An apology

[Talking Hands]

A while back there was a thread about boys in the ladies room. I expressed a very opinionated view and really took it too far. While I do not care for boys in women's restrooms if the are over the age of 7 or 8, in view for recent incidents locally I can understand why Mom's don't want them to go to the men's room on their own.
I do not apologize for my daughters' attitudes or actions. They are adults and I do not control. My apology is only for myself. I went too far and I am sorry.

 

[pumba]

you are a good person........

 

[phillybeth]

Although I didn't respond to that thread, I thought those moms were being a bit silly and overprotective. Now after what happened recently here in Philly (8 YO girl sexually assaulted and severly beaten in the Ladies room of a public library) I can understand. I feel bad that it took a terrible incident like that to open my eyes.

 

[nealymouse]

It was good of you to say you were sorry.

I have posted this before and I will give just a short run down again

Sept 11 2001 We were at Logan Airport, American Airlines terminal waiting for our 8:30 flight to Portland Maine.

I let my then 12 and 8 yr old DD's go to the lady room alone. You had to exit the boarding area and come back threw the exray machine. The bathrooms were within eye sight of me so I did not have a real problem letting them go alone.

My 12 yr old DD was the person behind one of the hyjackers. YES you read that right. After everything happend my DD was able to ID this guy threw the FBI.

My DD's do not go any where out of my sight anymore. The guilt I carried around after this about destroyed me.

Thank you for understanding why are children are velcro kids.

 

[Serena]

Lisa, at one point or another we all do or say something that in retrospect, we might not have. It takes a mature person to realize it and apologize.

 

[DebbieB]

Originally posted by nealymouse
It was good of you to say you were sorry.

I have posted this before and I will give just a short run down again

Sept 11 2001 We were at Logan Airport, American Airlines terminal waiting for our 8:30 flight to Portland Maine.

I let my then 12 and 8 yr old DD's go to the lady room alone. You had to exit the boarding area and come back threw the exray machine. The bathrooms were within eye sight of me so I did not have a real problem letting them go alone.

My 12 yr old DD was the person behind one of the hyjackers. YES you read that right. After everything happend my DD was able to ID this guy threw the FBI.

My DD's do not go any where out of my sight anymore. The guilt I carried around after this about destroyed me.

Thank you for understanding why are children are velcro kids.

Don't be so hard on yourself. No one could have expected what happened that day.

 

[nealymouse]

Thank you Deb. It was the worst feeling I had ever experenced as a mother in my life. I just want my babies to stay babies intill they are 35 ok ok 45 !!!

Thank you.

 

[DebbieB]

You're Welcome. I hadn't heard your story before. Did you make it home before the planes were grounded? When did your daughter realize she saw him?

 

[thumpersis]

Talkinghands apologizing wasn't easy. Good for you.

 

[Lanshark]

Impressive...

 

[worm761]

thank you. as a mom of a big 7 year old boy. i am a single mom. the only option for me is to take him in the womens room.

 

[joshsmom]

Talking Hands-

I was part of that thread and we even talked through PM after it was shut down. I try not to flame people because I know that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. As the single mother of an 8 year old boy, I TRULY appreciate your posting this. DS's safety, health, and wellbeing are the most important thing to me in this world!! Thanks for posting.

 

[Mskanga]

Originally posted by Talking Hands
in view for recent incidents locally I can understand why Mom's don't want them to go to the men's room on their own.

Talkinghands , these incidents have been happening for many years prior to 9/11 , you know that very well. It's sad that only the recent incidents made you understand that. I'm sorry, I can forgive but not forget that those of us who try to protect our children were called bad mothers and our children were called brats.
My opinion hasn't changed.

 

[ScarlettO]

Sometimes it takes an incident "close to home" to wake up to a situation and realize the horror of it.

A couple of years ago our Parish priest, who was at my children's Catholic School daily, resigned because of sexual misconduct with a young person many years ago. That made the Church's coverup of Priests pedophile incidents very real to me.very

 

[Robinrs]

Thanks for the apology, TH... that takes true class.

I didn't participate in the thread, nor did I see it. I never apologize or try to explain my protection of my child. My Mother never did and I never will.

Watch a Momma lion protecting her cub... you'll understand.

 

[Mskanga]

Originally posted by ScarlettO
Sometimes it takes an incident "close to home" to wake up to a situation and realize the horror of it.
B]very [/B]

You are right , but if it had happened to my children 10 or 12 years ago, it would have woken me up then , not just recently.

 

[Lorix2]

I sort of remember the thread, but don't remember why you "went too far".....I can see both sides to the situation....but in this day and age, we've got to do anything and everything to protect our children.

Apologizing is one of the hardest things to do....very impressive indeed. We all get passionate about how we feel at times, glad you're still with us

 

[Kermit]

It takes a big person to apologise.

I didn't see that particular thread, but I know from past threads why your DDs don't like boys in restrooms. It's a tough position. I completely identify with them, but I also completely identify with moms of boys, too, especially since I am one of them. I wish there were an easy way to keep everyone happy, but unfortunately, there just isn't for now.