MACI:
Haven't posted on this site for years, but thought I'd throw my two cents in worth.
Have traveled that route with kids that age (and other ages) many times. Hope to do it again this year. (we live in Oregon, so go down quite a bit).
Great age for kids at any of these places. (It really is a two to three week trip though to get it all in, but you can do quite a bit in a week or so).
Some thoughts. Our kids loved San Fransisco, (and so do we), but that can really be a week long trip in itself. Have some great trip memories (and pictures) of kids at pier 39 (Fisherman's wharf area), watching painted "still life" people, and sidewalk spray painting artists. (Carosel and sea lions). We also love the cable cars, and just hanging out at the various "park" areas along the pier near the Marine museum. The trip to Alcatraz is also really neat....(although older kids would probably enjoy it more). There is a neat fun park, It used to be called Marine World (north of San Fransisco), and also a fun factory tour through the Jelly Belly Factory (northeast of San Fran too).
The Golden Gate bridge and a walk through Muir woods, and fun at their museum of science and industry. (not to mention lots of fun water parks around the area).
Now for your trip thoughts. We like both Santa Cruz area and Monterey area, but they really are different paced. Santa Cruz boardwalk is fun for kids, and they have free concerts on Friday nights in the summer. There is a really fun (and realtively short - which your kids will appreciate) ride through the redwoods in an open air steam train, just north of Santa Cruz, I think it's in a town caled Felton. They have a cute little station, with a fun "Country" store and bar-b-que that the kids enjoyed. (They liked all the old time candy choices in jars). I believe they even had music on summer weekends. I'd probably opt for this with kids your ages, but then there is also Monterey, and the Aquarium which is really neat. (as well as Cannery Row). We were there when they were having an art show in the park which I really liked. The drive through 17 mile (through Pebble beach territory), near Carmel is also VERY beautiful. (And we have great pictures of that too - places to stop with picnic tables and have a lunch...if you don't mind the seagulls). There is also an old mission in Carmel, which is worth the visit.
Either one of these would take you all day, if you were stationed in San Jose.
There is also a fun park in San Jose, called Happy Hallow Park and Zoo. Easy to navigate, and your kids are the right age to enjoy it.
I agree with everyone else about staying in Yosemite (valley floor). It takes awhile to get to the bottom, but pretty easy drive from San Fransisco. The walls of granite are amazing and so are the falls. There are buses that take you around the park once you park your car. (Word of caution, use hand dissinfectant, there are alot of foreign tourists, and we got really sick with something like the Norwalk Virus?, we think from touching the hand rails on the buses....it was bad.) The drive back into L.A. will take you longer than you expect, so try to leave realatively early. (we went the opposite way (LA TO Yos), and got into our park hotel VERY late at night - not fun hunting in the dark).
Have a great trip, hope this helps. And I know you'll Enjoy Disneyland too!!!!!
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