Am I really crazed? Who else's DH (or DW) doesn't get it?!

[bridgettesmom]

DH has resisted ,but, I kept planning and talking about our trips and he gets involved and actually really enjoys himself when we visit.I accused him of being a "Disney hater" and he got insulted .I have actually "caught" him looking at the boards and 2 days ago he was pricing car rentals for our upcoming trip.I have to say,I really love the man for "understanding" my need to be with Mickey .

 

[corky805]

I'm with you!!! My HD accused me of being OBSESSED this weekend. Can you IMAGINE????

This of course did not make me happy as I reminded him that he should be grateful that he had a loving wife (me) to help make this the trip of a lifetime!!!

I feel your pain!!

 

[dturner]

Glad to see I'm not the only one out there who's DH just doesn't "get it."

Last night I was told by DH "I don't want to talk about this trip everyday until September" well, ok, I won't say anything which means DH has no say in anything either. He thinks I'm totally obsessed with Disney (he even made my sign on with AOL "disneyjunkie"). DH has only been to DL though so this September will be his first visit to WDW, last September I left DH at home and took DS (7) and we had a blast. Hoping this trip will turn DH into a Disney fanatic like me.

 

[Pugsley]

I'm not married, but I’ve definitely had this problem with friends. Since I enjoy the planning, and it certainly makes the trip run more smoothly, I really don’t understand why the planning makes me some kind of weirdo -- but whatever! I find myself having to make plans without them knowing it. I’ll have the schedule all planned out, but instead of letting them know, each day I’ll just say, hmm maybe today would be a good time to go to Magic Kingdom, etc. I’m going soon with a friend who’s never been there before (and she doesn’t know about my excessive planning). She made a comment to me about how strange her cousin is because she had made dinner reservations for almost every day their family was there. I just said, oh, yeah, I wouldn’t do that! So I guess I won’t be making PS’s for when we go; I’ll just have to conveniently get us near the restaurant I want to go to at meal time and just hope we can get in without a PS!
Whenever I take someone there, they're just amazed with how smoothly everything goes; they don't understand how much work it is to make everything appear effortless)!

 

[Sonar]

I was the "obsessive" planner on our recent trip. I hadn't been in a long time, so I took it upon myself to cram every bit of knowledge I could find to make the trip easier. My wife would just leave me alone when I would read books, or the DIS, and at times would tell me I'm putting too much effort into it. In the middle of our first full day (when we had finished most of the stuff on our list at MK), she finally admitted she appreciated my planning b/c we had done so much, in a relatively short amount of time.

 

[photobob]

Here's another male who is the WDW/nerd/freak/planner. BTW I'm not the planner with anything else, just WDW trips. I researched and researched and lucked into a tremendous rate of POFQ($74 per night) for my family and my SIL's family. When they closed the resort for rehab, I got us upgraded to YC for $104 per night. When we arrived and everybody so what a fabulous place we got for such an obsurdly low rate suddenly everyone was singing the Disney Nerd's praises. DW said she wouldn't make fun anymore since I came through with such tremendous accomadations....

 

[Snow Shoe]

Well I'm the DH that got all but one in our family nuts about Disney, so I guess that makes me an exception!! I do all the planning, PS making along with everyones input, determine flights, ground transportation, re-new AP's, etc...... 30 days before leaving, I make a countdown calendar to mark days off of. My enthusiasm sometime gets out of control and my family has to real me back in. The people around us that just don't get it are, many of our friends, neighbors and a lot of extended family. I just smile at them and let them think what they want. I know I'm crazy as a fox!

 

[kimmypar]

It is so nice to hear that there are other people just like me? DH knows, once I decide to make reservations that he will be hearing about the trip everyday until the day we leave! Which is about 6 months. And, of course, I have to watch that vacation video that they send you over and over and over! I'm lucky though, because he understands that all the planning and preparation allows us a crowd free vacation!

 

[Alice28]

My DH liked to help plan, but not until a month or so before we left. He calls me a "Disney Freak" but in a kind way. But I tell you what- - - when we were at Disney, there were several times where he and the rest of our family were impressed and grateful that I had planned so much; it made some things go much smoother.

 

[athyng]

Hi, my name is Amy and I'm an obsessive Disney planner.

I'm planning now for my September 2004 trip. I know it's a long way off, but I just can't wait ! My fiance is tired of hearing about it, and asked me to please not talk about it everyday for the next year plus. Now I just try to talk about it once a week. I'll say "Just give me ten minutes to talk about our honeymoon, that's it ". And when I'm done talking he usually says , " you already told me all that ". Don't get me wrong, he appreciates all my planning, he's just not as into it. Although, he will be grinning ear to ear when we drive through the Disney gates.

