Any Advice?

[tink20]

DS(9, 3rd grade) gets a weekly progress report every Wed. Well the past 3 weeks, conduct is Need Improvement (talking). I have talked to him, restricted video games, tv. What can I do, to get him to quit talking at school?

 

[disneydreamingdebby]

Has his seat been moved in the last three weeks or is he sitting next to the same kids? Can the teacher move him by himself? Can the teacher restrict his recess at school? Can you set up a daily system with the teacher rating 1 to 3- Three is that he didn't talk when he shouldn't. When he reaches a certain point count, he earns back television or playing with friends, etc.

 

[tink20]

I did email the teacher last week, I ask her to move him away from little Johnny (DS friend). But I ask DS who he sits by, and he sits by Johnny, and two other boys he is friends with. (I know what they are talking about, video games) I don't know why she hasn't split them up.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

If the teacher won't move him, there isn't much you can do.

 

[golfgal]

Set up a reward can for him so each week he comes home from school with a positive report he can pick a "treat" from the can--small toys, coupons for extra video game time, etc. I agree that if he is sitting by his buddies, he is going to keep talking.

 

[DisneyScraps]

If those punishments didn't work then I would do something else, ground him. You have to find the currency Every kid has something different.

You could also go the other way and offer him a reward if he gets through the week. My DD had the same problem, it was a box of Pop Tarts for a week of good behavior. It works like a charm. I let her decide what reward she wanted to ahead of time so she was invested in it.

Lisa

 

[minkydog]

Good luck. My mom still has my report cards that say every quarter:"Cathy talks too much" Yep, nothing they said or did ever made a bit of difference because I HAD to talk. And this was waaaay before video games, et al. Heck, we didn't even have a TV to take away. I'd like to tell you it gets better, but i think it's terminal. I'm 54 and my kids are regularly driven crazy when I strike up conversations with complete strangers at the mall, the Burger King, the bank, Walmart, pretty much everywhere that two or more are gathered.

 

[tink20]

Good luck. My mom still has my report cards that say every quarter:"Cathy talks too much" Yep, nothing they said or did ever made a bit of difference because I HAD to talk. And this was waaaay before video games, et al. Heck, we didn't even have a TV to take away. I'd like to tell you it gets better, but i think it's terminal. I'm 54 and my kids are regularly driven crazy when I strike up conversations with complete strangers at the mall, the Burger King, the bank, Walmart, pretty much everywhere that two or more are gathered.

You sound like my dad (65), that man can talk for hours to total strangers. I guess that is were DS gets it from. DS isn't shy, and will talk to anyone. He stutters, so I was glad that he was still willing to talk, and not get embarrassed and quit talking. I think I might try the reward system. DS is good, he just likes to talk.

 

[lovetoscrap]

If you have gotten all the way to this far into 3rd grade and this is the first time that he has had this problem being reported home then I would just put it on the teacher to move him. He is by his friends, they are going to talk. She should be smart enough to split them up or she just has to deal with it. I would go in after school, tell the teacher the only way to stop this is to move him and then offer to help her move his desk to another location away from the problem.

 

[MM27]

The worst classroom management advice I ever received was at a workshop I attended a few years ago. The presenter said to put all the most talkative kids together because they were going to talk anyway so they might as well all be together.

Talkative kids will try to talk no matter where they are, but there are some kids that won't respond. I say, push the request to move his desk. If the teacher wants to see improvement in this area, it's up to her to make a change to give him that opportunity. Just saying don't talk doesn't always work.

I have kids in my class that do horrible next to some kids and terrific next to others. And there are some that no matter where you put them, they are talkative. Those are my little islands

 

[kwelch10377]

If those punishments didn't work then I would do something else, ground him. You have to find the currency Every kid has something different.

You could also go the other way and offer him a reward if he gets through the week. My DD had the same problem, it was a box of Pop Tarts for a week of good behavior. It works like a charm. I let her decide what reward she wanted to ahead of time so she was invested in it.

Lisa

I think this is a good idea.

I don't think the teacher should have to move him. My guess is the desks are arranged in a certain way and he would have to switch desks with someone else and not in a way where the desk can be just moved. Why should another child be punished by having to move their seat because he can't stop talking during class? I think a 3rd grader is old enough to know that they need to listen to their teacher when they are told not to talk and if they can't they need to accept the punishment whether it is from the teacher or you.