Another one day at a time.

[6_Time_Momma]

Yesterday, as you know, was Gabrielle's funeral. We just had some relatives and a couple of close friends there. The rain was good enough to hold off until it was over. It was so hard to see that little white box there knowing that she was inside.

Today, I actually feel worse than I have this whole time. I feel like everyone around me (with the exception of DH) feels like it is time for me to start feeling better and just the opposite-I feel worse.

My husband and my MIL are pestering me as I am not eating. Nothing sounds good at all. I am not hungry either. I do have to call the doctor sometime today or tomorrow to set up my follow-up appointment.

I recieved a beautiful arrangement of cut flowers yesterday from my friends on the DIS It was beautiful and so wonderful to know what good, good people are here. Even my DH was impressed . Thank you.

There are so many people's posts that I want to post on (for congrats or sympathy), but I just haven't been able to. To those people, I truly, truly apologize.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Just a {hug}, Kristy.

 

[Kallison]

Give yourself time to grieve, don't worry about what others believe you should be feeling.

 

[Liz]

Just sending a (((((HUG))))) Kristy. Of course you aren't going to start feeling better right away. You need to allow yourself this time to feel sad and mourn. Thinking of you lots hon.

 

[bfeller]

Kristy, you will handle your grief in your own way. Everyone goes through the process at their own speed. Take your time. From my experience I found that I had to feel the hurt before I could move on. I also feel that a person never gets over a death, they can only make adjustments in their life. At least that is how I feel about the deaths that have occurred my life. Hope this little insight is helpful. I know you are hurting more than anyone can imagine. Take it easy, take good care of yourself, and take good care of your family. You are in my thoughts.

Betty

 

[GEM]

Just wanted you to know I'm still thinking about you.

 

[supercarrie]

More {{{HUGS}}}

 

[Mermaid02]

Hey Kristy.... I was gone last week..... I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself as best you can...... (((((hugs)))))

 

[wdw4us]

I have read the many posts about your beautiful little angel. I am so sorry for what you have gone through. I’ll keep you in my prayers and ask my mom to look out for the newest angel in heaven. Take care of yourself.

denise

 

[yepod]

Take care Kristy, {{{{hugs}}}}

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Kristy, take the time to grieve the loss of your little girl, however long it takes, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

{{{Hugs}}} and continued prayers.

 

[Goofyposter]

Groosch...Kristy....

I feel like everyone around me (with the exception of DH) feels like it is time for me to start feeling better

Yer know it's gonna take time....try not to feel any extra pressures as to how others think you should feel. This will always be a part of you....and right now is when it will hurt the most.

Please make sure you eat and sleep as best you can too. This is very important...if you're not, it will make you feel even worse physically...which will not help you emotionally, mentally or spiritually.

I'd suggest you take a bit of your own wisdom...which can be found in the thread title you selected. "One day at a time:

I would think Gabrielle might have wanted you to grieve...but also to focus on the rest of your family and friends for support,love and strenght.

{{{Hugs}}}

 

[nativetxn]

Kristy you have to do your grieving in your own time. Try to disregard what others might say. My heart is broken for you and for your family's loss, but especially for you {{{HUGS}}} sweetie. Remember that we are always here if you need to talk and we care <b> a lot</b>.

Katholyn

 

[glo]

Kristy...I have a very good friend who has stood by me through some difficult times...The person always reminds me of what is important in life. Honey, you have gone through a very difficult thing. You will need time to grieve. You will also need the support and love of those around you. Take care of you and your loved ones, do not worry about anything else...take it slow and time will heal....my friend is a pretty smart cookie, and has given me this advice over and over...I think that he is right. I hope it works for you too.

 

[Rajah]

Give yourself time to grieve, Kristy. It will take time.

*hugs*

 

[Michelle]

More {{{HUGS}}} Kristy. One day at a time.

Please do try and eat a little each day, you need to keep your strength up and recover physically from the birth. I know, I'm pestering you too, but it's because we all care about you.

Grief takes as long as it takes, and your heart will always ache for Gabrielle. You take as long as you need, no one can chart that course for you.

We're here.

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

Grieve all you want . Also remember your body is going through hormonal changes, and the blues will make you bluer this time.
You have suffered a major loss. Praying for you all.

 

[JAP]

Hang in there Kristy. Only time will heal how you feel about your girl. Move at your own pace and do not let those around you upset you too much. Most people really do mean well. Take care and lots of {{HUGS}}!!!

Jen

 

[Boots]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} and love to you.

 

[Dream]

I've been thinking about you Kristy. You have gotten some good supportive advice. I can only add one more...when you see your doctor for your check up, ask about a local support group for folks who have lost children. You will find the "I have walked in your shoes" empathy there that I feel you seeking now. It helped me. My prayers are with you.