 

[Poohbear123]

I am Nuts for Disney as DH calls me. Yea, well he is just palin NUTS! He has his Antiques, I have DISNEY!

 

[Castillo Mom]

My DH also asked me not to talk about our trip all the time. He doesn't even want me to tell him about any of the restaurants or details of the attractions. So far all he knows is where we're staying and the length of our stay and that's all he wants to know! Every once in a while he'll say something like, " Oh we have to start shopping for a new digital camera," or " I want Teva sandals for vacation." I know way, way, way deep down inside he must be excited. Maybe he's afraid something will happen and we won't be able to go and he doesn't want to be disappointed. It's true that a year, two months and twenty three days is a long way off but I know we'll make it! Oh well, at least I have the kids to talk to. I think the closer we get to 8/14/03, he'll slowly come around. Keeping my fingers crossed!

 

[Planogirl]

My DH doesn't get the Disney thing at all. If it were up to him, he wouldn't go back and he usually doesn't go with us at all pleading off with "it's not worth the money (!) and I can't take off work for that". Yeah, right.

Our friends and relatives don't really understand it either unfortunately. Some have gone and don't plan to go back. Some go occasionally and some have no intention of ever going. Sigh... I really need this website.

 

[manchurianbrownbear]

Before our 2000 trip, I was the skeptical DH, but after seeing how DW's planning paid off I was very grateful! She has done most of the planning for our trip this year, but I've gone from skeptic to "cheerleader".

My biggest concern in 2000 is something I still worry about; getting so excited about the upcoming trip and then having something go wrong. Like kids getting sick or something. After the big build up, we'd be devasted!

 

[FFerret]

My hubby DEFINITELY does NOT get it

But somehow I talked him into a FTP--so woohoo!!!!
(happy ferret dance)

We'll be there in October--I'll be the Pale Blonde with Grumpy--stop us and say howdy!

 

[jjarman]

My Sister, on the other hand, laminates miniature maps of the parks for everyone in her party so that they can carry them around and they won't be damaged by humidity, sweat or spilled liquids. I find that charming. Obsessive, but charming.
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I have to laugh. I copied the touring maps out of the back of the Unofficial Guide for our trip last year and laminated them. They did come in handy and fit in my fanny pack just right.

 

[jjarman]

DH is definitely not a Disney fanatic like me. DS age 13 is getting pretty close to a Disney fanatic. DH did appreciate my planning last summer but didn't really come out and say it. I liked the copies of the menus I had printed out and taken with us to WDW. He was able to pick and choose where he wanted to eat. DS and I didn't care where we ate. We were at WDW and that was all that mattered. DH did say he enjoyed the trip but didn't want to go back so DS and I are planning our next trip for 2004. Now I have to break it to DH that it may be a 7 night trip instead of a 5 night trip. If they keep the Fairytale Package in place until then I can go the longer trip, staying at AS instead of POR and it will only be $127 more. THat includes my estimate of the extra food too.

 

[millerglass]

You can count me in as one of the males who has a wife that doesn't quite get it until we are there. She is amazed at the little tricks, shortcuts, where to stand, when to get there, who to ask, where to stay, and all of the other things that I spend hours finding out about. And like so many others, I am the one that she tells everyone to contact before they make any vacation plans.

Some people say that when you know all of this stuff it takes away from the surprises. My point is that if I didn't know all about a lot of these little things, we would probably miss 90% of them.

Eric (Disney Husband who is all there)

 

[PatriciaH]

I am SO glad DH loves WDW! I would be really sad if he did not even want to come on a trip with me! I would hope even if he did not like it he would still go once in a while and try to have a good time because he knew how much it meant to me.

The first trip DH and I took to WDW together was in December of 1996. It was really cold and DH got very sick during the trip. He did not have a great time but he still went back. He knew how much I loved it. Now he loves WDW and we are moving to Orlando next spring.

I am a travel agent and some people will not even let me tell them about a great deal somewhere because they got sick there once or had one bad experience and "will NEVER go back there." That is too bad.

 

[jimmalru80]

DW wanted us to go to WDW for years and I just never did get it. I kept telling her I did not want to go to an "amusement park". She kept hinting at it after DS was born and then after our twin DD's came into our lives. It took six more years and I gave in. Our first trip ('96) was 5 days, 4 nights and I WAS HOOKED. At first it was every two years, then every year, and I can't imagine a vacation somewhere else. And I'm the planner, the schedule maker and the trip "booker". Did a complete 360 after the first trip. One week to go!!!