Am I Selfish????

[VolleyballQt07]

my mom started a new job like a month ago. she hasn't worked for 7 yrs. anyways, i haven't been able to spend "quality time" with her.......she's always at work or she's cleaning or is busy with my brother or sister so i get left in the shadows. well, i finally thought that i would be able to spend time with her but i was wrong. it was this past sunday.......my brother went fishing with my dad and my sister went to a wedding shower with my grandma.......so she was ALL mine! we were supposed to go out to lunch and go shopping. we jsut went to lunch......i really wanted to go shopping with her......not so much to buy things but to talk to her.....you know about boys, school, my life, anything. but we didn't go and i was heart broken. so we came home and i went upstairs to clean my pig-pen(room). while i was cleaning, i started crying. i felt so hurt. alls i wanted to do was spend time with her. i haven't had just me and mom. my brother, sister, or dad have always been in the way. so i stopped cleaning and wrote an emotional entry in my journal. i decided to email it to her so she could know how i feel and now i regret it. i realized i basically told her that she isn't enough time with me. now heres the thing, there's a 6 yr difference between me and my sister.8 between my brother. so i had the first 6 yrs of my life with her....all to myself. but that ws then, this is now.so am i selfish for wanting to spend time with my mom only?????

 

[AKLgirl]

no way! i dont think your selfish- im an only child, but i stil hardly get time w/my mom. i dont think your selfish at all!!!
And remember- lots of kids feel the same way you do!

 

[Princess Ash]

No, I do not think that you are being selfish at all. And I think that writing out your true feelings and then emailing them to her, (as long as the email wasn't rude? IDK what you said it in)...was a very mature way to handle things...please keep us updated.

 

[EeyoreFan1]

That's not selfish at all! I think its great that you want to spend time with your mom! My mom travels about once or twice a month, and I never see her..but im used to it. I guess you could say that my dad is like your mom in the fact that he's my best friend, although me and my mom do..sort of..spend time together..but I'm fine with it the way it is.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

That's not selfish at all! I think its great that you want to spend time with your mom! My mom travels about once or twice a month, and I never see her..but im used to it. I guess you could say that my dad is like your mom in the fact that he's my best friend, although me and my mom do..sort of..spend time together..but I'm fine with it the way it is.

my parents are the other way around.....my dad works outta town so he travels like 3-4 tims a week. i've gotten used to it though. but when my dad is home, he's my sports buddy! lol.

 

[EeyoreFan1]

Aww! Lol. I hope you enjoy your tags, and that everything ges smoothly with your mom.

 

[Lil_Tink]

Not at all. We all feel like that sometimes. I think that you should maybe talk to your mom about it. I have been in that place too, having an autistic brother. But just always remeber your the oldest, so you are the most mature and your mom knows that you can take care of you self which you younger siblings cant as well. And dont forget she loves you just as much as your other siblings, she probly just knows you are more independent than your siblings.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

Not at all. We all feel like that sometimes. I think that you should maybe talk to your mom about it. I have been in that place too, having an autistic brother. But just always remeber your the oldest, so you are the most mature and your mom knows that you can take care of you self which you younger siblings cant as well. And dont forget she loves you just as much as your other siblings, she probly just knows you are more independent than your siblings.

thanks!

 

[Lil_Tink]

thanks!

Your welcome.

 

[LoveWDW]

I agree, not selfish, and she should know how you feel. Something that occurred to me, part of what she is doing that takes possible Mom time away is cleaning. I'll bet you can help her clean and get some one-on-one time. Washing dishes together is a great time to talk, as is changing beds, etc. Good luck! I hope that you'll post back soon that things are looking up.

 

[Daisymae26]

I agree, not selfish, and she should know how you feel. Something that occurred to me, part of what she is doing that takes possible Mom time away is cleaning. I'll bet you can help her clean and get some one-on-one time. Washing dishes together is a great time to talk, as is changing beds, etc. Good luck! I hope that you'll post back soon that things are looking up.

Wow, that's a great idea to spend some one-on-one time with your mom! And no, I don't think you are being selfish at all! We're here if you need us!

 

[VolleyballQt07]

thanks everyone!!! today she got to go in at 12:30 and my brother and sister were outside like 10-12 so i got to spend a little time with her........

 

[Pirana]

no its not selfish<3
I know how you feel
I was the youngest in my family for 7years I have 2 older siblings who are 11 and 7years older then me s i was used to getting different forms of simple attention.
I but do feel like you sometimes when it comesto my oyunger siblings.
because a few months ago my acted like we were going to a girls day together andwell we were also going out to lunch and shopping.well when we were in the car she told mehow she invitedone of her friends to come with us to lunch i was crushed .
and she never seemed to get how upset i was.
everything is fine between us now.
But maybe your email will get a chance for both of you to talk. maybe you couldtell yourmom about stuff you want to do and tell i was thinking maybe we could go see this new movie together this weekend or something like that.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

well, our relationship is starting to look a little better! today, she got off work early so we went to getg our hair cut......i accidentlly got to much off but its still cute!