anybody here a spinster?

[gooseberry]

Alright, I'm 17 and have never had a boyfriend...ever, since 1st grade. I dumped him for telling me to pass out papers his way, not my way and put him on trial with my stuffed animals as the jury. I've never really been interested at all in dating. I never will marry either. And I'm not having kids.

Anyone else share similiar views?

 

[trappednabox]

I guess you can count me as one. I'm 26 and haven't had a bf in a few years!!! Yikes that's a long time!! I don't really plan to marry or have kids either.

 

[grinningghost]

Alright, I'm 17 and have never had a boyfriend...ever, since 1st grade. I dumped him for telling me to pass out papers his way, not my way and put him on trial with my stuffed animals as the jury. I've never really been interested at all in dating. I never will marry either. And I'm not having kids.

Anyone else share similiar views?

Miss Mamie and Miss Emily Baldwin on "The Waltons".

Sorry, couldn't resist.

 

[SunFloridaDisney]

Miss Mamie and Miss Emily Baldwin on "The Waltons".

And sharing "The Recipe"

 

[scrump]

Alright, I'm 17 and have never had a boyfriend...ever, since 1st grade. I dumped him for telling me to pass out papers his way, not my way and put him on trial with my stuffed animals as the jury. I've never really been interested at all in dating. I never will marry either. And I'm not having kids.

Anyone else share similiar views?

I didn't date that much, either, and truly relished the single life. I never really thought about the marriage thing, or kids when I was younger. If I ended up married with kids, so be it. If not, I'd be happy with my life, too.

 

[grinningghost]

And sharing "The Recipe"

"The Recipe" is the reason they never worried about men.

 

[Feralpeg]

I'm 53 and I've never been married so I guess technically I'm a spinster. I do have a 17 year old daughter and I've had my flings. Marriage is not for everyone. Based on many of the posts I've seen on this board lately, I'm rather glad I opted not to get married.

 

[snoopy]

17 is a bit young to declare oneself a spinster.

I do think people can be perfectly happy never marrying. I know both men and women who are in their 40's who have never married and probably never will, and they seem perfectly content. I personally cannot imagine it, but to each their own! (I seem to be saying that to the OP a lot tonight! )

 

[barkley]

my "dear big brothers" referred to me as one for many years. they called my hope chest my "hopeless chest". at age 27 i met my husband (he was a couple of months shy of his 21st birthday). we married a couple of years later, and will celebrate our 15th anniversay in march.

HAH-i say to my brothers, all of whom have had divorces!

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Alright, I'm 17 and have never had a boyfriend...ever, since 1st grade. I dumped him for telling me to pass out papers his way, not my way and put him on trial with my stuffed animals as the jury. I've never really been interested at all in dating. I never will marry either. And I'm not having kids.

Anyone else share similiar views?

Famous last words.

I had my first boyfriend at age 18. I married him a year later, divorced him (actually he divorced me) 4 years later. I just started dating someone a month or two ago and he's my first boyfriend in 3 1/2 years. Sometimes I wonder if it's even worth it. Maybe being a spinster is the way to go.

 

[snoopy]

Famous last words.

I had my first boyfriend at age 18. I married him a year later, divorced him (actually he divorced me) 4 years later. I just started dating someone a month or two ago and he's my first boyfriend in 3 1/2 years. Sometimes I wonder if it's even worth it. Maybe being a spinster is the way to go.

Whoa! What happened! Didn't you just say the other day you thought he was the one?

You are so pretty and your DD is precious....if he turns out to NOT be the one, don't give up hope!

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Whoa! What happened! Didn't you just say the other day you thought he was the one?

You are so pretty and your DD is precious....if he turns out to NOT be the one, don't give up hope!

Yes, I did just say that. I still think he is, but relationships take a lot of work. I had forgotten how much, since it's been so long that I've been in one. And thank you so much!

 

[snoopy]

Yes, I did just say that. I still think he is, but relationships take a lot of work. I had forgotten how much, since it's been so long that I've been in one. And thank you so much!

You are so right! I guess its hard getting back into the swing of things, especially now that you have your DD to also think about. Hang in there, if he's a keeper, you'll survive the hard times.

 

[Aurora63]

I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 18, and since then, I haven't ben single for more than a week! So never say never.

 

[saucymb]

I always swore I would be a spinster, then when I was 26 I met this guy online...six months later we were married. I had never even had a relationship that lasted longer than 6 months prior to meeting DH.

My basic problem was I had severe self-esteem issues. It was less of a let-down to tell myself that I would be a spinster of my own choosing than to feel rejected. Not that that's the case with everyone, of course, but it was certainly the case with me!

Either way you end up, there are pro's and con's to both being single and being married.

 

[grinningghost]

Just thinking about it, and my best friend could probably be called a spinster - but she is so hardly what one thinks of as a "spinster".

She's 40, never married, not dating anyone and has no kids. She owns her own house and travels extensively for work and pleasure. I'd say she has it pretty good.

 

[lillygator]

Dh and I were married here in Sarasota and then again on our honeymoon in Montego Bay Jamaica....


on our marriage license from Jamaica it sys that my occupation is spinster!! Can you believe it?

 

[Boo Boo]

Signing in, here! 32, never married, never lived with a boyfriend, no kids, last committed relationship was 4 years ago, and that only lasted 6 months! Infrequent flings last 2-8 weeks and are generally more trouble than they're worth; I'm currently too preoccupied to even think of dating.

Of course, at 17 I thought I was with my "soulmate" and was set for marital life. How things change. The more I see of couples and kids, the less I want to be involved in that.

Recent health concerns might mean that I'm not even capable of having kids. I was surprised to find that I didn't care in the least. I always thught I would want to have my own child ONE day. Maybe if we lived to be 200 and I could still have kids at 100... but at this rate...

I never wanted to have one when I was young, and I don't exactly want to be raising a teenager in my 50's. But then it seems very depressing to imagine growing old without family around. Maybe I will adopt older kids when I'm in my 40's.

Have I mentioned that I love my dogs?

 

[nativetxn]

I wanted to be a spinster. I swore that I would be a spinster. My mother was married and divorced 4 times and I just didn't think marriage would be right for me.

Then I met my husband. I'm not a spinster. I think you don't have to worry about marriage for many years. You are only 17.

If it is meant to be, you will marry. If it isn't meant to be you won't marry. You will be happy either way. You don't have to be married to like yourself and have a happy life.

 

[HugsForEeyore]

I am in my mid thirties and never ever wanted to marry or have kids. Even growing up, I never imagined my life doing the husband/kids route. That was for other people, not me. Unfortunately, I fully admit I ain't no beauty queen, so that certainly influences the way I see things. But now, at this point in my life, I just don't see me wanting it enough to try to make the marriage/kids thing happen. I am perfectly happy the way things are. Besides I got plenty of nieces and a nephew to fill my time!