Another wedding gift question...sorry...

[mousefanmichelle]

My niece (who is also my godchild) is getting married - today BUT my question is this...

I already gave her $300 to help her pay for stuff for her wedding. I bought the cake for her bridal shower ($32) and I have her a beautiful picture frame for her gift ($15.99 50% off ). Should I still be giving her a cash gift today at her reception? I gotta say I wasn't planning on it since I already shelled out $300 last month (it covered her alterations, her shoes and she had $100 left over after that to do what she wanted with). My dh is driving her and her bridesmaids to the Chapel today as well. Honestly with clothes for my kids and a new shirt for my dh, I just don't have anything left to give.

Should I give something still???????

Please help!!

Thanks
Michelle

 

[girli565]

I'm sure the picture frame and everything you've already done for her is more than enough. Maybe include a card that has a little reminder of the cash you've given her to help make her special day unforgetable along with the picture frame.

My aunt (who is also my godmother) gave us $500 at my wedding this past June. She also gave us $100 when we got engaged. But had she given me $300 (like you have) cash prior to the wedding I wouldn't be expecting a gift.

She also threw me my bridal shower along with my 2 cousins, her daughters.

 

[superme80]

I wouldn't expect anything. My grandma paid for my alterations, bought us a crock pot, a set of dishes, and a set of pots and pans. I thought she went overboard, but she insisted.

 

[Belle5]

I agree with reminding her (tactfully) of what you have already done. You've given all that you have. That's enough.

"I could have saved the money I gave you earlier for your wedding day, but I felt you really needed it more early on..."

 

[Cooky]

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[Anthony1971]

I would remind her as well so this way her husband knows that you did give them a nice gift...
If you can give them something else than by all means.. but there is no need to..

 

[mousefanmichelle]

Thank you for your replies. A gentle reminder in her card should suffice (I hope).

 

[secretpantssam]

I think the picture frame will do. I'm sure she remembers and appreciates everything you've already done for her!

 

[momof1princess]

as others have said, the picture frame is more than enough. if you want to put a reminder in the card, i would phrase it something like "i am so happy for you and wish you endless joy in your new life, and am so thrilled i was able to contribute to your wedding costs. thank you for being not only my niece, but also my goddaughter, and allowing me to share your happiness".

 

[rantnnravin]

maybe not word it "contribute to the costs" or "already gave you"
but something more along the lines of "that day we've been waiting for is finally here. I'm so happy to have been a part of making this day a reality..."
i'm sure some other Disers can help hammer out the precise wording...

 

[jshuff1]

i wouls say that is plenty. what more can they expect in this economy

 

[CleoPahd]

maybe not word it "contribute to the costs" or "already gave you"
but something more along the lines of "that day we've been waiting for is finally here. I'm so happy to have been a part of making this day a reality..."
i'm sure some other Disers can help hammer out the precise wording...

I completely agree with this also. Give a nice card with the frame and change the wording to sound a little more gentle. Something similar to the above quote would sound wonderful. I think your choice of wording is very nice rantnnravin.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

I think you have given pleanty but I don't need to remind her, I am sure she very much remembers the kindness you have shared with her. Have fun at the wedding!

 

[burberryplaid]

I'd say you are fine. What you have given already was more than enough!

 

[Justsyd2]

I think the picture frame will do. I'm sure she remembers and appreciates everything you've already done for her!

I agree with this. I feel that it would be a little tacky to "remind" her what you've done for her.

 

[StephMK]

I think you have given pleanty but I don't need to remind her, I am sure she very much remembers the kindness you have shared with her. Have fun at the wedding!

ITA! I think she might feel bad if you "remind" her. Unless she is one that typically takes everything she can get & is not generally thankful. Otherwise, if she has been appreciative along the way, I would not think she would "expect" anything else.

 

[Kellydelly]

I think the OP already gave the photo frame as a shower gift? I think it would be nice to give her an actual wedding gift. Nothing big, but a token gift or some cash would be nice. It depends on what it is in your heart/budget to do .

 

[pixiewings71]

I have to say I would feel really funny not giving something at the wedding. Gifts given at the shower don't count towards wedding gifts IMO. Altho you did give her a wonderful and generous gift of cash before the wedding I would stop and get her some nice wine glasses or something like that. Something around (or under) $20 would certainly be fine but I personally would be very uncomfortable not giving another gift. Of course if I misunderstood your OP and you are giving the frame at the wedding then that's perfect. Have fun at the wedding!

 

[LuvLDM]

I would give her a small gift and a nice card.

I'm astonished that anyone thinks it would be appropriate to *remind* the bride that you already gave her $300....that is beyond tacky.

 

[mdsoccermom]

I can't think of anything tackier than actually reminding the bride of the money that you gave her, and in a wedding card. That is so crass.

Give her a card and a small gift - you don't have to break the bank. But to actually remind her of the money you gave? That's just wrong.