anyone else disappointed with Valentines Day?

[PlutoLuvr]

No, I'm not at all disappointed with my Valentine's day. Received a small box of chocolates and a half-dozen roses from my hubby of 12 years. The best part of the day was ordering in dinner from our local Italian family mom-and-pop restaurant and watching Lady and the Tramp.

I'm completely blown away by the extravagant, expensive gift you received and then your ability to complain about it ... publicly!

I do hope this is your, um, hormones

 

[disykat]

Wrong-o you are! The second sentence in your given quote from Wikipedia proves my point.

disparaging term, used predominantly in the United States, to describe a holiday that is perceived to exist primarily for commercial purposes, rather than to commemorate a traditionally significant religious or secular event. The name comes from Hallmark Cards.....

The disparaging name for the way people celebrate comes from Hallmark cards, that doesn't mean people think the holiday came from the cards.

 

[disykat]

No, I'm not at all disappointed with my Valentine's day. Received a small box of chocolates and a half-dozen roses from my hubby of 12 years. The best part of the day was ordering in dinner from our local Italian family mom-and-pop restaurant and watching Lady and the Tramp.

I'm completely blown away by the extravagant, expensive gift you received and then your ability to complain about it ... publicly!

I do hope this is your, um, hormones

I'm guessing you really weren't that happy with YOUR Valentine's Day if you don't get that some people do not value extravagant, expensive gifts.

 

[luvmy3]

No, I'm not at all disappointed with my Valentine's day. Received a small box of chocolates and a half-dozen roses from my hubby of 12 years. The best part of the day was ordering in dinner from our local Italian family mom-and-pop restaurant and watching Lady and the Tramp.

I'm completely blown away by the extravagant, expensive gift you received and then your ability to complain about it ... publicly!

I do hope this is your, um, hormones

Lets say you and your dh discussed how much you hated roses and chocolates, and he still bought them for you, you wouldn't be upset? Somehow I don't believe that.

 

[MagicKingdom05]

I was disapointed because on Saturday I found out that I had and ear infection, a sinus infection, fluid in my lungs, and bronchits. I had to send my wife, our 21 month old and our 6 week old to my parents so they wouldn't get sick while my antibiotic kicked in.

 

[Mickey'snewestfan]

Did you read her OP where she said that spas creep her out and that she hates when people touch her? I don't know why anyone would think bringing a friend would change that. Its not about being alone there, its an issue with being touched by strangers hands. An issue she said she discussed with her dh, who apparently didn't listen, or didn't care. He should have asked her if trying it would change her opinion instead of spending the money for it and expecting her to try it to see if it does. (hypothetically of course, since we don't know his real reason).

I don't really like being touched either, I get that, and usually it takes something big to motivate me (e.g. a toothache to get me to the dentist). But if I was having chronic pain, to the point I couldn't move, that would probably be a pretty big motivator to try a prenatal massage, something that's designed to address that very issue.

As to why I thought it might make a difference to have someone to go with her because she had posted this:

Exactly. I really don't find anything soothing about waddling into a place filled with strangers, all by myself. If anything, it will make my anxiety level go through the roof!

I actually feel the same way, I kind of like going for a pedicure now (this is big for me because I don't really like being touched by strangers either) but only if I have a friend.

 

[heartofdisney]

And I get the sense that the OP would have preferred a $300 gift card to the grocery store over a spa gift certificate. I know I would be upset if DH spent $300 on something completely extravagant I can't use, mostly because it would be a huge waste of money.

Also, the OP mentioned being upset that she was left alone by her DH. It sounds like, just as your friend would prefer, she would have been happier with a hug than the spa day.

Adding "not to be nasty" at the end of a nasty post doesn't take away its nastiness.

Sorry if my post seemed nasty,asI didn't mean for it to be,but really,in the grand scheme of things,seeing everything going on in this world,like with thepeopleinHaitii trying tolive with the after effects of the earthquake as an example, I dont understand how someone feels they need to complain about getting a 300.00 dollar spa certificate for ValentinesDay? Did she stop to think that perhaps her husband misunderstood what she was saying when he heard her say "massage"? You know how men are. Most likely the poor guy thought he was giving her something she would really like. No man I know would purposefully go out and spend 300.00 unless he believed he was doing a good thing for his wife. And my opinion is that she should take that into consideration.There are so many things she could do with the certificate,she could sell it,or donate it to a womans shelter for those seeking protection from an abusive spouse,or give it to her mother for mothers day,.or take her daughters out for a day(if she has any) She could deal with getting her nails or hair done at least if she was doing it for them.Whatever she does,I just think that her complaining about it is missing the whole point of Valentines Day that apprently must mean something to her.And that is Valentines Day is about love...and if she loves her husband,then out of that love,she should not feel a need to come on a public forum and dishonor her husband in this way.Didn't she make a vowel to love and honor him? And it seemed to me,that he wanted to make her happy,mistake or not,that should count for something to her. And to complain about it just seems kind of self centered to me,when so many people in this world have real serious issues to deal with then this. Anyway,I do apologize if I came off being nasty,just wanted her tosee that she is more blessed then she realizes.

 

[surfergirl602]

Op here. Wow - miss a couple of days on the boards and all heck breaks loose.

I posted about this purely as a vent, because at the time, I couldn't vent to my hubby. I don't see how someone venting can turn into such a nasty post. I guess when you don't have to see someone face to face, people feel they can put others down and type the most nastiest stuff about someone they don't even know. Some of the remarks on here really make me sad and ashamed to be part of this group sometimes.

Get over yourselves, people. This post has nothing to do with Haiti, or being rich, or dishonoring my hubby in any way. (WTH?!?)

It has to do with communication, and being pregnant, and feeling shoved to the side, and being just one day in a life of many. It was a vent about how hurt I felt, and we're over it.

And just an FYI, I couldn't use the gift certificate for a mani or a pedi, or get my hair done, etc, as this place is strictly a spa that does stuff with seaweed and massages. lol

Oh, and $300.00 is a big deal to us. We are in no way rich, or have that extra money to just blow on whatever. It was part of our tax return, which DH has pretty much blown through) and that was meant to pay for our up coming trip. I think that's part of the reason why it upset me so much, as it could have been spent on more practical and useful things, that everyone could get more use out of. The treadmill - he could use that too, and being in physical therapy right now for a blown knee, it is something he could benefit from as well. I was just being a practical person, and I don't like to lavish myself with expensive things. I would much rather use that kind of money for an extra car payment, food bill, our vacation, etc. It is just the type of person I am.

For those of you that actually read the post, and helped me to lift my spirits, thank you. I greatly appreciate it.

 

[auntie]

He's a guy. He heard something about a spa...(but obviously.. not all of it..) You're pregnant. Hormones are all over the place.
Talk to me in ...about 30 years. This will be one that you will look back and laugh about.
Glad to hear you're feeling better about things today.