Am I wrong to me upset?? Long, as usual..

[happily single]

After a 5 year break in our friendship I rekindled a friendship with a long and dear friend. Our children are all the same ages, give or take a tiny bit. My middle child has PPD/MR and loves loves loves his "auntie". He's content to just sit at her house and watch tv.

Dear friend is upset with me because I don't condone her cheating on her husband of almost 20 years to have a fling with her personal trainer. I am a family law paralegal and have told her(at her request) what her child support would be. She wasn't happy with the amount I told her, and she hasn't spoken to me since. Right, like it's my fault, you get what you get and that's how it is in RI.

I've tried calling several times, no answer. It was her birthday, as the usual tradition my whole family called and sang Happy Birthday to her voice-mail. My PPD/MR son has called and left 3 messages telling her he loves her, can he see her, etc. She has yet to return one call.

I'm thinking i need to think of something clever to post on Facebook so she knows what a piece of **** she really is. It's fine if you don't want to be my friend, but you are totally ignoring and hurting my child.

PS Her other two kids have continued to speak with my oldest child.

 

[NHdisneylover]

After a 5 year break in our friendship I rekindled a friendship with a long and dear friend. Our children are all the same ages, give or take a tiny bit. My middle child has PPD/MR and loves loves loves his "auntie". He's content to just sit at her house and watch tv.

Dear friend is upset with me because I don't condone her cheating on her husband of almost 20 years to have a fling with her personal trainer. I am a family law paralegal and have told her(at her request) what her child support would be. She wasn't happy with the amount I told her, and she hasn't spoken to me since. Right, like it's my fault, you get what you get and that's how it is in RI.

I've tried calling several times, no answer. It was her birthday, as the usual tradition my whole family called and sang Happy Birthday to her voice-mail. My PPD/MR son has called and left 3 messages telling her he loves her, can he see her, etc. She has yet to return one call.

I'm thinking i need to think of something clever to post on Facebook so she knows what a piece of s*it she really is. It's fine if you don't want to be my friend, but you are totally ignoring and hurting my child.

PS Her other two kids have continued to speak with my oldest child.

I think you are in the right to be upset--besides feelings are what they are. I agree you should not be expected to condone an affair. Maybe she is jsut avoiding you because she embarrassed that she even told you how she was feelign about this stuff and now does not know what to say or do

However, I think it would be very immature and foolish to post anything about that on facebook.

How long ago did you rekindle this friendship? Did SHE encourage that kind of closeness with your son or did you or he initiate that? If she was not the one who wanted to be super close to him I think you really need to back off there even if your friendship otherwise gets back on track.

 

[scottishduffy]

It sounds like she no longer wants to continue the friendship. I would back off and give her space.

I would also encourage your middle child to stop calling. I know he likes his Auntie, but apparently she does not want to continue in the relationship and he would just be hurt.

Don't put anything on Facebook, that is just immature. Seriously, only middle schoolers do stuff like that. If you dissaprove of her that much then just end the friendship. She doesn't sound like the type of person you want to hang out with anyway.

 

[Mimi1965]

I dont think your friend is obligated towards your child either

Sounds like you have too much invested in this "friendship"

 

[The Mystery Machine]

It sounds like she no longer wants to continue the friendship. I would back off and give her space.

I would also encourage your middle child to stop calling. I know he likes his Auntie, but apparently she does not want to continue in the relationship and he would just be hurt.

Don't put anything on Facebook, that is just immature. Seriously, only middle schoolers do stuff like that. If you dissaprove of her that much then just end the friendship. She doesn't sound like the type of person you want to hang out with anyway.

Nicely put.

 

[ksjayhawks]

I am not sure what you are upset about? That she is ignoring you or that she is ignoring your one child.

I would step back and look at why there was a 5 year break in your friendship. She obviously has other things that are important to her now, and you and your PPD/MR son are not high on her list. She has no obligation to your son, so as a pp said, have him quit calling.

Sounds like the friendship is over, so it best to let it be and think twice before starting up again unless you can take the friendship on her terms. I would not put anything on FB; all you would accomplish there is making you look bad and immature.

Drop it and move on.

 

[rie'smom]

It sounds like she no longer wants to continue the friendship. I would back off and give her space.

I would also encourage your middle child to stop calling. I know he likes his Auntie, but apparently she does not want to continue in the relationship and he would just be hurt.

Don't put anything on Facebook, that is just immature. Seriously, only middle schoolers do stuff like that. If you dissaprove of her that much then just end the friendship. She doesn't sound like the type of person you want to hang out with anyway.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

What is PPD/MR?

 

[Wishing on a star]

I'm thinking i need to think of something clever to post on Facebook so she knows what a piece of s*it she really is. It's fine if you don't want to be my friend, but you are totally ignoring and hurting my child.

WOW!!!!!

Whoa!!!!!!!!!
She owes your child absolutely nothing.
It is WRONG to put your children in the middle... period.
And, FACEBOOK...... as mentioned, are you both middle-schoolers?

She doesn't sound like she is the kind of person that you really want yourself, and your kids, to be friends with....
Go on your own way... End of story....

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

If you act childish and post something on facebook you will only be enforcing her decision to stay away from you and your family and make her look like the mature person.

Besides it doesn't sound like this is the type of person you want your children to be hanging out with in the first place.

 

[wdwmom2]

If you act childish and post something on facebook you will only be enforcing her decision to stay away from you and your family and make her look like the mature person.

Besides it doesn't sound like this is the type of person you want your children to be hanging out with in the first place.

What she said!!!

 

[mommasita]

I am sorry you are hurting right now. If you have something to get off your chest, why don't you send it to her privately through email or mail. But when I see these messages on FB or anywhere ]I tend to think it is High School Drama..LOL. Drama students ok, adults not so much.

Be larger than that.

The hardest part will be with your DS. Only you know how he will deal and understand if you tell him the truth. Auntie is having hard times, and when Auntie is better, she may reach out for us.

Hugs again