Am i wrong?

[erinlovesmelvin]

Oooo

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Erin,

Here is something else we have all gone through. In the end you just have to decide what is best for you and your DF. Sometimes that means have alot less people there. Some people have just decided to have themselves and their DF. My best friend can't be at mine. I understand that. But thankfully she is very happy I am having my dream wedding.

GL with this one!

 

[FLParadisevilla]

Have your wedding where and how you want it! What your friend is forgetting is that ITS YOUR WEDDING DAY NOT HERS!
If she wants to be married in NJ thats great if she wants to be married in Timbucktoo thats great if you cant afford to go where she wants to get married thats fine! But its your wedding and not hers!
Just plan what you want and enjoy your day!

 

[TinkBride]

Food for thought: Would you tell her how to plan her wedding?

You are not being selfish in my opinion, and if others think you are, isn't your wedding day the day to get exactly what you and your DF want?

 

[happylalagirl]

Erin, we are from NJ too and we had one of our bridesmaids back out also. She told me she just couldn't afford to do it. I respect that. But that doesn't mean you have to change your wedding to accommodate her. This is your day, not hers. When she gets married, she can make her own decisions... until then, keep the Disney wedding of your dreams.

 

[cryssi]

what they said...it's YOUR day so YOU do what YOU (and DF) want!

 

[dannirose]

Erin, don't feel guilty about having YOUR wedding at the location of YOUR choosing - that is exactly how it should be (coming from yet another Disney bride catching much flack for the location choice).

 

[MiaBella05]

I really regret that i am not going to have my wedding at disney!! Most of family thought it was outragious and stupid. No one seemed to care what i wanted!! My advice is to do what you want, it is your day and as long as people are willing to come than make your dream come true!!

 

[tchan03]

I think That person wasn't very respectful to you. Forget about what these people said and move on !
Plan your wedding the way you and your love one want!

 

[FormrCastMbr]

She should have respectfully dropped out and not said those hurtful things. This is you day and she has no say in how you want to spend it...I would distance myself from her for now...you do not need anyone bringing you down. It sounds like she is jealous...take it from an old, 2nd time bride!!!

Have a great wedding!

 

[Scillalee]

if it was all up to ME I would have had a WDW, but being that the folks are paying and 400 guests is too expensive, and that my family would be disappointed I stayed in MA, and we're having a disneymoon! So I need to live vicariously through you, so don't worry about who can come, who can't.......IT'S YOUR DAY! SHOOO!

 

[sarah_n_brian2006]

Sorry to burst her bubble, but who's wedding is it anyway? (No pun intended). People say that all the time to me, and I have felt that way (mistake) too. Honestly, if it's your money and your DF agrees, a friend should respect that and not ruin this for you. I lost one of my bridesmaids too (it was a good thing). She was always saying things that made me feel less than I am. Truth is, if you want it at WDW, have it. If she can't come, her loss, she'll be missing one hell of a party!! She could be jealous and trying to justify herself in the wrong fashion. But good luck and do not let anyone bring you down.

 

[sarah_n_brian2006]

I had a friend like that (who's not invited now). But if she doesn't want to come, it's ok, at least you know where you stand to that person. It's kinda harsh to say. But if she can't come, that's fine. But why add insult to injury? What satisfaction would she get? None, like others said, she's jealous and trying to come to terms. My advice, accept her invitation retraction, and do not mention the wedding to her. Chances are, if you mention it to her, this is all she'll do. My maid of honor was like that. She was always telling me how rediculous it was for me to spend all that money. (But she was planning for me and a bunch of her friends to go an hour away for 2 nights to a casino hotel! On our own tab!!) Let her go on with life, but know that chances are, this is nature's way of showing her true feelings.

