08 trip for the 4 of us and also I'm the one in charge of our Las Vegas trip coming up this November! I'm trying to get things set for Vegas w/the air, hotel, etc for us and his brother/fiancee since that's coming up. Also, I think he's about to strangle me right now if I even mention "Disney" trip! He says it's doesn't matter when, where or what we eat since no matter what I choose it will be fine. I'm just looking for some opinions here, not asking him to make any life or death decisions :confused3

Oh well :rotfl:
 
Sounds like my hubby! lol Are you on the DDP? I would explain to him that in order to get a decent, sit-down dinner, you need reservations as FAR in advance as possible. I would pull up the menus & encourage him to check it out. If he still doesn't bite, just tell him that you'll be doing all the planning & no complaining when you get there. This is the plan I tried & it some what worked. DH STILL grumbled a bit, but I had a strong comeback!
 

Don't give up! My dear hubby was like that before our first family trip in 95. By the end of the trip he was thanking me for doing all the research and planning. We definately saved time away from the lines and enjoyed a great trip. Now he even gives a little bit of input.
 
Ok!! first of all let me say, I totally love this place, last time we went to disney was like 8 years ago and I got great tips here, but I'm getting kind of frustrated with DH, I'm trying to plan some meals ahead and what to do and he's just ""a go with the flow" kind of person :mad: but he did not complain last time when I made reservations for the fantasmic package and reservations for le cellier. But now I'm just getting no love!! everytime I bring an idea up it's "we will eat anywhere and go wherever" :confused:
this coming from a guy who hates junk food and anything with fries.

I don't want to be stranded without a good place to eat before a show, what should I do??


Perception is everything. This could be viewed as a problem, or an opportunity, IMO. I say, view it as an opportunity to eat everywhere you want to and make ADRs if you want to. You obviously know what your DH likes to eat, so you can incorporate restaurants that will meet everyones likes/dislikes if you choose.

I really can relate to you though, as I have a DH who is a lot like yours. Our first few trips it kind of bugged me; I mean I was really hoping for a PARTNER in this whole WDW thing. Many trips later, I do have a DH who is happy to come along and has a wonderful time while at WDW, but he really doesn't give a rats about the process of getting there.

I had to put the whole thing into perspective. I mean, he could have said "I hate WDW and I am never going again". I would have cried! :sad: Now I just look at it as my opportunity to plan every detail the way I want. :yay: DS, age 14, does love the planning process too, so he and I figure it all out. We plan our days and restaurants around what we want to do and where we want to eat. DH happily tags along, oblivious to anything but living in the moment. When our trips end, he always thanks me and tells me he appreciates my making our trip fun and smooth. That makes me happy.
 
:sad2: Yup, I can relate to this! :sad2: I've gone ahead & made ADR's anyway but I better not hear, "Why did you pick this place?" because you might than just end up reading about me on the "Rude Guests" thread!!!

:rotfl: If you end up on the "Rude Guests" thread, I promise I will support you 100%!
 
My DH did the same thing the first time we went to WDW, 2 years ago.

Having both grown up in SoCal, we never experienced the whole "plan like crazy" thing in relation to Disneyland - it was a big deal to go as a child but we ate food from home or probably counter service, and have done the same as adults. In the past, we have often decided that morning to go, so the whole idea of planning not only for the stay but also where and when you're going to eat, 90+ days in advance, sounded crazy to both of us.

I read the boards and have Disney-crazy friends ;) , and decided to go ahead and play the game, and make the AR's. I was *so glad* that I did, and so was he, since it was so much easier to just look at our little spreadsheet, figure out the day, and walk right up for our meals. With a 5yo and 14mo, we were so grateful for no waiting times, and a basic plan for each day.

This time around, I made the AR's as soon as I booked, since it's during free dining, and I've had no complaints from him - except that I didn't have enough character dining. :confused3 (It's all worked out now). Still, he'd rather just leave it up to me, so as long as he doesn't complain once we get there, that's fine by me.
 
Heres the deal at my home, I make all the plans when everyoneis happy I get theGLORY! WHen they don't like it, they get the blame for not inputting into the plans!


BTW I have nothing but glory! This year DS and I are making the plans. I thought it would be great for him to learn what is invloved and one day his wife and children may thank me!

You're going to Disney so anything that happens is just gravy!
 
My DH is an easy going guy and he leaves the planning up to me, for the most part. I make the ressies, then make the ADR's at 180 days. I know his tastes and we'll discuss it a little, but I do most of the planning and decide where we'll be each day. He follows along and is happy as a lark about it. It doesn't bother me at all, because I read so many sad posts of spouses who just don't get Disney, don't want to go, don't want to talk about it. I'm thankful DH loves WDW as much as I do and he just trusts me to do the planning.:)
 
I know EXACTLY what you mean, OP....My dh asks me when we are on the plane...."so what are we doing this week?"

We've been so many times that I don't even ask him anymore. MY DD is the same way, but my DS loves to PLAN! Thank goodness....someone to talk to!
 


Receive up to $1,000 in Onboard Credit and a Gift Basket!
That’s right — when you book your Disney Cruise with Dreams Unlimited Travel, you’ll receive incredible shipboard credits to spend during your vacation!
CLICK HERE








DIS Facebook DIS youtube DIS Instagram DIS Pinterest DIS Tiktok DIS Twitter DIS Bluesky

Back
Top Bottom