Am I overreacting?

[pixiefairy]

Holy sheep! Just finished reading the whole thread. I'm SO sorry you had to deal with this...but thank goodness for your neighbor! I have a neighbor like that...they can be invaluable. I'd seriously get a copy of the utilites bill and certified mail it to her. May not get anywhere but it'd make me feel good, lol. I had a good friend years ago who moved it with me and proceeded to treat my apartment as her party den. She even hooked up the phone and gas in her name. So when she didn't pay rent and I kicked her out, all those lovely bills she ran up were in HER name and she got 'em...and she had to pay them. She was MAD..but oh well. Sometimes true colors show themselves in the most unexpected ways. As far as her lovely message to you...wow. She's got her priorities all messed up. YOU are the problem? Yeah...ok. I do think that her dh needs to know. But maybe let him know, then cut off contact. Don't keep the lines of communication open with him after that. She obviously won't spill the beans. OP. Thank goodness for your dad...I'm glad the unknown guy wasn't there when dad showed up. You never know how people will respond to being confronted. I am getting a little laugh over him finishing the laundry....I might have just tossed everything and oh well.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Two words for your "friend": Low Life

 

[dzorn]

Two words for your "friend": Low Life

I must agree Dis classic.

Denise in MI

 

[southernbohemian]

As someone else said, I would tell the ex-friend's husband the facts as you know them. You don't know for sure she was having an affair, but the husband deserves the facts so he can make an educated decision about his marriage. She sounds like complete scum and he'd be lucky to get rid of her, but I wouldn't tell him that.

 

[horseshowmom]

she's got some nerve, calling you screaming about ruining her marriage, lol, after what she did! the only person who ruined her marriage was HER, and she's mad because she got caught. i wouldn't bother to call her back, but i'd certainly have a talk with her husband, and tell him what i knew. if i were in the husband's shoes, i'd speak to your neighbor, and get a description of the guy-he probably knows the boyfriend. the only ones i feel any sympathy for in this situation is you, OP, and your ex-friend's husband.

I've never understood why people get mad and try to blame other people when they get caught doing what they're doing.

And just that made me think about the longer stay. I'm so sorry but this hidden key concept is as old as the world.

A hidden key is unfindable for me old miss Dementia but believe me people like your friend have nose or extra sense for such things.
I hope I'm wrong but lets wait and see.

It doesn't sound like it there was any reason for it to cross the woman's mind prior to this. Plus, the neighbor only started seeing the people during the timeframe described by the OP.

Dang, with "friends" like that you don't need enemies. You know what? the husband has a right to know, even though you don' t know every little detail. The moment she betrayed you with turning your home into possibly her own love shack, it became ugly.

I"m kind of kooky, but I would have sent the stuff via messenger/delivery to said harlott's house, maybe something of hers was in all that that the husband would recognize.

I LOVE that idea!


OP, I don't know what I would say to the husband. I probably wouldn't call back, but I might answer the phone if he called again. It's hard to say.

 

[ols386]

I still wouldn't talk to the ex-friend or her husband. I might be tempted to talk to the husband and tell him what you know, but I wouldn't, mainly because your ex-friend (his wife) sounds a bit....off.

 

[Pig Pen]

We just had something like this happen to us. We bought a place in Winter Haven and it is vacant most of the time. Suddenly a few months ago the electric bill tripled, and then we got a water bill for thousands of gallons. I called my parents who live a few towns over as we thought we had a water leak or something. They checked and nothing seemed amiss, until my dad noticed the neighbor's water hose and freshly washed car...and the ground under our outside faucet was damp.

Then he noticed her electric golf cart parked suspiciously close to our outside electrical outlet...

So, he asked her...have you been using the water and electricity? Of course she denied it. He proceeded to turn off the breakers and put a padlocked box on our outside faucet.

The next month our bills were back to normal. A month after that the neighbor passed away!

 

[OceanAnnie]

I don't think you have to tell the husband anything. He has to know now. I'm sure the police put a lot of it out there. The husband wanting to talk to you is just a formality in it all. It would just be another thing for him to present to his wife for her to deny. He has all the information he needs. If the former friend is screaming messages to you that you ruined her marriage, he is totally on to her. Her gig is up in more ways than one.

You could send him the bills for the electric and such (through the realtor). That would tell him a lot.

 

[SandrA9810]

Knowing my dad they are probably fluffed and folded all nice too. lol.

That's funny of your dad to do.

I'm amazed your dad gave a burgler/tresspasser back his stuff! I highly doubt this guy thought he had permission to live there. I would have taken it to a dumpster.

At the same time, you don't want to open another can of worms with the guy saying "she destroyed his belongings". The legal system can be a nasty mess even when the person deserves it. Honestly I find it to be the best solution. Don't need anything biting her in the butt after all this.

 

[flamingglobessigmund]

I just read through the whole thread with my jaw dropping at the updates.

You know what's sad is that your friend from 7th grade did you like this, and is trying to turn it around on you.

I'm glad to read it was just a few days of hosting this sordid business unknowingly and you got it resolved.

 

[Disney Doll]

I would not respond to the ex-friend or her husband. Let them figure out their own marriage problems.

I might consider adding an alarm systemt to the house. So if someone tries to break in to vandalize (which I have a funny feeling the ex-friend is going to do), there will be an alarm and the police will be there.

What a story!!!!!