 

[allisonswonderland]

My best friend could nott "afford" to be in mine she is a lawyer and would not even really look into it based her decision on incorrect info telling me that the cheapest moderate hotel was 199 per night and she coul not go - I thought 1. that is Wilderness Lodge/AKL, stay at an All Star 2. she had a whole year to save - so then when I told her she had a year to save she said I was being spoiled becase I expected her to change her life style (save money) to come to my wedding- I told her that I would do anything to be at her wedding and I just did not understand where she was coming from - then at some point she mentioned something about me asking my dad to pay for her - which just made me mad - so now she thinks I am spoiled and will not talk to me--- Friends..... sorry that this happens

 

[Jumpin'Jellyfish]

My family is going through the same thing with my wedding this coming NOvember and now my sister just got engaged and is planning a cruise wedding that following June...you can't plan a wedding for everyone else...

It's your dream...plan it the way YOU want it, and if people don't like that...tough.

 

[heathrow42]

She's probably feeling pretty bad and upset about not being able to come.. and she may not be handling it very well. If she's been looking forward to it for a long time, it can be a big disappointment to not be able to go. If you have a really good friendship, try being supportive and understanding, and let her know that you understand and she'll be missed .. try to find another way to involve her, and spend some time with her.

We had one Bridesmaid who had to back out and the best man and one groomsmen! They were some of our oldest and closest friends and it was disappointing.. but couldn't be helped. Sure, we missed them, and we knew how disappointed they were and how much they wanted to go.. but the day went on. When we started on this, we accepted that it would be a big expense and that not everyone would be able to be there. They still helped with the wedding and we are sending them their favors (Christmas ornaments) and copies of the video. We still love them!

Goodluck!
--Heather

 

[kd.pavilionwed]

My family was exactly the same, me and my finance were origionally getting married 4 years ago. My family and his were trying to take control that much, i ended up canceling the wedin.
This time round we have booked exactly were we wanted to get married- wed pavillion disney. there is just the two of us going but i have come to terms wiv that.
My mam is coming around, slowly but surely, we r having a party when we return to the uk, so every1 is involved! It also gives me the opertunity to wear my dress twice!
I rang the disney co-ordinators on the phone(wiv us being in UK) they are so helpful!! Cant wait for day
Good luck on yr day!!!

 

[disbridemimi]

We have decided not to have a bridal party, due to the expense of travel to our wedding. Oh, and all the hassle of friends and family members fighting about who gets chosen and who does not.

Would she come if she were just a guest and not a bridesmaid?


Don't let her ruin your plans, there will be a lot of haters that come after her, you have to learn yo ignore it. She will not be the only one. After the wedding, all those that came will tell you how fun it was!

DOn't let other people plan your day.

 

[WDWBride04/19/2010]

I think that's a bunch of crap. My DF talked about having the wedding in the Boston area a lot before I took him to Disney, but after going there there hasn't been much said about that. One of the girls I was gonna have as one of my bridesmaids did the same thing (not the not logical part, but still), and since then she hasn't been on any lists. Not to say I'm cutting her out of my life, just that, because I'm not gonna deal w/the "I don't think I can do it, but keep me informed". I don't think so. So don't feel like crap. I have wanted my wedding in Disney since I was 8, so I know what it's like. It's your wedding, and if it's what you want, that's all that matters.

 

[luv2kick22]

erin,
You have to do what makes you happy!!We are origionally from NJ and all our family and friends are from NJ we planned a nj wedding to appease everyone else and due to deaths in our families My abuela, my fiances mother and a bridesmaid we decided to do what really made us happy it was too hard to have the wedding in NJ and I always loved disney(my first trip i was in the womb).You only live this life once. So in the end all your going to have is you memories and the people who really care will work it out for you its in FL not the moon. When there is a will there is a way i am sure were going to have a BM thats going to back out but to be honest were not getting upset over it it is what it is if 50 or 150 people show up its going to be about the two of us and our marrage. So keep you head up and dont let the drama overwhelm you move on and keep going if the situation changes great but if it doesnt thats ok too Getting married @ disney is a once in a lifetime opportunity so take it good luck if you need more advice or wanna talk feel free to contact me i know where your @ everyone has an opinion and they al want what is convienant for them.