Anybody else catch flack for actually spending time with your family!

[musclecar_72]

The guys at work are constantly asking me to go play golf, go out to a bar to hang out (I don't drink) or go to this ballgame etc....

I'm not talking about occasionally but about 3-4 nights a week. The thing that gets me is these aren't single guys, but guys with wives and a couple of kids at home. They literally leave work and go somewhere besides home the majority of the week.

I will occasionally go play golf with them. I'd rather get a big hug from my 3 year old and go in the backyard and play then leave when shes asleep, leave her with my wife all day, and come home when shes asleep again. My work schedule makes this happen too much for my liking so I'm not gonna do it intentionally. I think these guys missed the point that fatherhood takes some sacrifice, but it doesnt last forever.

I am constantly catching flack for being "whipped" and "having to run home to my wife", it that's what being a dad and husband means than WHIPPED I AM!

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Just tell them you have a really hot wife you must get home to (wink, wink).

 

[SDFgirl]

Good for you! Your family is lucky to have such a faithful husband and dad. I'm glad you enjoy the time you spend with your wife and daughter.

This is how my father was, my husband is now the same way.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I am constantly catching flack for being "whipped" and "having to run home to my wife", it that's what being a dad and husband means than WHIPPED I AM!

I'm whipped and proud of it.



You say it
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[DisneyAddict_M]

I hate the term "whipped." It should be called "Not being a jerk" instead. My dbf is like that and I don't tell him to be...that's just the way he is. He knows what's important.

 

[mtemm]

there are a few women on my moms boards that have husbands that do this. they are out several nights a week, after working all day. their wives are beside themselves and miserable...2 have even talked about possible divorce, and have taken steps to get their finances in order in case they get fed up enough.

Nice to hear from men who are as flabbergasted by this as I am.

 

[Keli]

It's natural to want to spend some time with friends and some time with family. But it's not natural to want to spend all your time with friends. Tells me something's not ok at home.

Be glad you've got a good homelife and just keep turning the 2/3 or more of those invitations down. It's all about having a balance and priorities.

BTW, my dh comes straight home nine times out of ten. He hangs with friends but not nearly as much as he hangs with me! That's because I'm so much cooler than all his friends anyway

 

[nhrenee]

They sound jealous.

 

[luvdzne]

DH works or I should say worked with a bunch of single or childless married workaholics. He got lots of crap and missed out on promotions (even though he was most qualified) because he didn't work 60-70 hour weeks. It didn't matter if all his work was done, or how early he came in, they wanted face time. He would rather be home with his family. So while not exactly what the op is talking about but along the same lines. He has since transferred to a different dept.

Good for you op for putting your family first.

 

[maddhatir]

I think its funny how guys who are the "real jerks" have to comment to the "real men" that they are wimps- whipped- whatever because they love their spouses and/or kids and want to be with them!

i agree with the other poster- they are just jeolous of your relationship! DH and I dont have kids- but it feels great to have him walk in the door after work and actually say-- "it feels soooo good to be home!"

believe me-- you wouldnt want to take advice or hang out with them anyway!